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July 2012 Moms
apollonia10
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I had a toddler class breakdown (long)
apollonia10
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Not DS, lol, me!
First, I really dislike these classes. It's nothing about this one in particular, it's not just not my cup of tea. I take DS because he can play different instruments and play with kids, but he doesn't even like it that much.
So today a girl took an instrument out of his hands - like, snatched it away - and then screamed directly in his face. She did this to a bunch of other kids too, but I seriously had to take a second and try to compose myself because I was going to burst into tears. I figure it's because of:
1. Pregnancy hormones, obv.
2. The idea that I can't protect him from the cruelty of the world, and that there will always be a kid that will take his toy and scream in his face. He handled it fine and I didn't step in because I don't want him to learn that Mom solves all his social problems, but it was so hard for me to see it.
3. The gall of the mom who kept allowing her kid to bully the other kids. I know this mom, she is really nice, but she brought both of her kids today and couldn't handle them running off in different directions. There would be several times when the girl (who was at least a year older than the 18 month olds in the class) would be yelling at a kid, her sister would be climbing on the piano in the room, and the mom was just chatting to another mom. I tried SO HARD not to judge her parenting. One mom had to snap at the yelling girl because her daughter was sobbing and the girl was yelling "STOP, CRYBABY!!" And her mom just did nothing.
4. A big reason I tried not to judge her parenting is that I'm going to have 2 under 2 in a few months and I'm so scared they're going to run wild.
Anyway, I composed myself and DS was totally fine, I just experienced a lot of emotions at once, lol. Does it bother you guys when kids are mean to your LOs?
First, I really dislike these classes. It's nothing about this one in particular, it's not just not my cup of tea. I take DS because he can play different instruments and play with kids, but he doesn't even like it that much.
So today a girl took an instrument out of his hands - like, snatched it away - and then screamed directly in his face. She did this to a bunch of other kids too, but I seriously had to take a second and try to compose myself because I was going to burst into tears. I figure it's because of:
1. Pregnancy hormones, obv.
2. The idea that I can't protect him from the cruelty of the world, and that there will always be a kid that will take his toy and scream in his face. He handled it fine and I didn't step in because I don't want him to learn that Mom solves all his social problems, but it was so hard for me to see it.
3. The gall of the mom who kept allowing her kid to bully the other kids. I know this mom, she is really nice, but she brought both of her kids today and couldn't handle them running off in different directions. There would be several times when the girl (who was at least a year older than the 18 month olds in the class) would be yelling at a kid, her sister would be climbing on the piano in the room, and the mom was just chatting to another mom. I tried SO HARD not to judge her parenting. One mom had to snap at the yelling girl because her daughter was sobbing and the girl was yelling "STOP, CRYBABY!!" And her mom just did nothing.
4. A big reason I tried not to judge her parenting is that I'm going to have 2 under 2 in a few months and I'm so scared they're going to run wild.
Anyway, I composed myself and DS was totally fine, I just experienced a lot of emotions at once, lol. Does it bother you guys when kids are mean to your LOs?
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Re: I had a toddler class breakdown (long)
Awwe, I hate that you got emotional over it, but I totally understand.
The other day at the park K, along with a few other toddlers, was playing on the play gym designated for kids age 5 and under. It has a lot of long ramps and slides and safer stuff. Anyway, there were 2 kids probably 7 and 9ish who were riding their bikes ON the play gym! Like racing down the ramps and whatnot. I was already annoyed, but then one of them went racing by K and I had to grab him and pull him aside so he didn't get hit and I said something. I told the kids that this play area was for babies and that bikes were not allowed because they were not safe for the babies. Neither of them listened and continued on racing their bikes around. I definitely shot the mom, who was sitting nearby and watching her kids misbehave, a dirty look.
ETA: When reading the last sentence, it sounds like I literally shot the mom. LOL. whoops.
It is especially hard at home. It hurts me to watch my kids hurt each other. I just don't understand why they would hurt each other, you know? How they can watch their sibling cry yet continue to do the action that hurt them
Cortlandt has a lot of sensory issues which in turn has caused social issues and it absolutely broke my heart when he came home from school a few weeks ago and said "mommy no one plays with me at school". His teachers see this and understand his struggles so they give him extra arts and crafts to do while the others play and stuff like that but it is so hard to know that he is being bullied in school at 3 years old!
Being a mom is hard and the quote that our hearts walk outside of bodies is so true, it just makes m heart ache when someone is mean to my boys. You handled it amazingly!