The wait between appts

LoveOBX917 · February 2014

I'm sure this is common but anyone else feel super uneasy in between the 8wk and 12wk appointments? My 8wk US went great, everything looked good.. But it's been 3 WEEKS since then and I'm struggling with that feeling of "is there really a little baby in there???" My symptoms haven't been too bad all along, really just tired, bloated, and short of breath occasionally, so I don't have much of a daily reassurance that I'm pregnant. Anyone else?? Or anyone whose past the 12wk appt have some words of encouragement to calm the crazy? :-D

Flowerchica · February 2014

I'm high risk - so being 13 weeks today and having not seen my OB since 9 weeks - I'm already irked + stir crazy!!! Fortunately I will be going to a fetal assessment center and seeing my OB this week. Can't wait till I can get back to the states and my weekly / biweekly appointments.I forgot how much they calmed me down.....

brachysira · February 2014

I haven't seen a doctor yet and won't until the end of next week. I won't get an ultrasound until a few weeks later. My previous pregnancy, I had an ultrasound right away. This time I just think how do we know I'm pregnant at all or that there's not something terribly wrong. I went for the standard bloodwork which determines my bloodtype, HIV status, etc. and I'm just like, is there any point if this baby isn't even there... But I guess this is the way they do it.

Irisheyes1247 · February 2014

It sucks. I always get a little anxious as the next appt gets closer, almost like my whole body is tensed up waiting to hear that HB. If you're looking for some peace of mind, you could look into buying/renting a doppler, but I know that would probably make me more crazy.

coqui2014 · February 2014

I'm with you. I've had a countdown to my next scan -- on Wednesday! Just hoping that the weather cooperates. We're supposed to get a little snow, which unfortunately has the ability to disrupt things in a major way around here.

Swimmer27 · February 2014

I feel the same way. I went for 1st appt at 7.5 weeks and my OB said there was no reason for me to come until 12 weeks (this wed). I've been so paranoid that everything's ok.

Stasi · February 2014

This is a weird time in pregnancy. Symptoms might lessen or go away all together (yay!) and I've found that sometimes the bloating goes away and people feel smaller at 11 weeks then they did at 7 weeks.

Just try to stay busy and distracted. Once you start getting that really bump and feel movement (although that's still weeks away too) it'll feel more real

msarver · February 2014

Yes everything the OP said! Since I can't see feel or hear the baby it's constantly on my mind wondering what's going on in there. I take everyday that I wake up feeling less than awesome as a good sign but it is so nerve racking! The dreams that I go in and there's no HB do not help. I just try not to dwell on it and assume we're good unless I'm told otherwise.

Sweetest116 · February 2014

This is when I love my doppler... I get the same anxiety between the 8-12 week appt and around week 10 I took out my doppler and found that sweet HB! Makes it a little easier.

chusum · February 2014

I had a bad moment this morning where I just had an uneasy feeling. I pulled out the doppler after that, and still had a time finding the heartbeat. I finally found it, and it was faint, but it was there. No advice, because I'm in the same boat! My NT scan was Valentine's Day, and I have to wait until next week for an u/s and it's been torture.

rlyttle · February 2014

That's exactly why I have a doppler. I can listen to the baby's HB anytime I was to reassure myself that he/she is still in there. Hang in there!!!

ConversationFear · February 2014

I had the same thing, and honestly, there is nothing you can do about it. You will just feel nervous. I was a wreck before my 8 week. Then I felt better when I saw the baby on the u/s - for about a week, then I started to get nervous about finding a heartbeat at 12 weeks (since I've had friends who recently went through some devastating losses at that time.) So we went Friday, heard the HB, all is good, so now I feel fine. We had DNA chromosome testing, so now I will worry about that. Once those results come back, if everything is ok, I'm sure i will worry until I can feel it. Then I will worry until 20 weeks u/s...and probably all the time until it graduates from college.

I'm learning that you will never stop worrying - welcome to motherhood, I guess.

mrsH1112 · February 2014

Yes I totally know how you feel. I still have 2.5 weeks till my 12 week appointment, and I feel like Im worrying about it everyday. Everyone tells me to just relax and enjoy my pregnancy, but I feel like I need the reassurance of a drs appointment.

Ive been light on the symptoms the entire time so if its a day I dont feel achy or tired I worry if everything is going ok.

We saw the HB on our 8 week ultrasound so that was totally reassuring. My dr has already warned me that she is going to try to hear the HB the next appointment but there is a very good chance that she wont find it (Im plus sized and its still a bit early I guess) so Im already setting myself up for that haha.

MMason12 · February 2014

I know exactly how you feel! My husband was laughing at me last week. We had an ultrasound on Wednesday at 8w2d. The baby was measuring one day ahead and had a strong heart rate of 173. Awesome, right! I felt great until the next morning when I woke up and my PGAL brain kicked in. I swear I am pins and needles again waiting for our next apt this week with the High Risk OB where we get another ultrasound on Wednesday.

This is the main reason I went ahead and bought a doppler though. I tried using it Friday (8w4d) and got nothing. I tried it again on Sunday (8w6d) and I *think* I found my LO's heart beat. Even after watching a dozen YouTube videos on the difference between Mom & Baby's it is still difficult for me to tell the difference. I'm hoping I can really figure it out here in the next week or so.

rlyttle · February 2014

MMason12 said:

I know exactly how you feel! My husband was laughing at me last week. We had an ultrasound on Wednesday at 8w2d. The baby was measuring one day ahead and had a strong heart rate of 173. Awesome, right! I felt great until the next morning when I woke up and my PGAL brain kicked in. I swear I am pins and needles again waiting for our next apt this week with the High Risk OB where we get another ultrasound on Wednesday.

This is the main reason I went ahead and bought a doppler though. I tried using it Friday (8w4d) and got nothing. I tried it again on Sunday (8w6d) and I *think* I found my LO's heart beat. Even after watching a dozen YouTube videos on the difference between Mom & Baby's it is still difficult for me to tell the difference. I'm hoping I can really figure it out here in the next week or so.

@mmason12 Do you have a doppler that shows the beats per minute? My heartbeat is very slow compared to the baby's. I find mine first (around 70bpm), then I search for a faster one right around mine. The baby's is always 150+, but I can hear an obvious difference when I find mine first.

JessicaEckhaus · February 2014

Wow... Great m

JessicaEckhaus · February 2014

Wow...great minds think a like! I feel the EXACT same way. I had a great US 3 weeks ago and I have my second appointment in 1 hour. Yikes! I'm more anxious than happy... Hopefully, that'll change soon!

jmolr · February 2014

It really is torture. I spent a mini fortune with my last pregnancy at a private 3d sonogram place just to make sure the baby still had a heartbeat before I could feel him move.

Bubbz · February 2014

I'm losing my mind. I didn't have an 8 week appointment--I went it at ~6 weeks in a panic about my thyroid, and she didn't schedule me for another appointment until this Thursday, so about ~10 weeks.

I'm fairly low symptom and LOSING MY MIND.

"Are you even okay, baby? My boobs don't hurt today, DID I KILL YOU?"

Auuuuggh.

Thank god my appointment is now THIS Thursday but stiiiiillllll.

JD83 · February 2014

Yeah, the wait is driving me nuts. Had the first appt at 6w 2d because I wasn't sure how far I was. They didn't want to see me again until the 12w point. Luckily, I saw the hb at the first appt so that helps a little, but waiting six weeks is a bit rough. To top it off, I'm visiting some friends and family the week before that appointment so I'll end up telling them, even though I'd rather wait until after the next appt. Just bad timing.

[Deleted User] · February 2014

I'm finally in the same boat. I was seeing an RE on a weekly basis during weeks 5-9, and it was so reassuring to see baby each week. Waiting until my NT scan in a couple weeks is going to be so hard. I'm also starting to feel better, so that's not making my PGAL brain feel any better.

jmdj615 · February 2014

From all the replies, it looks like we are all in the same boat. I am a week and a half away from my next appointment and I can't wait!!

MMason12 · February 2014

rlyttle said:

MMason12 said:

I know exactly how you feel! My husband was laughing at me last week. We had an ultrasound on Wednesday at 8w2d. The baby was measuring one day ahead and had a strong heart rate of 173. Awesome, right! I felt great until the next morning when I woke up and my PGAL brain kicked in. I swear I am pins and needles again waiting for our next apt this week with the High Risk OB where we get another ultrasound on Wednesday.

This is the main reason I went ahead and bought a doppler though. I tried using it Friday (8w4d) and got nothing. I tried it again on Sunday (8w6d) and I *think* I found my LO's heart beat. Even after watching a dozen YouTube videos on the difference between Mom & Baby's it is still difficult for me to tell the difference. I'm hoping I can really figure it out here in the next week or so.

@mmason12 Do you have a doppler that shows the beats per minute? My heartbeat is very slow compared to the baby's. I find mine first (around 70bpm), then I search for a faster one right around mine. The baby's is always 150+, but I can hear an obvious difference when I find mine first.

@rlyttle - Yes, it has a display with the beats per minute. I got a reading today of 154 right below my belly button but it was hard to hear anything. I think my stomach was really growling which I know doesn't help. I am 90% sure I heard it yesterday and I am only 50% sure it's what I heard today. I'm hoping in the next week it will get a little easier.

kirstynikole · February 2014

Yea I'm right there with everyone! I was seen at 8 weeks 4 days and measured 8 weeks. I figured the EDD after my LMP was off because a few days later I distinctly told hubby, hey I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating today.. haha. Now waiting until my next appt seems like eternity! I talk to baby daily and so does DH so we're just staying optimistic.

an02102 · February 2014

Trust me, once the appointments get closer together you will get annoyed that you are at the drs so often for 15 min appointments.

lovesazzie · February 2014

I felt exactly the same and was mentally preparing myself "just in case" - but I just had my 12 week appt (a little early) on Friday and everything was perfect. Chances are that they will be. I think it's very normal to be nervous, but once we start feeling our little ones moving around, we will have that reassurance between appts, which is wonderful!!

Cnharbison · February 2014

I have definitely been dealing with the same battle. Especially with the low symptoms, there's no reassurance that there's anything going on inside of me. Some days I feel more "pregnant" than others but I decided to put it in God's hands and stop worrying so much.

boxermamax2 · February 2014

I'm right there with ya'll!! I am 10w3days and I have had hardly any symptoms and the ones that I have had (aside from horrendous bloat) are about gone. Hardly any boob tenderness and I feel like they have actually shrunk from where they were a couple of weeks ago. I had my first u/s at 7wks and heard/saw the heartbeat and have my next u/s tomorrow. Feeling really uncomfortable in my work pants but going to wait until the next u/s for reassurance before I go and spend any more money on maternity clothes.

I will feel much better when I see the baby is still growing and hear the heartbeat!!

dani0783 · February 2014

My last ultrasound was at 7 weeks and I have to wait until 13 for the next one! I even tried to move it up and they won't let me. I do have symptoms so that helps but still I'm ready to tell everyone!

bainidhedub · February 2014

Oh yeah. I had appointments for 5 weeks straight (blood test, intake appt, 2 u/s, OB appt) and we saw the heartbeat at the 2nd ultrasound, but she didn't try with the doppler at the OB since it was only 7w4d. Wednesday is the milestone of when my MMC was discovered the first time, and I know the risk goes down after the hb is found, but I'm still antsy about waiting until March 12th for my next appointment.

BethanyAnn27 · February 2014

I feel your pain! My first appointment was at 8 weeks and they said everything was going well, but aside from routine blood work and a pelvic exam, they did no testing. I have to wait until the week 12 appointment just to hear the heart beat via doppler, and then wait until week 20 to get our first (and probably only) ultrasound. Waiting is hard, especially reading about all the people who have already heard their baby's heart beats and had ultrasounds. It would be really nice to have something a bit more definitive that everything is going well aside from just a good pelvic exam and good blood work results.

I have to say, I am really jealous of all you ladies who have already had an US or heard the heart beat....I would love that reassurance that things are going well! Good luck to everyone waiting for more information!

mkatefin303 · February 2014

i'm so relieved others are going through this! had a dating ultrasound (this LO was a TOTAL surprise so was definitely not tracking my periods, etc) at 7 weeks but now i feel almost symptomless, and no belly whatsoever - i feel like there is no evidenceanymore that i am actually pregnant, let alone that the baby is okay.

i want to start the bonding and getting excited but don't feel like i can without the ressurance that everything actually is okay. appointment tomorrow and counting the hours...

oohlala1983 · February 2014

I still haven't been to the OB at all - they scheduled my first appointment for this Friday (nearly 12 weeks!). I'm excited and trying to stay positive, but I'm going in totally blind (except for a blood test by my GP at like 5 weeks) and it's extremely nerve wracking. I think I would feel better if I had already seen him/her on an early u/s or heard a heartbeat prior to now, but now I just need to get through the next two days. I have no reason to think anything is wrong - no bleeding, no heavy cramping, still having plenty of symptoms - so hopefully all will be well, and I'll have good news to share with the world next week. (So far only my immediate family knows.)

I would suggest what someone else said - keeping busy and enjoying the now. I would also add to be careful of what you're Googling in the meantime.

Good luck everyone!

kristiedh · February 2014

The wait is awful! I had my first appointment at 8 weeks. At 9 weeks, we heard the heartbeat. But I don't have my second appointment until 13 weeks--I'm constantly wondering if baby's heartbeat is still beating or if something has happened that my body hasn't registered yet. And even knowing there's a 3% chance of miscarriage after you hear the heartbeat, I'm still not feeling 97% assured

krazyinsane · February 2014

What dopplers do you all have? I want one so DD#1 can hear whenever she wants but I don't want to spend an arm and a leg!!!

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