Meltdowns?

BLPL101 · February 2014

My DD is 14 months and it seems like she has meltdowns all.day.long. Is this normal?

BLPL101 · February 2014

I should add she is a great napper and sleeps well at night so I don't think she is overtired.

maryxc1 · February 2014

I think so, but this is my first LO so I have limited experience. Of course, I thought he was having bad meltdowns then until he got a little older. He is 21 months now and the meltdowns are much more intense. I remember asking the pediatrician at his 18 month appointment if it was going to get worse (because I didn't think it could) and she said unfortunately yes. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

BLPL101 · February 2014

That's okay....I assumed they would get worse since she's so young. Glad to know it's normal though. Thanks!

pb_bride · February 2014

Meltdowns are normal, though I'm not sure toddlers should be having them all day long. DS went through a bad phase of multiple tantrums daily when he was around 12-13m? It turns out that I was changing activities too abruptly for him without prior warning.

Nowadays, if we are about to do something different, I'll announce it to him a few minutes ahead of time, and repeat it several more times, so he doesn't get blindsided by it. Sometimes he'll willingly cooperate (eg, go upstairs to change his diaper; or put socks/shoes on to go out), other times he'll still fight me but not as intense as before.

BLPL101 · February 2014

pb_bride said:

Meltdowns are normal, though I'm not sure toddlers should be having them all day long. DS went through a bad phase of multiple tantrums daily when he was around 12-13m? It turns out that I was changing activities too abruptly for him without prior warning.

Nowadays, if we are about to do something different, I'll announce it to him a few minutes ahead of time, and repeat it several more times, so he doesn't get blindsided by it. Sometimes he'll willingly cooperate (eg, go upstairs to change his diaper; or put socks/shoes on to go out), other times he'll still fight me but not as intense as before.

I'm just exaggerating....it just feels like it sometimes lol. She likes to lick things she knows she shouldn't (she'll look at me before she does it) and then I tell her please don't lick x, y, z. She continues to do it so I will take it away and give her another toy or we'll go in another room and she'll have a meltdown. That happens a lot in our house.

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BLPL101 · February 2014

JandACoffee said:

Nicb13 said:

BLPL101 said:

I'm just exaggerating....it just feels like it sometimes lol. She likes to lick things she knows she shouldn't (she'll look at me before she does it) and then I tell her please don't lick x, y, z. She continues to do it so I will take it away and give her another toy or we'll go in another room and she'll have a meltdown. That happens a lot in our house.

Are you telling her "no" all the time? I mean, I get that she shouldn't be licking things because she could eventually lick something dangerous but I found that if I picked my battles, DS wasn't so prone to meltdowns. I wasn't always saying no and taking things away. I let him have just enough rope to hang himself if that makes sense. I make sure the area he is in is safe, and I let him do his thing without me always there nagging him.
Can you do that to some extent?

I agree with this. I really try to limit how much I tell DD no. She licks pretty much everything in sight at this point, and I just try and remind myself that its a phase and she is just helping prevent allergies later and is building her immune system. That doesn't mean I don't cringe sometimes, but if it really isn't going to hurt her or make her sick at this point I just let it go. My big "no"s and redirections at this point are generally reserved for outlets/cords and cat/dog tail-pulling. I honestly can't think of a whole lot that DD has access to or can do in our house right now that would result in me having to correct her. I'm sure there is something, but its not coming to me right now. We keep doors to the bathroom shut so she can't get into stuff in there and baby gates block our stairs and puppy/kitty food/water/litter.

Thanks for the advice. I do tell her "no" a lot and it's frustrating. I will try to let it go more often! Thanks for helping!!

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