how long do u let LO cry if they wake up MOTN before going in?

athomas2424 · February 2014

LO has started waking up in the MOTN crying. He always goes back to sleep on his own, but sometimes that means standing and crying for 20 minutes. I hate to go in there before 20 min because I know he will go back to sleep on his own if i just let him cry. I feel like if i start going in that will be all she wrote and i'll start creating bad habits of him knowing i'll run in when he cries. Just weird that he is suddenly waking multiple times screaming like this, even if he does go back to sleep eventually. just wondering do you have a set amount of minutes that you tell yourself you will see if they go back to sleep on their own before rushing in?

athomas2424 · February 2014

Yes, 99.99% of the time he will go back down on his own...usually after 5-10 min but sometimes (not often) it has been as long as 20-30 minutes. I know he is fully capable which is why I just let him CIO. Guess I can't help but to feel bad just in case something was hurting but that will just always be a worry :-)

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pb_bride · February 2014

DS usually STTN, so if he starts SCREAMING MOTN, it is usually something wrong - eg, teething, sickness etc. When he cries, he literally SCREAMs his head off, like someone is torturing him. If this doesn't subside within a minute or two, DH will go in to soothe DS. We know from experience that if DS doesn't quiet himself down after a few minutes, he will only escalate the crying and screaming, and it takes even longer to calm him back down. In our house, there is no way we can listen to his blood-curdling scream for 20 minutes. But that's just DS.

Meery82 · February 2014

It depends on the cry. I can tell when DS is crying in his sleep and he usually stops after a minute or two. If he doesn't stop soon or wakes up crying, I will go in and try to pat his back until he quits crying. If that doesn't work, which means he is awake, something is usually wrong. He did it early this morning. Was wide awake and chewing on his his finger, so I knew his teeth hurt. I gave him teething tablets and brought him back to bed with us.

sschwege · February 2014

I think it's just more about knowing your kid at this point. With my first I would wait maybe 20 min or so, it took DD some time to learn to sleep well. With my second he was a good sleeper from day one, it's extremely rare that he wakes, so if he's been crying for more than a minute I go in. With DS I know there's a reason.

ilovedesi · February 2014

Definitely depends on the type of cry. If it is an outburst of screaming that she keeps on doing I will go in because something is wrong. If it is just regular "I'm alone and I don't want to be" crying I will just let her go until she falls back asleep, at the most 15 minutes.

cedenton · February 2014

We've gone from 0 wakeup for 8 + months to one wakeup nearly every night for 3-4 months. I know I probably need to not give in, but if I give him milk he goes right back to sleep and then he might sleep in. So I'll take being awake for 15 minutes and him waking up between 7 and 8 or him being up at 5:30. He's also been sprouting teeth for pretty much that whole time plus multiple ear infections. Hopefully it will stop soon.

BLPL101 · February 2014

She cries most nights because she lost her paci. Once she finds it she goes right back down.

MaggieF516 · February 2014

Wow, I guess I'm a pushover because I go in after like 3 minutes. I know if he's standing, he's not going to just put himself to sleep. I then get in the crib with him (don't even ask, I'm crazy I know and refuse to bring him in my bed as it took FOREVER to get him out) until he falls asleep and then try to sneak out. Ugh. I just hate the idea of him being alone and scared in the dark

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