~~ ~ Pact Grads Check In ~~~

TJ1979 · February 2014

Morning pregnant mamas. How is everyone? Anything new? Any updates? Questions? Comments? New fluff?
Today lets talk about pregnancy pet peeves. Next week we can talk about warm and fuzzies.

TJ1979 · February 2014

I'm feeling pretty good. I started a prenatal yoga class yesterday and it really made my hips and pelvis feel good. The heartburn continues to plague me, and I have an ongoing love/hate relationship with food. Nothing else exciting going on.
My pet peeve? I hate the stupid nicknames for being pregnant. Mh calls me preggers and it makes me want to choke slam him. I also hate prego, and all other cutesy terms involving "preg."

stoneycakes · February 2014

Ooooh Ooooh can I join in on pet peeves even though I don't belong in this thread? I hate the way people always comment on your physical appearance. Why is it okay to tell me what you think of my body just because I'm pregnant? The rule of thumb should be: If you wouldn't say it to a woman who isn't pregnant, you shouldn't say to one who is.

flummadiddle85 · February 2014

Everything is going well. Some smells and foods still make me all gaggy. Doc appt #2 today, that apparently will have lots of blood drawn. DS is coming with since I have no one to watch him, so hopefully he will be good. My boobs are dry and itchy, but not sure if that's from being pregnant or winter. I'm also in the "I just look fat, not pregnant phase". At least that's what I feel like.granted, I never lost all the weight from DS, but let's just blame that on BF, not my lack of exercise.

Going off what MapleMe said, I'm sick of people asking how I am, and then jumping to it's a girl because it's different than it was with DS.

TJ1979 · February 2014

@mapleme Get a snoogle!!! And for the sciatic pain, get in a pool. The lowered gravity in water allows baby to float up and will sometimes move off your sciatic nerve and give you some relief. It would help me for several days.

chknma · February 2014

I'd like to join in on the fun. I intro'd a few weeks back, but the basics are that we're expecting #2 and this will be our first LO in CDs. I have a good stash started of mostly PF and flats for NB stage, a few OS and for some crazy reason think this is the time to get back to sewing....CDs...why someone without CD experience would decide to sew them seems a little insane after my multiple fluffy fabric mail packages arrived, but at least I'm having fun with it so far. I'm thinking about picking up a few of the regularly mentioned faves on this board to try out as LO grows.

I feel a lot more achy and uncomfortable then I remember with DD at this point. Lots of pelvic pain, sciatic pain and lower/upper back pain. I just received my maternity support belt and I can't decide if it's helping or not. I also just got my official pass to GD land. I've been trying to follow the diet due to history with #1, but will now start testing and will be monitored by my MW practice.

My pregnancy pet peeves include people telling me to eat whatever I want or not to worry about exercise. Hmmm. That's not good for a nonpregnant person, why would it be good for someone who's pregnant. I will admit that I am more sensitive because I would love to eat the chocolate chip cookies I baked last night for DH, but oh wait I can't. I also get tired of people guessing the sex of our baby based on how I'm carrying and making comments about how they could never not know. Well good for you, when you have a baby you can find out and overrun your house with frilly pink things or lots of blue. We like the surprise and wouldn't want it any other way. Also, I have a short torso, so I carry babies out front "boy" style. Sorry, my belly is the same shape as #1 and she does not have a penis. Unless you have sono-vision, your guesses mean nothing to me.

chknma · February 2014

@mapleme that sounds tasty and I have all those ingredients at home! will have to give it a try! thanks!

Unknown · February 2014

This content has been removed.

TJ1979 · February 2014

@kountingsheep I have a friend with weight anxiety. She explained her issue to her doc, and they allowed her to turn around and not see the number on the scale. There is a note in her chart for the nurses not to mention her weight. And the doctor will only comment if it is definitely too much or too little weight gain. She still doesn't know how much she gained. You should ask your doc about this. Weight anxiety can be very serious and a real issue during pregnancy. It's ok to not know.

flummadiddle85 · February 2014

potterowl said:

potterowl said:

i am really over this lowered immune system thing about pregnancy. This is the second uber gross cold I have had since December. This cough makes my back hurt more than it already does. I am cranky. And I can't sleep because I cough a lot at night.

I am also having a hard time with eating. I have no appetite. Nothing sounds good. And DH really is getting on my case about eating greens and protein. Normally this would be no problem. Last night I tried to eat a black bean burger (homemade, normally a fav food) and it made me sick. I am getting worried because I really believe that proper nutrition is so important, but I just cannot get excited about any food. Going to hit up whole foods today for some good protein powder and then TJs for some frozen fruit and try to get some good smoothies made up.

I have been buying fluff. I found some rpr NB covers that are great. One came with aplix, but I am going to keep it. I think it will be OK for NB. I hope. I added a bunch of fun prints to my registry on amazon. I kinda gave up on keeping gender neutral. Some have some pink and some are blue and I don't care! I think you all have created a monster in me. I need all the diapers in the world! all of them!

I bought some great flannel prints to make wipes. And cut up old flannel sheets. And I have been knitting up some soakers. Trying to go bigger for those to use during winter.

How much longer til this person is on the outside and I can use all this fun stuffs!?!

@potterowl One of my favorite pieces of advice is that the first tri is just about survival. I kept freaking out because the only thing that kept my nausea at bay was eating All.The.Time. and I gained about 15 lb in the first 14 weeks. But things have totally leveled out since then. With all the craziness that happens to various people in their first tri, I think that the baby and placenta are good at taking the nutrition the baby needs from wherever your body has stored it up. Since you're passing out of your first tri, hopefully your appetite should return soon. That is, before just looking at food makes you full. That's the fun I'm starting experience.
Thanks. That is how I feel but DH thinks I am past the survival stage and now need to eat well again. I wish I could. I just can't. I cried yesterday when he pressured me to eat chicken. I got some protein powder at whole foods and am going to smoothie route. I know real food is better but this is what I can do right now. And dr thinks I have bronchitis so waiting to see what that means. Blah!

Has your DH ever pregnant? If not, he needs to back off. Seriously. If you can't stomach something, don't eat it. He shouldn't make you cry over it. Eating any kind of meat my first tri last time made me want to puke. I couldn't eat hard boiled eggs at all my last pregnancy without gagging.

LO2 gave us a scare at my 12 wk appt. The doc couldn't get the heartbeat, so she sent me in for an ultrasound. I thought I was doing fine, but when I called DH I just started balling. He came home from work, and we went to the ultrasound together. The lady showed us baby is still there, she found the heartbeat. She talked to the radiologist, and he said it all looked good. I guess I'm just waiting to hear from my doc now to confirm everything is still a ok.

flummadiddle85 · February 2014

I am a fan of eating all the food when pregnant. Seriously. All. The. Food. Although this is kinda my motto when not pregnant too. You guys need some new friends, though. None of mine would dare talk smack to me about what I'm eating when I'm pregnant. I would eat them.

Nothing new on the pregnancy front. I feel kinda bad for this kid. I don't really have time to dwell on it/him/her all that much this time around.

My pet peeve is when people tell me I need a girl. I can't take it. "ooh, are you hoping for a girl?" "we're praying you have a girl this time" "are you having a 4th with the hope it's a girl?" "fingers crossed you finally get your girl."
SHUT UP!
Every time someone says it I have to seriously restrain myself from choke slamming them.

I guess between being pregnant and still breastfeeding, I actually lost a couple pounds since my last appointment. I guess that means I need to eat ALL the food, huh? Except, I already feel liked do... I won't complain tho since last time I had already gained at least a pound a week at this point.

unaveragejane · February 2014

Nothing new here to report that I can think of. I haven't really been diligent about my prenatal workout dvds, but the weather is pretty here this week so I am hoping to at least get to the playground with DS and to do some walking. I've been wearing my little Medela support belt to combat the SPD, but it doesn't seem to be helping a lot. I found a bigger, industrial-strength-looking one at Essex today, so I'll try it out tomorrow. I'm hoping it helps. I feel like people think I'm faking this waddle since it's still kind of early in the pregnancy.

My pet peeve is also people commenting on bodies. My Bunco group met last night, and three of us in the group are pregnant at the same time. One is due in early April, another mid-July, and I'm July 30. The one who is due in mid-July is naturally very, very thin, so she just barely has a bump at all. All night long, people kept telling her how she doesn't have a bump yet. It was driving her nuts! And it made me feel kind of rotten b/c my belly just popped out and I look like I've smuggled out one of those bump pillows they keep at Motherhood. Every time they said something to her, I felt like they were silently thinking, "And there's J looking like a whale already."

runningyogimama · February 2014

I passed my glucose test the first time this time, whoo! Other than that, nothing new.

When other moms ask how I'm feeling, I'll say good but tired (more like freaking exhausted), and then they're always like "Oh, just wait until the second baby gets here!" And I feel like I got that the first time around, too. Um, DD is only 11 months old, it's not like I've forgotten what the newborn stage is like, and I will take newborn sleep deprivation over pregnancy exhaustion any day!!

bumpuser5078523 · February 2014

I'm hopefully feeling less barfy from here on out. I don't want to jinx it.

We had our first appointment, finally!! One healthy baby! I forgot to ask about the heart rate.

They are super supportive of my VBAC wish. Which is encouraging! I will have to be hooked up to monitors and have an IV when I get there. I can still use the labor tub. Yay! My labor will have to be text book, and I have to have a c-section at 41 weeks if I make it that far. So baby will be here no layer than Sept 29th. Now my mom know when to be here, which is slightly convenient.

My pet peeve is Chad eating all my fucking food! I will stock up and he eats it! He doesn't get the point because, "there is more at the store". Um, I don't feel good enough to go to the store for every craving.

bumpuser5078523 · February 2014

Stupid phone. Baby's head is on the bottom.

ElleBeeDub · February 2014

SecretAgentKate said:

I am a fan of eating all the food when pregnant. Seriously. All. The. Food. Although this is kinda my motto when not pregnant too. You guys need some new friends, though. None of mine would dare talk smack to me about what I'm eating when I'm pregnant. I would eat them.

Nothing new on the pregnancy front. I feel kinda bad for this kid. I don't really have time to dwell on it/him/her all that much this time around.

My pet peeve is when people tell me I need a girl. I can't take it. "ooh, are you hoping for a girl?" "we're praying you have a girl this time" "are you having a 4th with the hope it's a girl?" "fingers crossed you finally get your girl."
SHUT UP!
Every time someone says it I have to seriously restrain myself from choke slamming them.

Seriously... I could have written this!

1) I LOVE FOOD!

2) This poor bean is definitely not getting the constant attention that G got when he was inside.

3) We're having a girl (and I'm THRILLED), but until we found out, I was CONSTANTLY having people tell me how much they wanted me to have a little girl or how now I just needed a girl to have the perfect set. SERIOUSLY?! Someone asked me what I was hoping for, and when I said I'd really love another little boy, they asked me why I didn't want a girl... Umm... It makes me stabby. Isn't my son good enough? Do I really NEED a little girl to have the perfect family? Why wouldn't we be happy with two boys? {Yes, I recognise that my hormones *might* make me a bit more irritated by this than normal...}

Also, I'm with TJ, all the cutesy pregnancy nicknames make my skin crawl.

tjkdlhb · February 2014

stoneycakes said:

Ooooh Ooooh can I join in on pet peeves even though I don't belong in this thread? I hate the way people always comment on your physical appearance. Why is it okay to tell me what you think of my body just because I'm pregnant? The rule of thumb should be: If you wouldn't say it to a woman who isn't pregnant, you shouldn't say to one who is.

The only correct statement is "You look great!"

haileyq · February 2014

Am I allowed to jump in a few days late? I don't post very frequently but I lurk a lot and try to learn a lot. DS is turning 1 next month and I just got my BFP yesterday. I was having weird cycles the last two months (I ovulated on day 30 this last cycle!) and next month I was going to start taking progesterone. I guess I'm not now.

Pregnancy the second time around for me is so much different than the first. I had a pretty rough go last time and was high risk, and we have no family around to help so the newborn stage was terrifying. I woke up in the middle of the night (and have been up since!) worrying about how I will be able to take care of DS while sick and pregnant, that I won't get any decent sleep for the next year and a half, and how I can possibly love another baby as much as I love my first! Please tell me I'm not alone on this craziness?

unaveragejane · February 2014

@haileyq - Congrats on your BFP! I can't blame you at all for being anxious about having two little ones. I still get a bit panicky about it sometimes. I just try to remember that even the really, really hard NB days were over eventually. Taking care of DS while pregnant has (so far) not been as bad as I worried it might. My MS wasn't as bad this time around. There have been two or three days of super exhaustion when I absolutely couldn't hold my eyes open all the way until nap time. In those cases, I gated DS and myself into the baby-proofed den, put on Sesame Street, and lightly dozed on the sofa just long enough to be able to function again. It's amazing what 5 minutes of quiet with your eyes closed can do! (Just be sure if you wear glasses to put them up where your LO can't reach them. Mine are now in need of repair.) Also, it seems like the one-year mark is when things really started getting easier with DS. He started walking, so I didn't have to carry him everywhere. He started communicating what he wanted, so he was easier to please. I do still worry about managing the NB days, but this time I feel like I can explain to DH what I need from him better than I did last time. Oh, and the "how can I love another baby like the first?" I totally felt the same way with DS. An older lady I know scoffed at women who say this, and it made me really mad. Thankfully, it's like that scene from The Grinch where his heart just swells up. Somewhere along the way, you really do grow room in your heart for all your babies.

haileyq · February 2014

Thanks @unaveragejane ,You're making me get all misty over here!

bumpuser5078523 · February 2014

Congrats, haileyq!

Want a personalized experience?

~~ ~ Pact Grads Check In ~~~

Re: ~~ ~ Pact Grads Check In ~~~

Choose Another Board

Search Boards