Emotions in overdrive

LibbyJo1067 · February 2014

Greetings ladies, I've never posted but often read posts to see how others are getting on with being pregnant. I don't want to worry my friends so I'm talking to you. Pregnancy has been way more emotional than I planned for... I mean I expect fully to be challenged with motherhood but this pregnancy has been an emotional roller coaster for me. I can hardly contain/control myself. I've been so distracted emotionally that I can't even concentrate on my school work and am contemplating quitting. I'm simply not giving my best at design school and am wondering if I don't have enough passion for it to keep me going. I mean shouldn't I want to do the work?? I'm no quitter but I'm wondering if it's really for the best... Any advice or encouragement you can offer would really be awesome. Thanks for reading.

nunzchucks · February 2014

Have you considered talking with a therapist? I know a few ladies here suffer from anxiety, etc. and have a support check-in on Wednesday. You may find some helpful advice there, too.

Eta: Tagging @sarajoy00

crossfitkiwi · February 2014

I have no advice but just wanted to say I can also totally relate to the work motivation thing. I worked hard over the last year to get to a senior position and now feel like I have zero drive and am throwing it all away. It makes me feel guilty to see DH still working hard and me just wanting to nest and potter around the house.

LibbyJo1067 · February 2014

@kettlebabe, that's exactly how I'm feeling! Guilty because of my contribution, or lack there of... Husband says I'm too hard on myself, which helps but still.

kibean · February 2014

Sorry you are feeling that way. I think it is kinda going around among most people I know. Maybe it is the weather, maybe it is our hormones, maybe it is just life getting stressful, or having new priorities, but in any case speaking to someone certainly couldn't hurt. It might even give you some clarity as to whether this is a passing phase or more of a sign that you aren't interested in your chosen career.

Also, just for the record, when I was in grad school studying the field I wanted to go into I also thought I should be enjoying everything about it and put a lot of pressure on myself second guessing if I was wasting time/money when at times I was less than thrilled. However, school is always so much different than whatever career you go into, and I now love my job (can't say I loved school) so take that into consideration as well.

I hope things get better for you!

wtfisup · February 2014

I've had awful anxiey, tearfulness, etc for a week. Just left my therapy appt and feel so much better. I can't say enough about the benefits of counseling.

JulieSmiles · February 2014

I'm feeling really similar. I feel so uninspired by my work right now and wish I could be doing something different or be somewhere different. I love what I do, but don't feel like I'm at the right place doing it right now. It is so hard to go in each day and put in my best when I just don't feel it. I'm disappointed with myself for my attitude, but can't seem to change. This last few weeks have been really hard so I think that hormones play a huge role in my feelings too. Thanks for letting me unload.

colllydon · February 2014

I'm sorry you are feeling that way! I have nothing to offer but positive thoughts your way!

BabyCurtiss2014 · February 2014

Just wanted to say good luck to all who are struggling emotionally and with work. Xo

Mom&nurse · February 2014

I totally can relate. It isn't what I thought it was going to be. Did u struggle before and go off meds? I did. I always dreamed of being pregnant after being told at 12 I wouldn't be able to. It's all I wanted in life and at 29 now it's not what I dreamed it would be. Being the happy bubbly pregnant girl. Great full for everything around me. Smiling. Being happy. I spend most the time crying and trying not to cry. Even the small things get me going this last two weeks.

This helps me. I allow three things go everyday. If they would make me upset or mad or angry. I let 3 go. If its the 4 th then I let myself cry. Nothing is wrong with crying. Not very often does it get to three.

I also am considering talking to my dr or seeing someone. I don't want meds I know some they say are safe. Not going to risk it right now. But something has to give.

Just know u are not alone. I'm here to talk if u want to u can pm me.

Ashes92813 · February 2014

The support group check in is a good way to vent, get feedback, etc. Just an idea, add positive coping skills/stress relief ideas/new vices to it? So a place to vent and get feedback and advice and ideas too.

For example: my sister is obnoxious and stressing me out.... I cope by venting to friends and keeping my contact with her brief but efficient. When it goes too far, I then turn my ringer off, leave my phone in a different room and do things that calm me down, like play with my dogs, cook a new recipe, walk the dogs or play on Pinterest.

Irenehk · February 2014

I am absolutely a lurker who very very rarely posts, but I do read the posts pretty regularly. I just want to thank the OP and all those who posted on this topic. It makes me feel so much better to know I'm not the only one who feels like I no longer have the motivation to do what I've always loved career wise. I don't know if it's the hormones, the horrible winter or what, but I do know reading this thread made me feel better. Thank you again!

LttleJess · February 2014

Coming from a reformed busy-body, it's totally the baby!! Although talking to a pro is always a good way to go as well. still feeling as though I will never regain the motivation to get everything done that I once did, but I'm told that will pass, so I'm holding out for it. Stick with school, you will not regret it. Keep things in perspective. You are growing a human and some days/weeks it literally just sucks the life out of you. Hang in there, things will get better.

Brijonunez · February 2014

I know exactly what you mean. And although my advice may not help any, but to get my mind off of all the crap that's been either upsetting me or whatnot I found a job that kept me away from it. (Before my job,I was just at home all day, which I think added to it).
I hope you feel better. And quitting school isn't the answer to solve your problems. Maybe try something different?

Dharmatron · February 2014

My motivation has completely disappeared as well. It's good to see that many of you ladies are experiencing the same things. I always get a bit down during the winter so I know that I'll be feeling much better emotionally in a few weeks when the weather gets nicer.

jclester614 · February 2014

I'm with you on the zero-motivation at work. I think if I didn't work for DH (slash myself, I guess), I would probably be fired. Or maybe quit. But I'm super blessed to work at home, have a flexible work schedule, and reduced winter hours (we run a tree service) so I've been hanging on so far.

It's hard. I struggled with depression for about two years and was just feeling like I was starting to mend when I got pregnant. So, climbing out of darkness is slow work!

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