I know three years olds like to assert their independence and tend to throw fits, want to make descisions, etc. But I think my son is over the top and I dont know what to do about it. I try to let him make choices like "do you want milk or water" or "Do you want the green cup or the yellow cup", etc. in hopes that letting him make some desicions will let him feel somewhat in control to help avoid him wanting to control EVERYTHING!
For example, this morning we are leaving the house and I open the fridge to get my lunch bag and he absolutely has a meltdown because I didnt pick him up into my arms FIRST before getting my lunch out of the fridge. He is screaming "put it back, put it back and pick me up" I did not give in....therefore he screamed the whole way to day care. Is that normal? Its like I walk on eggshells. If we are playing a game and he asks me to sit down on the floor and I sit, he flips out if I sit even one inch away from where he asked me to sit. These are just examples of normal, everyday occurences and they are multiple times a day. He threw a fit because he wanted me to take a right turn out of the daycare and not a left turn (which is the way home). And he screamed the entire way home. Its constant.
Is this normal three year old behavior? And what can I do about it? I am a single mom and dealing with this on my own, all day everyday is taking its toll on me!
HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: Is your three year old OCD?
Freshie Girl 9.29.12
Thank you! I am glad to see I am not alone and that this is probably normal behavior. I know he feels my stress and can telll when I am about to have a meltdown myself....He is always worse when I am stressed...which just snowballs.
Thanks again! Good Luck to you guys too!
My 2.5 year old is like this. She knows the routine/drill/what's going on and if something is out of order/different and I didn't tell her about it, I hear it.
Her latest is H and I have to sit in specific chairs at dinner and if it's not close enough she's irate. We had to stop that because it was annoying as can be. Other stuff I let slide.
For the most part it's great though because she knows what needs to happen and just does it.
I do a lot of narration. "I know we usually do this but X is happening now instead." She seems to get that.
And yes, after playdates she knows where her stuff goes and if her friends put it back wrong she's all upset. I'm like that too though. She gets her organization skills from me.
IDK about the tantrums. My kid isn't too bad about those. I ignore most of them so I think she realizes screaming isn't going to let her win.
And yes, I limit choices. For right now either 2 or none at all. She's easily overwhelmed with options still.