housewarming registry?

lrichmond86 · February 2014

A fb friend posted today saying she saw that there was a news registry option at a store she was shopping at: housewarming. I suppose the idea is that when you purchase a new home you register for the things you still need/want so people know what to get you when they visit said home. My first reaction was super tacky. Others brought up goodp points about people who plan to stay single or. can't get married and will never have other "shower" type opportunities. I knew you ladies would have opinions. So what do you think? Is it tacky to register for/ expect housewarming gifts? Or does it make sense in some situations?

yelyah4826 · February 2014

We had a housewarming party that was thrown for us but we never registered for it. We got small gifts, wine, dishcloths, that type. I don't know of anyone that registers for a housewarming where I live. its more so come see our house and have some food and people usually only bring a small something.

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sdtchica13 · February 2014

Having a housewarming party is fine...registering for gifts is tacky as all hell.

new2011mommy · February 2014

I think it would depend on the circumstances. None of my friends or I had house warming parties, but we bought our houses not long after getting married and having bridal showers.

lrichmond86 · February 2014

I have no problem with the party. It's the registry that I'm questioning

fabk · February 2014

The last thing I needed to add to my huge to do pile when we bought our house was register for housewarming.
I am fine with the party but registering is stupid.

KikiCohen · February 2014

I'm probably in the minority here, but registries don't bother me at all. Sometimes I wish people did Christmas/birthday registries. It sure would make shopping a lot easier.

geoffandjen728 · February 2014

I agree with one exception... If the store gives a registry completion discount and/or you DO NOT tell anyone you are registered and just use it as a list for yourself (and MAYBE for parents if they are like mine and always asking for gift wish lists)

RoRo10733 · February 2014

KikiCohen said:

I'm probably in the minority here, but registries don't bother me at all. Sometimes I wish people did Christmas/birthday registries. It sure would make shopping a lot easier.

I've used Etsy for this purpose before. I glance through what friends have liked and buy for them that way. Kids are the hardest for me though. I never know what they like so I've been buying gift cards to places like kids play places or paint your own ceramics.

hollandmama · February 2014

sdtchica13 said:
Having a housewarming party is fine...registering for gifts is tacky as all hell.

This

dliz87 · February 2014

Our family loves registries. It's about them more than us. We make lists for the kids birthdays and really any gift giving occassion you can think of. Not because I want to, but because they ask it of us.

So maybe her fam is cray like ours and someone asked her. I will say that we only share the lists with those who ask though.

lancomechica · February 2014

I would register for housewarming gifts and not share it...reason being...discount at completion.
That's why I had 4 baby registries but people only knew about 2.

atlvol · February 2014

Party, yes. Registering, no.

aehamilton13 · February 2014

Registry is tacky!!

theuntaggablek · February 2014

I see the tackiness element, but I really do think there's an inequality issue between single and (in some states gay) friends and married/straight ones on registries. I have an awesome friend who's single. She has given very generous gifts to me and all her close friends on the occasions of bridal showers, weddings, baby showers, babies. She has had no such showers.

What are the etiquette issues of having a view-able Amazon wish list? Is it just the word "registry" that makes it tacky? Or is there some sort of fundamental distinction that I don't see here?

martyn17 · February 2014

I think its a little tacky, but it also comes down to the house warming party. If one threw themself a house warming party and shared their own registry information, I would be all kinds of snark-y and side eye-y.

I think throwing yourself a house warming but not asking for gifts is completely fine.

lrichmond86 · February 2014

ken&kendra said:
I see the tackiness element, but I really do think there's an inequality issue between single and (in some states gay) friends and married/straight ones on registries. I have an awesome friend who's single. She has given very generous gifts to me and all her close friends on the occasions of bridal showers, weddings, baby showers, babies. She has had no such showers.

What are the etiquette issues of having a view-able Amazon wish list? Is it just the word "registry" that makes it tacky? Or is there some sort of fundamental distinction that I don't see here?

I think if you have a friend (such as yours) it would be totally appropriate to ask them what they need for the house and give as generously as you see fit. To me, a registry implies that a gift is expected, whereas a house warming party is an opportunity to welcome friends into your new home.

Caitable25 · February 2014

I wouldn't phase me. If I wanted to get them a gift off the registry, fine, if not, then I wouldn't. I don't think its uber tacky - especially if they are getting a discount as mentioned before, and if its a single friend who really hasn't had the opportunity to registry before. Reminds me of the Sex and the City episode when Carrie registers for shoes

theuntaggablek · February 2014

@lrichmond86 - makes sense. Just wanted to hear it out.

Lelo2006 · February 2014

Playing devil's advocate, here...

What if your friend is throwing a housewarming party for you, and sends out invites with registry information on it? Is that still tacky? How is that different than a baby shower or a bridal shower? Is it just that we are used to registries for weddings and babies?

I think getting married, having kids, and home buying are all pretty big life events...

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I'm with some of the other PP's the party itself is fine, but registering for gifts is weird.

miss2697 · February 2014

We did it years ago. We moved in together when we were 20, both went to local colleges so we never even got to experience the young adult life most college kids do (i.e., shopping for dishes, decor, etc). Never thought about tact, but we were 20...

pgermain11 · February 2014

I think a registry is weird. I don't need anyone to warm my house with gifts, just their love and well wishes! For our housewarming party though I got asked several times if I was making a registry or what did I need. I was surprised people though they felt they needed to bring me something, but then again when I go to someone's house I always bring something.

KMRR86 · February 2014

I'm also iffy on the registry. I always bring a small gift to a housewarming because houses are expensive here so it's a big deal when friends are able to buy. It doesn't make me clutch my pearls, but it does make me raise a brow.

Lelo2006 · February 2014

somerandomchick said:
@Lelo2006 the big difference is that a baby/bridal shower is ABOUT gifts, where a housewarming is not. For a housewarming you might take a small gift--a bottle of wine, a candle, etc.

Just because somebody isn't planning to get married doesn't mean they should turn their housewarming into a bridal shower.

But you don't invite all your wedding guests to your shower(s)... And they still give you gifts...

ETA: I do think it's tacky... But I'm just trying to put my finger on why?

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Lelo2006 · February 2014

NKaeding said:

Lelo2006 said:

Playing devil's advocate, here...

What if your friend is throwing a housewarming party for you, and sends out invites with registry information on it? Is that still tacky? How is that different than a baby shower or a bridal shower? Is it just that we are used to registries for weddings and babies?

I think getting married, having kids, and home buying are all pretty big life events...

1-You don't send out invites for your own baby shower/wedding shower. Someone else does.

2-The registry info shouldn't be on the invite anyway.

No, I know - I'm saying what if your friend threw you a housewarming and put the info on the invitations (see above). If your friend threw you a baby shower or a wedding shower, they would put the registry info there, right?

Hilaboo86 · February 2014

Housewarming party is great..registering for stuff ehhh not really

jackson290721 · February 2014

I feel like a friend throwing a housewarming part would be weird.

Friends, please don't offer to throw me a party at my house, that I would have to clean for, clean up after, and maintain during. Not a fun gift.

lrichmond86 · February 2014

jackson290721 said:
I feel like a friend throwing a housewarming part would be weird.

Friends, please don't offer to throw me a party at my house, that I would have to clean for, clean up after, and maintain during. Not a fun gift.

Right? ! This is what I thought! Then I wondered if maybe I was weird for thinking this. I would never want anyone to plan a party at my house!

je2161 · February 2014

The registry part tacky as hell.

Lelo2006 · February 2014

NKaeding said:

Lelo2006 said:

NKaeding said:

Lelo2006 said:

Playing devil's advocate, here...

What if your friend is throwing a housewarming party for you, and sends out invites with registry information on it? Is that still tacky? How is that different than a baby shower or a bridal shower? Is it just that we are used to registries for weddings and babies?

I think getting married, having kids, and home buying are all pretty big life events...

1-You don't send out invites for your own baby shower/wedding shower. Someone else does.
2-The registry info shouldn't be on the invite anyway.
No, I know - I'm saying what if your friend threw you a housewarming and put the info on the invitations (see above). If your friend threw you a baby shower or a wedding shower, they would put the registry info there, right?

No. Registry info shouldn't be on the invite regardless of host.

Guests should ask the host for registry info if they need it, but it shouldn't be on the invite for any party, wedding, baby, etc.

Really?! I've never heard that! I've just heard that it shouldn't be on the wedding invitations. Interesting take.

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