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Crying at daycare

sassygal29sassygal29 member
in June 2013 Moms
So the last week my daycare lady said J is crying whenever she pays any attention to the new baby or the one closest to him in age. She said he freaks out, screeches, turns red and cries.  She is very annoyed by this and complains it gives her a headache. She said in her 20 years she had never had a baby do this.

I am sure it is a phase and he doesn't do it at home (granted we don't have any other kids). I can see where it would be frustrating but quite complaining about your job and my 9 month old!

Anyone else have a LO that is doing this?

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  • sassygal29sassygal29 member
    She really did and then commented that one of her previous kids, that was there for a day, asked why he does that....

    So to drive her point, she doesn't put on his sheet that he had a good day, even if he played and did other stuff.

    Once DH sells his condo that has been on the market a year, we plan on buying a house and I plan on switching places. I would do it now add three other things that bother me but I don't want to move him twice if I don't have to

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  • BC&LMBC&LM member
    Maelara said:

    It's normal for babies to start getting jealous at this age. She's lying if she has never dealt with this before. It's her job, she needs to suck it up. He's 9 months, it's not like you can reason with him and tell him to stop. Insert eye roll here.

    All of this. It is so unprofessional for her to tell you he gives her a headache!


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  • GalLauraGalLaura member
    Can you say something to her boss or is she the boss? I'm not sure if that's appropriate since you leave the baby and it might stir the pot.
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  • RissNRussRissNRuss member
    That is total crap, I'd be finding another center. Heck, A's class has a screamer and by that I mean he is always crying and screaming and fussing and whining (no matter when I drop her off/pick her up). The ladies take turns trying to calm him, and I've heard them talk to his mom, never have they said that to her. They say he's irritable or very fussy.
    Also- A has had some jealousy issues (she actually gets very upset if I hold another baby and tries to climb on them). Her dcp has just asked if she does it at home and how we handle it. They stated their policy is attempting to redirect when it happens.
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  • BunnyLove416BunnyLove416 member
    Wow I'd be so uncomfortable if my DCP was complaining to me about my kid, she sounds like a real peach. My friend's baby just started the same DC as Lucas and my DCP has told me that he gets jealous when she gives her attention to the new baby, totally normal.
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  • JessicaKSJessicaKS member
    I'd wonder if she thought all the money I was paying her was annoying too!!

    But for real, that's ridiculous! Switch immediately!
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  • sassygal29sassygal29 member
    edited February 2014
    Thanks ladies!! You all are right and I have thought about switching for awhile. She came recommended through a friend of a friend. It breaks my heart to think she would ignore him...

    She has said other crap things to make me feel like I don't know what I am doing and that she knows best but I figured that came with the territory

    I want to stick with in home but maybe a center until we move would be fine. I am showing DHs place to a coworker, so fingers crossed!!

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  • KellenHi21KellenHi21 member
    edited February 2014
    LaBellaVida said:

    This would seriously bother me!! I'm pretty sure if my dcp said my baby wasanoying and gave get a headache I'd remove my baby from her care.

    That's just me though, but i couldn't leave my baby with someone who found him to be annoying.

    +1, I would remove him. I want the people who I decide to trust my baby with all day to not find him annoying! (Even more so, I would want them to turkey care for/about him!)

    Eta: I agree with rabbit about being seriously concerned

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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    sassygal29 said:
    Thanks ladies!! You all are right and I have thought about switching for awhile. She came recommended through a friend of a friend. It breaks my heart to think she would ignore him...

    She has said other crap things to make me feel like I don't know what I am doing and that she knows best but I figured that came with the territory

    I want to stick with in home but maybe a center until we move would be fine. I am showing DHs place to a coworker, so fingers crossed!!
    I think this is your best option.  Like I said, you can't stop her from being annoyed and let's be honest - kids can be frustrating.  But her method of "dealing" with it just shows...I don't know how to word it - a lack of understanding of the situation?  A really low tolerance? If she was a professional, she would know that you don't address things like this with a parent in this way.  You raise up concerns constructively, you talk about things that may help a problem.  She's not doing that so her judgement is seriously flawed and someone with judgement that flawed isn't someone I'd trust my baby with.
    Formerly known as elmoali :)

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  • BunnyLove416BunnyLove416 member
    baby Gs mommy said:
    Thanks ladies!! You all are right and I have thought about switching for awhile. She came recommended through a friend of a friend. It breaks my heart to think she would ignore him...

    She has said other crap things to make me feel like I don't know what I am doing and that she knows best but I figured that came with the territory

    I want to stick with in home but maybe a center until we move would be fine. I am showing DHs place to a coworker, so fingers crossed!!
    Glad you're going to remove him. She doesn't sound professional at all and like I said previously, I would worry about her patience. If she gets impatient she could ignore or harm him. (Like other ladies pointed out) IMO, I like centers better because I feel like they have a lot more to lose than some in home daycares. I feel better with people in a professional environment, instead of someone else home. Good luck, I hope you find a great place and soon!!
    I think you can easily argue both sides of 'who has more to lose', at least if you're using a registered in-home daycare.

    I'm so glad you decided to move him! This lady clearly wasn't a good fit and it's so important to feel comfortable with whoever is watching your kid. 
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