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Still can't believe it...

eg214eg214 member
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I was running errands today while LO was @ home with Papaw (leaves tomorrow - BOO!) and driving around I was thinking....

How can a man/boy/guy/whatever actually create a child and then decide to never see the child or be a part of that child's life? I mean, yes I know it happens but it's just really unbelievable that this is for real and really happens. I can't understand it. I know some of us are better off (maybe even me) but it still just frickin' sucks. I mean, the fact that mentality is even in someone...its sick. It's really frickin' sad. I just can't fathom it.

I haven't really cried about my sitch since my dad has been here but I'm sure tomorrow I will have a good sesh. My beautiful little girl and her father doesn't want to be a part of her life? I do think it will be better for us not to have him around, but it still just blows my mind he can't be a good person and do what's right. Regardless of how much of a shitbag he is, my daughter deserves to have a relationship with the man who helped make her. I'm sure I'll meet someone down the road who is AMAZING and will love her like she is his own. I don't doubt that but it still is just shitty and sad.

I mean, my manchild was so ecstatic. Like I said, has a full on nursery set up in his house, even a few days ago was talking about how happy he was, he couldn't stop smiling looking at her picture, and couldn't wait to meet her. Then he flips shits because he might not get his way to "I'm not going to be in her life." Just goes to show how mentally unstable he is. I wish there was a way to explain it better to people because he has a good way of pretending I'm the crazy one and he doesn't have any problems.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent y'all. Just some things going through my mind... 

PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Just curious...did you actually see this nursery and him crying and all? Sounds to me like he's full of shit. Just sayin....
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    I gotta say this. I know it hurts, i know its hard. But you need to stop dwelling. You are just making yourself miserable.

    If i knew the answer to your question id tell you, but i dont know. And yes it sucks there are all these people running around making babies and not taking care of them. But that is. Their problem, their loss.

    They cannot get the time back. And it could really suck for them someday when their kid is calling someone else mommy/daddy.
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  • eg214eg214 member
    tig594 said:

    Just curious...did you actually see this nursery and him crying and all? Sounds to me like he's full of shit. Just sayin....

    Yeah he sent a picture and since ive been to his house before, i can verify the room was in his house.

    PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Definitely odd.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    tig594 said:

    Definitely odd.

    Yes this is very odd
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Wow. I mean, I understand where you're coming from, but my ex didn't even pretend to put that much effort into anything regarding DD. the fact he went all out like that and then is like "fuck it, no " is definitely a head scratcher.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Roxalot said:

    Wow. I mean, I understand where you're coming from, but my ex didn't even pretend to put that much effort into anything regarding DD. the fact he went all out like that and then is like "fuck it, no " is definitely a head scratcher.

    This, bd tried to snuggle my belly once like two days after my bfp. Other then being full of shit. Hes done nothing like that
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  • Gamera3000Gamera3000 member
    You can't fathom it because you're a good person and you'd never act that way.

    We can't ever know how another person sees others. He may not be capable of the emotional depth you have.

    I realized as an adult that my mom didnt really love me or anyone else. She thinks she does, but her feelings are just different (shes crazy). People who can't properly love can't be good parents. It's not their fault they're like that and they can't change. It's best to just avoid them.

    You're both better off without him around.
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Yeah, what she said. 
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