I don't mind. I think it's because I just love my oregnancy body and if someone wants to feel the belly, no worries. I don't think more than one person ever touched without asking though.
SS- depends on the person. Hubby yes he can touch it.. I'm on the fence about other family members and friends.. I'll decide later on. Strangers.. .no effing way
I think it depends on the person. I did get my first unwanted belly attention this afternoon at work. My coworkers wife came in & came right over to my desk where I was typing away & she went right for the belly. Freaked me the fuck out.
I won't know until I'm in the actual situation but I think I'll mostly allow it. Growing up as a redhead people asked all the time if they could touch my hair, and being Hispanic my grandma always let some one touch my hair if they asked. I know it's odd but it's an old superstition to avoid Ojo or "the evil eye". As much as I hate to admit it, that weird superstition has rubbed off on me. https://www.rice.edu/projects/HispanicHealth/Courses/mod7/ojo.html
I don't like people rubbing my belly (husband can if he wants), it feels condescending if anyone aside from my husband does it.
On a side note I get kind of annoyed by pregnant women that constantly rub their own bellies especially when they don't even really have a belly! Like they are trying to get people to ask if they are pregnant. I don't even run my own belly, unless it's by accident.
Totally ok with family doing it. They get SO excited it makes me even more excited. Strangers...no clue. I must have a "don't come the heck near me" face because no one has ever even tried lol.
SS here. In general, Dont touch me. But if you are my mom or someone I'm close to you can touch, but I prefer you ask first. If you are a stranger and you try to touch me (I've never had this happen, but I've read a lot of stories) you better watch yourself, I may throat punch you.
If anyone besides my husband try to run my belly I will throat punch them. WTF do people think it isnokay to invade my personal space and touch me just because I'm pregnant is mind baffling to me.
But when strangers touch my *out of belly* kids?!?? Arghhhhh!!! That's so weird to me!!!
I'm with ya!! I don't really care! I lost my modesty and any sense of privacy a long time ago! But hands off the newborn babes!
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SS- depends on the person. Hubby yes he can touch it.. I'm on the fence about other family members and friends.. I'll decide later on. Strangers.. .no effing way
I don't even have a baby bump (i must have a glow or something that old people see, or maybe it's an "I'm pregnant" sign on my back) but twice on two different occasions (once before I even knew I was pregnant) old women came and asked me to rub my belly for good luck, and I let them though I was very hesitant with the first one because like I said I had no clue I was pregnant. But I don't mind as long as they ask first. Once the baby is born though, there will be NO touching!
During my first pregnancy I thought I would hate it if anyone touched my belly, but 1) very few people actually did and 2) it didn't bother me when they did.
Now, if it were a stranger - that's another story. If you wouldn't touch my arm while we're talking, there's no way you're touching my belly. But this is still a few months down the road. There's no bump yet.
The idea totally weirded me out during my first pregnancy, but once it actually started happening, it didn't bother me when friends or family touched my bump. Coworkers? Um no. Basically if we hug etc each other under normal circumstances, I don't mind belly touching if you ask first.
TOTALLY weirded out about people touching DD when she was a baby, though, esp because she was a preemie and I was very diligent about making people wash hands/use sanitizer/throw a burp cloth over their outside clothes before they touched her.
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I do like my personal space, but if someone asks I don't care...as long as I know them. I never had a stranger ask before. And defintely not right now when I'm not showing.
I live in a place where a large part of the population is white female christians (the south), and have heard/seen many horror stories regarding this very subject. I'm a little irked when I am obviously pregnant as to how I'll handle the situation, b/c I do NOT like people touching me. at all. I'm not even a girlfriend hugger. and I work the sales floor in a grocery store every saturday, so .... that's going to be a nightmare.
for those of you who have already been through this, how would you guard your bubble w/o offending people?
I live in the same type of environment. When I told my ILs and my family that I didn't want to be rubbed, they cried. I'm not sure how I'm going to manage this one.
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I'm worried about the older ladies at church touching without asking, but I don't have much of a bubble with people I speak or hang out with regularly. Maybe its because I'm a hugger. We have a group of friends at church who are all around the same age/phase of life so I actually have a bunch of pregnant friends right now. I would not mind any of these people touching or rubbing once I have a baby belly (can I just say that I'm so looking forward to the baby belly taking over this bloat belly?). Family, even extended family, I wouldn't mind too much, even if they don't ask, although I would prefer extended family ask. I really don't have much of a bubble, except with strangers. Absolutely no strangers can touch or rub the belly. I think I'll be the type to offer to let friends touch when baby is kicking because I always want to feel other's babies kicking but never ask because I don't want to offend or have things get weird.
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But when strangers touch my *out of belly* kids?!?? Arghhhhh!!! That's so weird to me!!!
https://www.rice.edu/projects/HispanicHealth/Courses/mod7/ojo.html
On a side note I get kind of annoyed by pregnant women that constantly rub their own bellies especially when they don't even really have a belly! Like they are trying to get people to ask if they are pregnant. I don't even run my own belly, unless it's by accident.
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But hands off the newborn babes!
But if my best friend or someone else I'm really close with tried to, I wouldn't mind.
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Of course in PA, it's illegal to touch a pregnant woman's belly without permission.
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I originally picked SS because I couldn't figure out what the hell you were talking about.
Then I read some posts...no way strangers can rub my belly. Yuck. My DH and my mom were the only ones who touched me last time.
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During my first pregnancy I thought I would hate it if anyone touched my belly, but 1) very few people actually did and 2) it didn't bother me when they did.
Now, if it were a stranger - that's another story. If you wouldn't touch my arm while we're talking, there's no way you're touching my belly. But this is still a few months down the road. There's no bump yet.
TOTALLY weirded out about people touching DD when she was a baby, though, esp because she was a preemie and I was very diligent about making people wash hands/use sanitizer/throw a burp cloth over their outside clothes before they touched her.
DD1, born 4/10/11 at 32 weeks
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Just wait until the black, male atheist wants to touch your belly. They are the ooey gooeyest about babies.
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