I hate my MIL.

Jenly117 · February 2014

I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack! My husband invited his parents over to hang with the LO while I was at the gym this am. I came back and go to hold my baby and give her a kiss (MIL was holding her) and she says "no, you can't have her" and pulls her away from me. She has done this many times before, even slapped my hand away as I'm trying to take my baby from her. I'm trying desperately to be the bigger person, but it's only a matter of time before I go apeshit on her ass. Don't ever tell me I can't hold my baby!! Ugh.

Clearly there is no point to this post but my H acts like its not a problem so I'm I'm venting to "my girls" instead. Thanks for listening.

HBirdie · February 2014

NO. Take your baby back.

What a twat.

thedash · February 2014

Whoa. How does your H not feel like this is a problem? He can't at least admit that it is really damn annoying?

GermanShredders · February 2014

Nope. Nope. Nope. Please go take her away from your MIL.

staebells · February 2014

Take the baby! Your MIL is playing a game of control with you. Don't let her win!

Jenly117 · February 2014

His response was "it's a joke" and "get thicker skin". I don't understand which part of that is funny though... My MIL is a nasty, negative, old school Italian woman. She is the type of person who demands respect but never gives any. She will also cut you out of her life if she feels like she's been wronged. For this reason, my H will always go to bat for his Mom. He is afraid that if he sticks up for his wife that she will kick him to the curb like her parents did to her. I don't know how to make him see my POV. He's been under her reign for too long

I just feel very alone and it sucks.

HBirdie · February 2014

Sometimes I wish my in-laws would cut me out of their lives. 8->

TKtravels · February 2014

WTAF. What the hell is wrong with people?

Like others have said, take your baby back!

I would have a very difficult time holding my tongue in that situation!

Jenly117 · February 2014

@tktravels I told her "I AM GOING TO GIVE HER A KISS" and proceeded to take her from MIL. I guess alot my issue with the whole situation is that my H doesn't back me up. It makes things so much harder when you feel like it's you against the world. I envy all of you ladies whose H's are always there for you.

JamieWM · February 2014

If DH didn't have my back I would not be able to stay in the marriage....yes I married him not her but she is part of the package. The trick is DH standing right there w me on all matters...I would have attacked if someone, especially mil tried to keep me from DS

redfallon · February 2014

Yeah @jdoud77's mom stories are pretty nuts and intense.

Jenly117 · February 2014

Thanks for your support. You guys really helped me through a tough day. Love y'all!

@jdoud77 @dhaueisen I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I've tried confronting her in the past but she talks through me and tells me that I need to respect her because she has more "life experience" than me. For a while I actively tried to have a good relationship with her; I tried to "fix" myself to fit into her world. Then my LO came into my life and I realized that MY world is the only one I want to live in! I no longer actively try to make nice with her. I don't text or call. It's much easier for me that way but my H is hurt by it. I just want to love on my baby, and my husband and live freely without someone trying to micromanage our lives. Is that too much to ask?! Oh and I want MIL to fall off the face of the earth. That too.

hilalk · February 2014

What a nutjob! May the patience be with you.

Kristonita12 · February 2014

Ugh, so sorry that happened to you!

MJHershey · February 2014

DH needs to man up.

JGior1031 · February 2014

I have the same issue!!!!! My MIL thinks she is my twins mother and she can do whatever she wants. What sucks is my husbands sister has 2 kids and her husband has no family at all! So my MIL rules the roost and gets everything. She even steps in when my BIL tries to discipline the kids. She has over stepped her bounds with me a few times. My final straw was when she came in MY BEDROOM, the door was closed, and took my daughter at 1:30am and changed and fed her. I never even heard her!!!!!! My daughter is 5 1/2 months old and has slept through the night for the past three months (10p-7a) and never feeds during the night. There is no way to sleep through my daughter crying bc she is very loud!!!!! So there is no way she was crying. Come to find out that my MIL put the monitor on that I had in my bedroom on and supposedly heard her "fussing" and I didn't get up so she took charge. I lost my shit on my husband (who wasn't home bc he works overnights). I told him I'm done! She had no right "spying" on me, taking my child with out even waking me and come in my private bedroom!!!!! In the morning she had the audacity to ask me is I was still seeing my psychiatrist for my postpartum anxiety and if I was taking heavy meds at night?!?!?!?!?!? I lost it!!!!!!!! I take care of my TWINS 24/7 by myself! I packed up the babies, got dressed and we t to my moms for the day. I told my MIL that she is no longer welcome to sleepover and if she wants to see the kids my husband must be present, bc of course she doesn't pull her shit when he's around. Now she's barely talking to me............... HALLELUJAH!!!! Lol!

ginamarie1005 · February 2014

JGior1031 said:
I have the same issue!!!!! My MIL thinks she is my twins mother and she can do whatever she wants. What sucks is my husbands sister has 2 kids and her husband has no family at all! So my MIL rules the roost and gets everything. She even steps in when my BIL tries to discipline the kids.
She has over stepped her bounds with me a few times. My final straw was when she came in MY BEDROOM, the door was closed, and took my daughter at 1:30am and changed and fed her. I never even heard her!!!!!! My daughter is 5 1/2 months old and has slept through the night for the past three months (10p-7a) and never feeds during the night.
There is no way to sleep through my daughter crying bc she is very loud!!!!! So there is no way she was crying.
Come to find out that my MIL put the monitor on that I had in my bedroom on and supposedly heard her "fussing" and I didn't get up so she took charge.
I lost my shit on my husband (who wasn't home bc he works overnights). I told him I'm done! She had no right "spying" on me, taking my child with out even waking me and come in my private bedroom!!!!!
In the morning she had the audacity to ask me is I was still seeing my psychiatrist for my postpartum anxiety and if I was taking heavy meds at night?!?!?!?!?!?
I lost it!!!!!!!! I take care of my TWINS 24/7 by myself! I packed up the babies, got dressed and we t to my moms for the day.
I told my MIL that she is no longer welcome to sleepover and if she wants to see the kids my husband must be present, bc of course she doesn't pull her shit when he's around.
Now she's barely talking to me............... HALLELUJAH!!!! Lol!

Wow. I would lose my shit.

HBirdie · February 2014

@JGior1031: Ummmmm she sounds certifiable. :-O

Jenly117 · February 2014

@jgior1031 we should talk!! Where do these crazy bitches come from?!?!!

MegStark · February 2014

What is up with these mama's boys???? NOT OKAY!

JGior1031 · February 2014

JWeber1110 said:
@jgior1031 we should talk!! Where do these crazy bitches come from?!?!!

@JWeber1110 that's only a small part of what she's done! The woman is horrific!!! Email me and we can exchange horror stories! Lol! JCzar0702@gmail.com

JGior1031 · February 2014

HBirdie said:
@JGior1031: Ummmmm she sounds certifiable. :-O

There are no words that could possibly describe this woman!

Jenly117 · February 2014

JGior1031 said:

HBirdie said:
@JGior1031: Ummmmm she sounds certifiable. :-O
There are no words that could possibly describe this woman!

Same here! And @JGior1031- I will email you for sure!

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