My BMB is useless

Gamera3000 · February 2014

It has become so snarky that literally any thread I click on is full of like twenty posters jumping on the OP for grammar/spelling or for asking a question. The third tri board is almost as bad, I imagine because the same people are in there.

I officially complained to the mod and after a few days got a reply pretty much saying she didn't care unless a clear rule was broken. I have no idea what the official rules are here, but apparently they're looser than other boards.

Who wants to see scared new moms yelled at for anything they say? If someone irritates you why not just not answer? Google is my new go to for odd questions.

I wouldn't use TB at all if not for this board, which is endlessly supportive and useful for practical information.

saisongbird · February 2014

Gamera3000 said:

It has become so snarky that literally any thread I click on is full of like twenty posters jumping on the OP for grammar/spelling or for asking a question. The third tri board is almost as bad, I imagine because the same people are in there. I officially complained to the mod and after a few days got a reply pretty much saying she didn't care unless a clear rule was broken. I have no idea what the official rules are here, but apparently they're looser than other boards. Who wants to see scared new moms yelled at for anything they say? If someone irritates you why not just not answer? Google is my new go to for odd questions. I wouldn't use TB at all if not for this board, which is endlessly supportive and useful for practical information.

QFP.

The bump never forgets.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Gamera i love you. To everyone else howdy. Welcome to the single parents board, we here shit rainbows and unicorns dont like it. Then get the fuck out.

And i get it, general ettiquette says dont bitch about one board on a different board. But

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Oh and gamera you got pmed

20thirteen · February 2014

Wow, hello newbies... Bahaha!

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Yeah i creeped in them they stumbled upon our board looking for the dramas while experiencing the pregnency insomnia. Oh and they thought they were sooo cool for making fun of Thors name because hes named after a super hero.

So dirty lurkers got any advice for us single moms or maybe you want to join in discussing the ins and outs of being a single parent.

Or maybe, and just maybe your all just a bunch of drama queens who lurked our board lookin for some dramas. So how about you all fuck off.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Also @gamera3000 Thor's name. Did you get it from the comic or the norse mythology? Inquiring minds want to know

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

I feel like we should start a lovefest thread... this is happening. Im doing it.

Gamera3000 · February 2014

My late brother was heavy into Norse mythology and he got me interested in it. Thor has my brothers first name and Thor as a middle name. My brother was the finest person I ever knew so I wanted my son to be named after him.

I'm a sociologist and I'm not surprised by the hysterical reaction. There's an interesting book called Virtually You that discusses the destructive influences of online identity. People often act online in ways they would never act in real life.

Thank you girls for sticking up for me. I really appreciate the support and positive feelings on this board.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

I now love little Thors name even more.

20thirteen · February 2014

Me too. You're such a great person @gamera3000

jdias428 · February 2014

woah.

I've steered clear of my BMB for the same reason.

artistlife · February 2014

It's really lame that they followed you here, @gamera3000. I guess no place is safe from the BMB drama. I am a part of the November BLADS and we have done our fair share of snark, but we wouldn't dare step foot on a board like this that is meant for support on a very sensitive topic. I think they were very insensitive.

As for the mod response- I am the mod of my BMB. When I hear from someone that they are unhappy with the responses of other board members I always ask which TOS they violated. I cannot warn or ban for any other reason than what is listed in the TOS. The main rules that I warn far are: name calling/bullying, spam, posting personal info, and harassment. We are all adults so curse words are allowed, but calling someone a curse word isn't allowed. Some of the rules can be blurry. Like telling someone they are stupid vs calling someone a stupid idiot. Each mod usually has their own threshold on what crosses the line. I hope that helps.

tig594 · February 2014

I avoid most other boards for the same reason. The excuse for being mean is that "hey, this is TB and we don't sugar coat shit here! If you can't take it go post elsewhere." I'd think following her to this board to give her shit for expressing her opinion/dislike for others behaivor (without mentioning any names even!) would be considered bullying but that's just me.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

I also love how it was only a couple shit stirers and a handful of passive agressive special snow flakes who liked it.

And as they pointed out the bump never forgets

20thirteen · February 2014

Yeah, and apparently they can't handle it when shit is given right back. LOL

20thirteen · February 2014

"waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!! I was mean to someone and someone else stood up for them and was mean to meeeeeeeeeeeeee!! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!"

HAHAHAHA wow, must suck to be stood up to when you're in the wrong. Thanks for stalking!

tig594 · February 2014

OMG did you get that message from the mod?

20thirteen · February 2014

Yep. Sorry not sorry that I stood up for Gamera. Not my fault that people can't take the shit they dish out.

tig594 · February 2014

It'a okay to taunt and bully, though? I don't get it. I wonder about some of these people parenting skills sometimes.

20thirteen · February 2014

Watch what you say, tig! They might report you for questioning their parenting skills! LOL

tig594 · February 2014

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Say hi dirty lurkers!

Gamera3000 · February 2014

I love you @roxalot!

It really bothers me to see other people get bullied, which is why I both officially and unofficially complained about it. It's been getting way out of hand on those boards and it took me aback.

From a professional perspective and a personal one, its never a good thing when people forget that they are a real person and their actions (including speech) affect other real people.

20thirteen · February 2014

Eh, its the whole faux anonymity. Somehow it makes people think they have balls.

Also, they believe they can blame pregnancy hormones for the way they treat people. You know, because they can really only blame what they're doing on their pregnancy. Thanks soon-to-be MOTHERS. This whole "lead by example" thing is really not on the top of your priority list. LOL

tig594 · February 2014

Hey, keep in mind that some of them are already moms. Scary, isn't it?

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Honestley 90% percent of the crap i see on this board is the shit my friends andidid when we were 16 and new to the internet.

I got lucky with my bmb though, there were and still is a couple former single moms, and we did get crazy snarky at the end but by the end we had 12 drive intros and more questions about mucus plugs, am i in labor, etc questions a day so it kinda became our mantra to say google it, we dont know we arent your midwife/ob.

In general though we werent bitchy until our crazies came out. And we still get gbcb still. Meh, like i said i have a love hate relationship with my bmb.

tig594 · February 2014

Damn, Gamera. I just popped into your BMB for kicks and you're right. I'm so glad I didn't fall into that group.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

tig594 said:
Damn, Gamera. I just popped into your BMB for kicks and you're right. I'm so glad I didn't fall into that group.

Bitches be cray

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Gamera3000 · February 2014

I just don't think people realize what they're doing when they get so negative.

What if I was at Walmart and had a real dumb question about something. Would it be okay for 10+ people to come up to me and tell me how stupid I am? Since its public its supposed to be okay?

Sure we've all been in a bad mood and snapped at someone, but what I was referring to was systematic bullying.

I've said this before but I think it's worth saying again: each of us has a social obligation to treat other people appropriately. That's not my opinion it's a social rule.

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MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

@Beccaga16 i like you im glad youve been around more.

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MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

beccaga16 said:

MinnesotaMomma91 said:

@Beccaga16 i like you im glad youve been around more.

lol thanks. I try to deliver my opinions with respect even if I do not agree. It is a lot easier for me in a way to keep my cool because I am "removed" from my drama. I have had almost 4 years of SP experience and my X is in prison with no contact.

I can definitley respect that. I like that you are always respectful but honest.

Gamera3000 · February 2014

Oh no @beccaga16- I wasn't disagreeing with you either. I just think that some people try to pretend that they're coming from your perspective, which is reasonable, when really they're going way beyond into just being mean.

Lord knows I've gotten tired of certain kinds of people or behavior and I haven't had the patience to be nice.

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