Moving WWYD

sometimesalwayschaotic · February 2014

We are currently living 6 hours from my parents and 8 hours from DH's parents. To get to Dh's parents it currently takes us 15 hours. Needless to say, we dread this trip. We have thought about moving closer to our parents but jobs are hard to find near them. We would probably still live 3 hours away from both. We have made friends in our current town and feel connected. Would you choose to move closer to your parents or stay in the town your have started to call home? FWIW we would still probably only visit 2 or so times a year. Both parents currently come down every few months.

joyfullyfound · February 2014

As long as you get along with the parents, I think the closer the better. Living as close as we do (both within 30 mins) to both sets of parents is really valuable to us... I appreciate their involvement so, so much - more than I ever could have imagined.

barnwife · February 2014

I need more information, please.

If you would still visit the same number of times, would they visit you more? If not, what other benefits would there be?

Signed,
Someone who loves both her parents and ILs, but is (mostly) very glad for the 2+ hours distance between us

zbeesma86 · February 2014

My parents are an hour or so away. We both try to make an effort in going to see each other. Taking turns & alternating who drives out to visit. When we go there we usually go & spend a 3-4 days. When they come here it's a day trip or an over night.

It sounds like you are making it work. You both make the trip to see one another. Do you want to move closer to them? Does DH?

sometimesalwayschaotic · February 2014

We are both very family oriented and would love to live closer. I would love if we could live 30 min away and use them for random date nights and that sort of thing. They both live in rural small towns so there aren't jobs for DH. We would love the drives home to be easier and shorter since right now the drives are nearly impossible. I am not sure if either would visit more with a shorter drive. I am just not sure if its worth it to relocate to still be 3 hours away.

caranichole · February 2014

Would DH be looking for a new job then?

We love having a relationship with our families but our careers and supporting our immediate family takes priority so distance from them doesn't make much of a difference for us. Our careers require us to be flexible with where we live. If location wouldn't change the amount of time you spend with them and DH would have to look for a new job, I think I'm missing what the reason for the move really is.

Disneygeek77 · February 2014

I wouldn't move either. To me, DH's job > being closer to grandparents and date nights.

MomIn2013 · February 2014

I wouldn't move. We live two hours away from my parents, brother, basically everyone in my family, and we still only visit a few times a year. If it were going to be in the same city so they could swing by to babysit while you go out, etc. it might be worth it, but three hours is still a significant day trip there and back, so I don't think it would be much different than you have it now.

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