How long will you bed share?

CamrynnsMommy · February 2014

Or how long is too long?

FTR, I'm not asking for advice on whether or not it's a good idea, we already do it, so save it @btcruiserlove.

Seriously though, how long do you anticipate sharing? What age will you cut off?

Mbecker912 · February 2014

We aren't bed sharing but we are room sharing prob for about a year we could never bed share my husband moves way too much he always ends up sleeping on top of me and I have to push him away lol

HARLEYSMOM2010 · February 2014

I currently have a almost 4 year old and a two year old in my bed lol so I don't have room unless I can get these two out! But I would say 6 months is a good time if you plan on moving him/her to a crib/nursery. With my second I had her in a bassinet in my room for the first 4 months then transferred her to a crib in her own room but I did bed share with my first and she will NOT get out even with super cool bunk beds in her own princess Sophia room.

ThereBeDragons · February 2014

The goal is to not bed share, but to instead let baby sleep in the bassinet beside the bed for a few months. This way DH and I can keep our million pillows and four blankets without worrying about smothering baby.

If it does need to happen (never say never) I think the goal will be to have baby back in a crib by 6months- before she can walk to our bed on her own. I don't object to occasional morning snuggle sessions with a kiddo, but I do like the idea of the parents room being a special place to spend time rather than a second nursery. I was banned from my parents room for my entire childhood (they would come to me but I wasn't allowed to seek them out)- that's a little more strict than I want to be.

danabsd · February 2014

We only bring her into our bed if she wakes up super early and I want her to back to bed. As long as that works we'll keep doing it. It's not that often.

Most recently she woke up at 3:45, fell right back asleep in our bed, woke up at 5 and demanded I give her my pillow. Rude. Then pushed me over, she actually knocked the snoogle off the bed said "night, night" and fell back asleep. If that behavior continues she'll be CIO in her crib.

spinsoffresonance · February 2014

With DD we never intended to bed share but day 2 home from the hospital we realized that was the only way any of us were getting any sleep. She was in our bed for about 10 weeks until we managed to transition her to the cosleeper. The first 3 weeks she was sleeping on top of my/DH's chest. Then we slowly worked on getting her to sleep in the bed and moving her farther away from me until she would sleep in the cosleeper. She slept in the cosleeper for 7months. Our pedi recommended to try to get her in her own room (if thats what we wanted) by 8m because it would be much harder later on. This baby will also sleep in the cosleeper 6-8months. Not planning on bed sharing but will if that's what the baby needs in the beginning.

AnnieA75 · February 2014

We don't bed share, but will room share. I think we kept DD in a bassinet in our room until she was 4-5 months old, but neither DH or I can remember exactly! We plan to do the same with DS - room share until around 4-5 months old. We'll see how it goes.

Mimaloo · February 2014

We already bed share with the dog so we're not adding baby to that mix. She will sleep in a bassinet next to the bed for the first few months until we move her to the crib.

Bootsie327 · February 2014

We are getting a cuddle nest for the bed, and plan to only use it for about 6 weeks (give or take). I want to get him in the crib earlier than later, but I know those first few weeks of midnight feedings will be easier if he's in the bed beside me.

Edited because by cuddle nest, I mean snuggle nest. Not that it matters!

runningyogimama · February 2014

We've never bed shared with DD and don't plan to again. We had her in our room in a RnP and then PnP for 5 months and will probably do so again.

I have 2 big dogs in my bed...I don't need 2 kids, too!

IBackBevo · February 2014

We didn't bed share when ds was small. I would not have slept well. It would have made me too nervous with him being so small. Lately, we have but not by choice. DS is 18 months.

IBackBevo · February 2014

And now I am just embarrassed reading the other responses...

ckandi007 · February 2014

Probably until a year or maybe 18 months. Once the kicking starts and no one sleeps well, off you go! My almost 3 year old tries to climb into our bed, but we made a rule that the sun has to be up before he can get out of bed and come into ours for morning snuggles.

CamrynnsMommy · February 2014

HARLEYSMOM2010 said:
I currently have a almost 4 year old and a two year old in my bed lol so I don't have room unless I can get these two out! But I would say 6 months is a good time if you plan on moving him/her to a crib/nursery. With my second I had her in a bassinet in my room for the first 4 months then transferred her to a crib in her own room but I did bed share with my first and she will NOT get out even with super cool bunk beds in her own princess Sophia room.

This is me, I have a 3-year-old in my bed now and sometimes a 7-year-old. Even though the have a kick-ass bunk bed and room, the 3-year-old refuses to sleep in her bed.

I'm really not upset about our situation because my DH doesn't sleep in the same room (severe PTSD, night terrors, etc.), but I'd like to move her back to her room before baby comes.

Baby will not bed share, we have a co-sleeper.

busterbeagle · February 2014

With DD, from 6-18m. She was in our room in the RNP before that. I'm okay with the same thing happening again, although none of us were sleeping well at the end and it was so much better once we got her in the crib.

I also fully realize that even though we got DD in her own bed, that doesn't mean she will never end up in ours again. Luckily she's stayed in her bed every night since we switched her a little over a month ago, but I'm not sure she realizes yet that she can get out...

jntaylor11 · February 2014

I did 100% of the time until ds was about 18m. At that time I started to night wean him so he would sleep longer stretches. I bought him a twin bed, & started putting him to bed in there so he would get used to it. When he turned 2, he no longer came into my bed, but I lay with him to put him to sleep & if he wakes up I lay with him again. Sometimes if it's 5-6a I stay with him in his bed. But a lot of the time he sleeps all night in his own. I really enjoyed it, he was colicky so I had a hard time bonding with him in the day time because he was so upset. Sleeping close helped the bond. I also EBF on demand, so having him close helped all of us get as much sleep as possible. Not sure what I will do this time around. Depends a lot on how this child sleeps. Ds never was a good sleeper unless he was next to someone until he got a bit older.

sthomas1222 · February 2014

Mimaloo said:

We already bed share with the dog so we're not adding baby to that mix. She will sleep in a bassinet next to the bed for the first few months until we move her to the crib.

Hah that's what I said. The dogs & cats got kicked out & baby got moved in... We always made a point of DD starting the night in whatever contraption was working at the time (swing, RnP, etc...) then she came into the bed with us. At about 8 months it became apparent it was no longer working & she needed more space. It was our 4th try getting her out of our bed but this time it worked.

boymum2014 · February 2014

Bed sharing/room sharing-I think only up to about 2-3 months,or as soon as he starts sleeping more hours at a time. Anything more than 6 months & I think you'll have trouble getting them to sleep in their crib as they get used to it

Soupy84 · February 2014

I thought this was going to be a post about how much longer we would share the bed with DH. I am kinda sad now that I might be the only one who wants him to go sleep in the spare bedroom for the rest of this pregnancy. I want my space.

FTR we have no plans on letting our little one sleep in our bed. The baby will sleep in their crib from the start.

RedInLove · February 2014

We've been co-sleeping with our pup for 6 years, so we don't plan on having LO in the bed. We will have LO in the room with us though, I plan on BF so I think that will make things easier. Also, DH works OOT so when it's just me at home, I think this will help make it easier on me. When LO is sleeping for longer lengths of time, I think that's when we'll transition to the crib.

Cupcakes89 · February 2014

DH has decided to move her full size crib next to our bed. Thats about as close as we will get to sleeping with her =P

Of course the crib is going to be on my side of the bed so im probably gonna feel like im in jail or in a crib myself when I look to the side because the bars on the crib!

kat8805 · February 2014

We just bought an actual bedroom set, and a king size mattress. I already don't want to share with DH. Room sharing, sure. Bed?

But respect to you ladies who do. I was just born with an extra sleep chromosome that needs to be fed lots of z's.

tjkdlhb · February 2014

DD was in a bassinet as close to the bed as possible... I needed to be able to hear her breathe, I was so nervous at first!

Our bed wasn't a safe situation... It's higher, and we have a loft style bedroom, so open stairs and no door = totally not safe for bedsharing! Plus I like lots of blankets and pillows.

As DD got older, we put a mattress on the floor in her nursery. So she slept in the crib, but if she was having a rough night, one or both of us would go and sleep there.

We moved her downstairs... and for the first two weeks, the mattress moved with her because she was scared of her new room. For the past week or so she's been going to sleep pretty quickly when we put her in the toddler bed.

Who knows what will happen in the future... we'll take each day as it comes. If she goes through trouble with nightmares or something, then we will bring out the mattress again. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.

Hallil · February 2014

We still bed share whenever DD wants, and she's 2.5. She likes her own room but she's a bit of a night owl so if she stays up until we go to bed sue usually just jumps in with us. If she wants to go to bed before we do she will go to bed in her room, or if we have a really early morning coming up we put her to bed in her room. The nights she stays up late she will always make up for it by sleeping in so it's no big deal.

With May baby I think we will try sidecarring the crib and see how that works, I know DH and I can safely co sleep with a LO in bed but I'm not going to put that on DD. We could be a little more consistent with her sleeping in her bed but it's not a huge worry at this point.

We are also renovating and moving into our house in the next couple months and our bedrooms won't be split up right away. DH wanted me to pick everything and plan it out but there isn't tons of room so we left it open for now. Eventually it will be two rooms, but there is no point in building walls and making our room smaller to give the girls a room that they won't use much at first. I'd rather keep it one big one for now and once we're all sleeping apart we can finish it however it works best. You could say we have a relaxed outlook on room/bed sharing because it works so well for nursing and night wakings/feedings/changes etc. I'm a real peach if I don't get enough sleep, experience has shown that this works best!

Also, the bed isn't 'sacred' for my husband and I, there are many other places to go fool around on if she's (soon to be they) are in the bed.

ABColeslaw · February 2014

Asher still sleeps in our bed half the time. By that I don't mean some days he does and some he doesn't. I literally mean we put his sleeping butt in his bed and halfway through the night he comes and finishes off sleeping until morning in our bed. We bought a massive bed knowing we'd have a family bed. I think this go around I'll try to get her to sleep in the rnp next to the bed, only because Asher is a crazy wild sleeper. It is going to be interesting for sure.

CMDR513 · February 2014

We didn't do bed sharing with DS. He slept in the bassinet, then PNP, then crib (@ 11weeks). He does sleep on our floor at least once per week. This one will do the Rock n play and PNP until the crib.

ujocdeelovely · February 2014

Mbecker912 said:
We aren't bed sharing but we are room sharing prob for about a year we could never bed share my husband moves way too much he always ends up sleeping on top of me and I have to push him away lol

This!

jay3907 · February 2014

I had an emergency c-section with DD and MH worked overnights, so when I first brought her home she slept in her boppy on my bed because I was so sore from surgery it was hard for me to bend down into her bassinet to get her in and out but as soon as I was able to she went into the bassinet which sat directly next to my side of the bed. And when she grew out of that thankfully she had no issues sleeping in her room in her crib. Every no and then she will be sick or have a bad dream and come curl up with us at night but she's almost 7 and I really can't remember the last time she actually snuck in her in the middle of the night to get in bed. I guess overall we've been pretty lucky with her. She's always been a good eater, been sleeping through the night since she was about 2 mo old. But back to the question at hand, if I have to have another c-section I don't know what the bed situation will be, but if I deliver vaginally and everything's good the baby will be in a bassinet next to my bed.

spacepotatoes · February 2014

We're not planning to bed share but will most likely have LO in our room for the first little bit, in the PnP bassinet.

Emmagk · February 2014

Right now we have no plans on bed sharing but will room share for as long as LO fits in the cradle. I can't even bed share with the cat! She cuddles up to my legs and then I can't move and drives me crazy, I'm a picky sleeper. This is the plan right now, but we'll see how that actually goes.

LoveIsAll25 · February 2014

ThereBeDragons said:

The goal is to not bed share, but to instead let baby sleep in the bassinet beside the bed for a few months. This way DH and I can keep our million pillows and four blankets without worrying about smothering baby.

If it does need to happen (never say never) I think the goal will be to have baby back in a crib by 6months- before she can walk to our bed on her own. I don't object to occasional morning snuggle sessions with a kiddo, but I do like the idea of the parents room being a special place to spend time rather than a second nursery. I was banned from my parents room for my entire childhood (they would come to me but I wasn't allowed to seek them out)- that's a little more strict than I want to be.

This is similar to what I do. I shared a room with my DS #1 for the first 4 months of his life. He slept in his crib and never slept with me because I was terrified of smothering him. After he started sleeping through the night we moved his crib to his own bedroom.

Every once in a while he ask's to sleep with us and we let him because it makes him really happy. With DS#2 I plan to do the same thing.

lrmrtn · February 2014

We don't plan on bed sharing or room sharing at all. There's barely any room in our bed with the pillows and blankets and I'd be too paranoid of smothering LO. There's no room in our room for a crib or bassinet nor do I want to have to deal with the transition. And neither one of us would get any sleep that way. If having LO in his crib from day 1 isn't working, I'll probably have him sleep in the PNP in the living room and sleep on the couch next to him.

usernewname · February 2014

No plans to bedshare. LO will be in a bassinet next to my side of the bed for the first 2-3 months then into its own room. Its only 5 steps down the hall so it should be okay.

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