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Intro! :)

JourneytoJoy07JourneytoJoy07 member
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Hello!  It feels crazy to be back on thebump again!! FYI, If my siggy is something crazy, forgive me...have avoided this for quite some time for personal healing.

My DH and I have been on quite the roller coaster for the past few years.  4 IVF transfers, 3/4 were successful but ended in miscarriages ranging from 6-8 weeks.  It has not been easy.  At all.  Our RE does not want us to give up, and we aren't, but need to move in a different direction.  With that being said, we have made the decision to adopt!!!  We have initiated the process by completing documents and hiring a LHMC. Our homestudy is on Friday!!  (P.S. I know IF acronyms like the back of my hand, but will learn Adoption ones ASAP! I know some people get impatient with newbies). We will be doing DIA.   I am so thankful this forum exists and know I will sit here for hours reading all of the current posts.  Already learned quite a bit from the past few. If any of you have advice for a DIA home study, PLEASE let me know!   Thank you!! Look forward to getting to know you all! :)
Me:28, DH:30 Married: 07/07/07 TTC Since: March 2011 MFI Me: Possible PAI-1
April 2012:Varicocele embolization
IVF #1 July 2012: BFN :( DH- Femara 90 days 
12/10/2012 Femara helped!
IVF# 2: Jan 2013 BFP, M/C 6weeks0days
5 frosties. 
IVF #3 FET April 2013 BFP, M/C 7 weeks 0 days. 
3 frosties
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Re: Intro! :)

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Welcome! I'm sorry for your losses. I'm excited about this next step for you. We are very patient here, with very little drama, so you should be good to go. I actually don't know what LHMC is!

    A DIA homestudy is going to vary from place to place, but rest assured you will clean like you never have before, and it won't matter. They're not looking to disqualify you, they just want to make sure you'll make good parents, and will help you get there.

    GL and post often!

     

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  • CheleChele member
    Welcome and good luck on your journey! 
    10/27/07
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  • JourneytoJoy07JourneytoJoy07 member
    Dr. Loretta. So relieved to hear little drama. I am so anti-drama! Had to take lots of mini breaks beforehand because I always felt like I would be scrutinized for not doing a post right or something!! and P.S. I love your disclaimer.

    LHMC-  licensed mental health counselor  :)

    I woudn't have known DIA if I hadn't looked at your post first. :)

    I just told my DH that we needed to vow to each other to keep the house clean this coming week, since it is spotless now! :)

    Thanks for the welcome!!
    Me:28, DH:30 Married: 07/07/07 TTC Since: March 2011 MFI Me: Possible PAI-1
    April 2012:Varicocele embolization
    IVF #1 July 2012: BFN :( DH- Femara 90 days 
    12/10/2012 Femara helped!
    IVF# 2: Jan 2013 BFP, M/C 6weeks0days
    5 frosties. 
    IVF #3 FET April 2013 BFP, M/C 7 weeks 0 days. 
    3 frosties
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    Also, if you haven't looked at the FAQs yet, I encourage you to check it out. I think we even have an acronyms list there :)
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  • JourneytoJoy07JourneytoJoy07 member
    I did :)  Mentioned it in my post above. :)
    Me:28, DH:30 Married: 07/07/07 TTC Since: March 2011 MFI Me: Possible PAI-1
    April 2012:Varicocele embolization
    IVF #1 July 2012: BFN :( DH- Femara 90 days 
    12/10/2012 Femara helped!
    IVF# 2: Jan 2013 BFP, M/C 6weeks0days
    5 frosties. 
    IVF #3 FET April 2013 BFP, M/C 7 weeks 0 days. 
    3 frosties
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  • JourneytoJoy07JourneytoJoy07 member
    Thanks marshmellowevening! That is what I have gathered from reading around.  I see you are doing a DET! We have also discussed that in the future. Looking forward to getting to know you and your story!
    Me:28, DH:30 Married: 07/07/07 TTC Since: March 2011 MFI Me: Possible PAI-1
    April 2012:Varicocele embolization
    IVF #1 July 2012: BFN :( DH- Femara 90 days 
    12/10/2012 Femara helped!
    IVF# 2: Jan 2013 BFP, M/C 6weeks0days
    5 frosties. 
    IVF #3 FET April 2013 BFP, M/C 7 weeks 0 days. 
    3 frosties
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  • JourneytoJoy07JourneytoJoy07 member
    Thanks Pinkie and Chele!
    Me:28, DH:30 Married: 07/07/07 TTC Since: March 2011 MFI Me: Possible PAI-1
    April 2012:Varicocele embolization
    IVF #1 July 2012: BFN :( DH- Femara 90 days 
    12/10/2012 Femara helped!
    IVF# 2: Jan 2013 BFP, M/C 6weeks0days
    5 frosties. 
    IVF #3 FET April 2013 BFP, M/C 7 weeks 0 days. 
    3 frosties
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  • Lacyj67Lacyj67 member
    Welcome journey! I remember you from the IF boards. So sorry this has been a rough road for you but I'm glad your here. I'm in a very similar situation as you. Not looking good for is here with our embryos we have left. But we may not be completely done down that road as well. We decided to do fozadopt and are at the end stage of getting our big packet sent in and hopefully our home study will be in the next month. It's a exciting process and I hope this works for both of us! Good luck and please post how your home study went with some specifics id love to hear your thoughts!
    Me 34 and DH 39 married in aug. 2002
    Did 5 round of clomid 2010 =BFN
     High levels of NK CELLS DX sept.2012 DOR:# 0.02 
    IVF #1 May 2012  ER 4, EF 2, ET 2 =BFN
    MINI IVF Oct.2012  Cancelled 10-27-12
    Ivf #3 Antagonist Protocol April 2013
    Shared cycle..Donor cycled in July Got 12 eggs 9 fertilized and 8 frozen!!
    DE FET #1 Sept. 3rd 2013 FIRST BFP EVER 5dp5dt
    miscarried Sept 24th at 5 weeks 5 days
    Etopic  D&C and hysterscopy Nov 5 2013
    dx with pre genetic blood clotting dec 2013
    FET #2 Jan 31st  2014 
    Miscarried for a second time again at 5 weeks 5 days
    Currently fostering to adopt an amazing little 1 year old boy..P.J!
    FET#3  is Oct 29th 2014
    BFN on fet #3
    Last and FINAL FET coming JAN 28th 2015
    Everyone Welcome






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  • JourneytoJoy07JourneytoJoy07 member
    Lacyj.  Just read your signature...and wow. Lot's of similarities.  Let's def. keep in touch.  I will try to send you a message on here to share my e-mail with you! And I will def. post as soon as it's over! :)
    Me:28, DH:30 Married: 07/07/07 TTC Since: March 2011 MFI Me: Possible PAI-1
    April 2012:Varicocele embolization
    IVF #1 July 2012: BFN :( DH- Femara 90 days 
    12/10/2012 Femara helped!
    IVF# 2: Jan 2013 BFP, M/C 6weeks0days
    5 frosties. 
    IVF #3 FET April 2013 BFP, M/C 7 weeks 0 days. 
    3 frosties
    Report Reply
  • emcaemca member
    Good Luck and welcome! We also had a long infertility journey filled with miscarriages before deciding to pursue adoption. Lots of luck with your home study!!

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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