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My love/hate relationship with the scales (mostly hate)

Myanswer trueMyanswer true member
in July 2014 Moms
Went in for my 20 week appointment today, and for the first time, I weighed more than I did pre-pregnancy. I know its ridiculous, but for some reason that bothered me (mostly because I tacked on 7 pounds in 4 weeks). I've always struggled with weight problems, and I was already considered "obese" before getting pregnant. I feel like the skinny little nurse-educator is continually whispering in my ear "we'd like to see you keep your weight gain to 15 pounds or less", and despite my doctor not saying anything about my weight from the beginning, I'm concerned about not gaining too much weight and causing issues for the baby.  The weird thing is, I feel like I look the best I've looked in ages, and most of this weight is in my boobs and stomach, but I'm just paranoid.
Anyone else struggling with this too?
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Re: My love/hate relationship with the scales (mostly hate)

  • mecheller88mecheller88 member
    I know how you feel! I have always had body image issues myself and after I had DS I worked really hard to get into shape. Now I have gained 12 pounds and I'm only going to be 19 weeks. I know that gaining weight is a part of pregnancy and I try to tell myself it is only temporary, but it is still hard when you have struggled with your weight all your life.

     

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  • emineminememineminem member
    Great attitude and advice @summerlovin314!

    I'm feeling the same way...was so proud of myself for only gaining 2-3lbs and then sometime between 18 and 20 weeks that number has grown to 7-8! My NP told me to aim for 11 lbs the whole pregnancy! So, not a lot of advice I can give you but hey, at least misery loves company.


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  • bzbear2bzbear2 member
    I really believe that for the most part the body does what it needs to. I am starting this pregnancy lighter and more aware than my last but my weight patterns are developing EXACTLY the same.i have big jumps in the second trimester (like 6-7 pounds/month) and then things level out. It is what it is. I lost it all really quickly last time so in not too worried.
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  • Kristen0705Kristen0705 member
    I know exactly how you feel. I'm finally 1 lb over my pre-pregnancy weight and it's hard for me to look at the scales and see that, knowing it's going to continue going up. I've struggled with weight my whole adult life. The only thing helping calm my weight fears is when i look at what is adding weight to my body (baby, placenta, etc...). And remember that if you're gaining weight it's because you're growing a happy baby!
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  • marsalisailsmarsalisails member
    I THOUGHT that I was fine with gaining weight - I had gained 60 with DS, and lost it ALL at first. Then add a stressful job and hectic life on top of it, and in the last 3 years I've gained 20 pounds back all on my own. So I went into this pregancy simply thinking if I could keep it under 40 pounds if be ok.

    I'm surrounded by supportive people both at home and at work. My doctor hasn't even so much as mentioned weight, and neither have the nurses. I eat pretty well, but I'm a complete stress eater, so sometimes I get a little out I control, but I've only gained about 7-8 pounds and I'm 16 weeks...by this point in my last pregnancy I had gained twice that easily.

    So I thought I was feelin great about it...everything is going according to plan, and everyone says I look great. And then I had a HORRIBLE dream that I was HUGE (whatever that means to a sleeping brain), and only 20 weeks, and it has totally put me in a bad frame of mind - I guess I'm not that comfortable after all.

    So I guess what I'm saying is that EVERYONE has some sort of issue. I'm on mobile so I can't see your siggy to know if this is your first, but our bodies change SO MUCH after birth that even women that start out at a "normal" weight don't even recognize themselves for a while. We will all have to find a new normal and work hard to accept ourselves - we are always our own worse critics.

    Be kind to yourself - we all go through it, but the honor of having carried your baby long outweighs our insecurities and doubts :)

    Sorry for the book!

     

     

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  • ashlya1ashlya1 member
    I started out overweight, and I stepped on the scale and have gained 9 lbs. I am 19 weeks today. I also am suppose to keep the weight gain at 15-20 lbs. I am Stressing about too much weight gain. I guess they will tell me about it next week at my 20 appt. Ugh!
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  • jjess1201jjess1201 member
    I totally understand where you are coming from! I have always been conscious of my weight, obesity runs in my family. I work out a lot and try to eat right but im still over weight, I was about 180 when I became pregnant. My goal is to only gain 20lbs before I deliver but I know sometimes the body just needs to gain more.I was suprised but my OB said that based on my BMI I should gain 25-35. Im hoping to stay on the lower end of that! At this point, I've gained about 11. Im hoping I will be like other people and lose it right away. Good luck to all you ladies! :)
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  • PrncestaPrncesta member
    I was having complete anxiety about this a few weeks ago and wrote a similar post, and today, I feel much better about gaining weight then I did then. Everyone's bodies are going to change differently, and the weight you're gaining is for your baby's health. It's ok to have anxieties because most of us spend our entire lives trying to lose weight and now we're told to GAIN weight and be ok with it!

    Just try and eat healthy, exercise, drink water and get a good amount of sleep! If you're doing all these important things for your body, then don't worry about that scale! Enjoy your pregnancy, it's the most beautiful thing you're ever going to do!
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  • earichar23earichar23 member
    I completely understand the emotional roller coaster of weight gain. I worked hard for years to get to my "healthy" BMI which I reached last summer. You know, a few months before getting pregnant. Now I'm gaining weight like it's my job. Oh wait, it is my job! But I'm up 19lb in 20 weeks which sounds outrageous and I swear it's all in my boobs and belly. I'm still wearing regular (super low rise) jeans. I go back and forth daily about how I feel about how I look and the scale.
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  • Myanswer trueMyanswer true member
    Thank you ladies for making me feel less alone in feeling this way! When I've discussed with DH, he always reacts with some variation of "you're pregnant, you're supposed to gain weight", which completely ignores the way I'm feeling. Yes, I understand I'm growing a tiny person, and most days, I feel like I look super sexy pregnant. Its just that number that scares the bejeezus out of me. Maybe I should stop looking at the scale entirely.
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  • marsalisailsmarsalisails member
    Some people get weighed "backward" and the office so they don't see where the weights slide to. Meaning their back is to the numbers, and they don't see what's written...maybe that's an idea?

     

     

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