Biggest FTM blunder?

MissMeegs · February 2014

If you are a FTM (or for experienced moms with memories of being one!), what's the biggest screw up you've had so far? I think we had ours (well, really it was DH's fault!) last night. DH turned on the water for rinsing LO after his bath, and he didn't test it and let it get too hot. It wasn't scalding or anything, but it was definitely hotter than I would have used, and I didn't realize until DH filled a little cup and dumped it right on poor baby's family jewels.

Needless to say there was a BIG scream and much carrying on from both me and the baby, and poor DH felt quite guilty. Luckily the water wasn't hot enough to do any damage, though now I'm scared to give baby another bath, thinking we've scarred him for life and he'll go from enjoying baths to screaming for the whole thing even if we use luke warm water.

What's your biggest blunder so far?

bnik · February 2014

We were at the mall. He was fussy I took him out of the carrier. And put him back in before we left. Then we drove across the street to babies r us. I went to check on him cause he was fussing again and realized I didn't buckle him I was so mad felt like the worst mom ever. My dh and sil kept telling me it was ok cause he was fine and now I'll remember for forever . I still feel bad

Worst mom ever?

Hmvbaby14 · February 2014

@bnik

I did this same thing 2 weeks ago. I put DS in his car seat while we were getting ready to leave. When we got to the dr I went to take him out of his seat and realized I hadn't tightened the straps. Needless to say I have not forgotten since.

CopperT0p · February 2014

A memorable blunder by DH with DS1 was while lifting him off a change table at a mall, he whacked the baby's head off of a stainless steel corner above the table. It left a small dent in his head and DS1 was hysterical. The dent went away, and a boob soothed the baby quickly. Daddy was in tears longer than the baby. We still talk about it to this day sometimes when DH takes DS2 to change him.

Rebis58 · February 2014

bnik said:

We were at the mall. He was fussy I took him out of the carrier. And put him back in before we left. Then we drove across the street to babies r us. I went to check on him cause he was fussing again and realized I didn't buckle him I was so mad felt like the worst mom ever. My dh and sil kept telling me it was ok cause he was fine and now I'll remember for forever . I still feel bad Worst mom ever?

I did this last week and I still feel sick about it. Went to Walmart with my sisters, and Norah was fussing in the store so I undid her car seat straps. Afterwards we drove across the parking lot to Booster Juice. Inside the Booster Juice I realized that I had forgotten to buckle her in again. I felt so guilty and ashamed of myself! The only positive I can think of in the situation is that with how bad I felt (and still feel) - nothing serious happened and I will never forget to check her straps again.

Later that same day I was cutting her nails. She twitched her thumb right as I clipped and I cut the end of her finger. She started bleeding and screamed and screamed - I've never heard her cry like that - and I immediately started bawling. It was the worst day. I texted my mom and MIL to tell them what I did to her finger and both of them reassured me that every mom does something like that and not to be too hard on myself. Easier said than done when you just made your baby bleed!

ETA: I texted my mom/MIL an hour or so later, not right when I did it. My first priority was comforting her!

Pinknights · February 2014

Two memorable ones come to mind. I took my LO to the first pediatrician visit. I had my aunt and uncle with me since it was a few days after giving birth. We get there and he goes poop poop twice and I realize I forgot the diaper bag! Thankfully they had diapers there. I felt so unprepared and dumb.

The second was changing him at the changing table. I decided to go wash his clothes quickly. I start walking towards the living room and DH says where's the baby? I quickly realize I had left him on the changing table by himself. I ran towards his room. What lack of sleep does to you... I felt bad for the next two days. Nothing happened but as a FTM I couldn't believe I could make such a mistake.

SunflowersBride · February 2014

I slipped on the stairs while holding DS. We both fell backwards and fortunately I was able to keep him from hitting his head, but it did snap back because I was holding him around his bottom. He screamed and I was terrified I had caused brain damage, but he was totally fine as soon as I nursed him. The worst part is that my mom would literally call me every day and tell me to be careful on the steps, and it drove me crazy and then I did fall!

MissMeegs · February 2014

All these stories are making me feel better, at least I know everyone has a "whoops" now and then! Of course I am now obsessing over the bright red diaper rash in the same area that DH put the hot water, and wondering if we burned him after all even though it's very clearly diaper rash. I keep slathering Butt Paste on it and tearing up at diaper changes.

@SunflowersBride My mother goes nuts over telling me to be careful on the steps. Our family room is in the basement, and the nursery is on the second floor, so we're up and down stairs a lot with LO. I am terrified of falling while carrying him, in part because I would hate to prove my mother right!

SunflowersBride · February 2014

MissMeegs said:

All these stories are making me feel better, at least I know everyone has a "whoops" now and then! Of course I am now obsessing over the bright red diaper rash in the same area that DH put the hot water, and wondering if we burned him after all even though it's very clearly diaper rash. I keep slathering Butt Paste on it and tearing up at diaper changes.

@SunflowersBride My mother goes nuts over telling me to be careful on the steps. Our family room is in the basement, and the nursery is on the second floor, so we're up and down stairs a lot with LO. I am terrified of falling while carrying him, in part because I would hate to prove my mother right!

I can't even begin to tell you how annoying it was to call and tell her. And typically this might have been something I would have kept under wraps, but my mom is a nurse and I wanted to ask her if I needed to take him to the hospital. And now she's doubly annoying about the steps! (We rent a 4 level townhouse so it's nothing but steps)

RedSaffron · February 2014

After I finished nursing, I was trying to pull up the flap to my nursing bra while DD was in my arms and my hand slipped and I lightly punched her in the face........ She didn't flinch, but oh the guilt...

angiek1 · February 2014

I'm a STM and I did this to DD#2 on Tuesday. She started freaking out and I couldn't understand why. Well the new sink got the best of me and I apparently turned the water hot when I was turning it off. When I went to rinse her she got a little too much heat. I felt so bad.

MIT721 · February 2014

bnik said:
We were at the mall. He was fussy I took him out of the carrier. And put him back in before we left. Then we drove across the street to babies r us. I went to check on him cause he was fussing again and realized I didn't buckle him I was so mad felt like the worst mom ever. My dh and sil kept telling me it was ok cause he was fine and now I'll remember for forever . I still feel bad

Worst mom ever?

I literally did this today. So no, you're not the worst mom ever.

I was snoozing on the couch with DD on my chest. I woke up to see her face down on the floor making little mewling sounds and moving her little arms and legs. I was HORRIFIED. I didn't tell my DH about it for at least a week.

Needless to say I don't do that anymore.

jwp325 · February 2014

I put DD own on her activity mat yesterday and moved my head too quickly and there was a little thud as her head hit. The mat is soft and I out a blanket under it since we have hardwood floors but still I felt so bad. She gave a little cry and then started kicking her toys like nothing had happened.

brittanydec2012 · February 2014

I feel like the worst mom ever since I was up feeding last night and read the thread about grocery shopping and not putting the carseat on the cart. I was totally doing this as I thought that was what the clip on the back of my carseat was for and that it was okay as long as I had that done up. I won't be doing that ever again! I couldn't sleep after I seen that I was the only one who thought that was okay.

joynalanson · February 2014

We had ours today. DS was submerge bathed for the first time today (usually sponge bathed) and we have a small sink so I told DH to rest the back of his seat against the sink rather than propped up on its stand so DS could recline. He accidentally tapped ds's head on the back of the sink as he laid him down and proceeded to freak out for the remainder of the bath. He was so sure kavi had a concussion and even had me check with a flashlight to make sure there were no bruises. I tried to reassure him but nothing I could say made him believe we haven't damaged our child.

mommabird77 · February 2014

With my first, I accidentally dropped a full bottle on his head while handing it to my husband. He was a week old. He cried and I cried. I also forgot to buckle him in once. This was so stupid of me, but with DD when she was 3 days old I was trying to get my 3 year old ready for school. I had to grab something for him so I left her on the couch. My husband went outside to start the car. When he came in the door, she was teetering on the edge of the couch and he caught her right before she fell off. I felt like the worst mother ever.

my5sons · February 2014

tiffy1693 said:
@MissMeegs, DH almost did that one day (his first time bathing her), luckily I asked him how he checked the temp first, he came and asked me to check it. Close call!

When Adalee was two weeks old to the day, I dropped her upside down in her bath (on the counter, she fell like 4in). I blew in her face so that she was breathing and then she was over it. I cried for like 10 minutes.

Fast forward to later that day... I was driving DH's car, which I never do. Came out from the store, put her in the car, shut the door, opened driver's door, started the car. It locked, I was outside. Thankfully I had my phone to call the police, but they didn't come for a half hour.

I was so upset that day, I told DH I wasn't fit to be a mother! It was just terrible that both of those things happened in the same day!

I locked DS1 in the car when he was just few months old...we were living in FL at the time and it was a scorching hot day, so at least I had the a/c on full blast. I pulled into my driveway and I was getting groceries out...I set them down so I could get the baby but for whatever reason, in my sleep deprived new mom state I swung the driver's door shut and just as it clicked shut I realized I had hit the door lock. Thank goodness he was sleeping and the car was still running with the a/c on...but I felt HORRIBLE: ( I stood there bawling and squalling beside his window waiting for AAA, panicked that he would wake up and freak out, or that my car would stall out and I would have to bust out a window...it was not one of my finer parenting moments...

chicki1012 · February 2014

When DS was circumcised his wee wee was almost completely healed but there was a little red, sore spot yet. Well I was changing him and he started to pee so I put the diaper over his junk so quick I ended up making him bleed and scream. I felt terrible!! I should if just let him pee on me!!!

casholmes · February 2014

I already shared this, but I rolled a blanket up under his bassinet mattress and it got bunched to one side, he rolled into the side and I didn't notice until I heard him struggling, thank God I was still in the room.

Once during a MOTN feeding I forgot to check his diaper, so when I did at the next feeding some of the poop was dried to his butt and he was red.

DH hit his head on the roof of the car getting him out of the car seat, but DS didn't even cry. DH felt worse about it.

Shannahbee · February 2014

My husband actually did this - We were at a Doctor's Appt and undressed LO to be weighed. When DH went to place him on the scale, he somehow dropped him a few inches above the scale, so that he hit his head and started screaming. The nurse was like, "Don't worry, we won't let Daddy do that to you again!"
He was so embarrassed and felt terrible. LO was fine!

amt0312 · February 2014

my DH had a FTD blunder once when DD was barely a week old. I was up taking a nap and he was watching the baby in the living room. He left her on the couch by herself a minute to get a glass of water and walked back into the room to watch the baby slide off the couch onto the floor. Luckily there was a pillow down there and the couch is pretty low to the ground, so no damage done, but he was devastated. He cried when he told me and asked for a hug because he felt so bad.

megngregk · February 2014

bnik said:
We were at the mall. He was fussy I took him out of the carrier. And put him back in before we left. Then we drove across the street to babies r us. I went to check on him cause he was fussing again and realized I didn't buckle him I was so mad felt like the worst mom ever. My dh and sil kept telling me it was ok cause he was fine and now I'll remember for forever . I still feel bad

Worst mom ever?

This. I nursed him in the Mall of America, put him back in the carseat on the stroller, packed up the diaper bag and went to find DH and ILs. Then we left. We drove about 10 minutes before I realized it. I was so upset with myself I almost threw up.

bnik · February 2014

So glad I'm not alone! Lol.

ThankfulSnail · February 2014

I feel bad for throwing DH's blunder under the bus, but it could just as easily have been me. DH & I were hanging on the couch, and he had dozed off with DD napping on his chest. I guess he was at a bit of an angle because all of a sudden I saw a flash of yellow as DD dropped about a foot from his chest to the next seat over on the couch. DH and I both freaked out, but DD didn't even wake up.

We'll still nap with her sleeping on us, we just make sure we're a little more secure now.

brideandbreve · February 2014

When DS was about 7-8 months old, we had him in the high-chair in the kitchen and he was eating a snack. DH had put him in there and hadn't strapped him in, so when my mom walked up and removed the tray part to get him out of the high-chair, DS fell forward onto the kitchen floor and hit his forehead/face on the floor. Traumatic for all of us. I sobbed hysterically, and the image of him falling forward and the sound of his head hitting the floor haunted me for weeks. Luckily, he was totally fine. Twenty minutes after the incident, he was grinning and smiling as usual.. but man, that incident.. I'll hate myself forever for that.

joynalanson · February 2014

This reminds me of the story of how my cousin fell out of the car onto the highway on ramp. He wasnt buckled in and the door wasn't locked. This was 23 years ago, before regulations on car seats, and he's as normal as anyone in my crazy family. There's photo evidence- my aunt still took family pix shortly after and he had a nice forehead scar and a busted lip.

jeslillyn · February 2014

I bumped LOs head off the door frame when walking out of his bedroom

he cried for a second I cried for five minutes .

OnBabymaking226 · February 2014

DD has had a little tiny bit of brown umbilical cord residue in her belly button since most of it fell off after birth. Since everyone is so gung-ho about not touching the stump and letting it do its own thing, that's what I've been doing. DD had her 2 month appt w/ pediatrician today, and he said something about it and how it looked pretty weird and cleaned most of it out, and said we could get the rest with a q-tip at home. I feel bad I let her be all gross (even just in her belly button), but I thought it was just taking a long time to come out on it's own! Derp.

Jmattis · February 2014

DS has wacked his head into mine a few times during a screaming fit and I was worried I gave the kid brain damage. My head was throbbing so I know his had to be!

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