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July 2012 Moms
RTaylor12
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gbcb...kinda
RTaylor12
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I don't even know where to begin this so I'll just spill it. My H lost his new job that we thought was going to be so perfect and awesome and get us back on our feet for good. It happened without warning and we are both completely shocked. He had even asked his higher-ups for informal performance evaluations several times and they both told him he was doing a great job. According to his termination paperwork he was let go due to performance, and what they told him is that they don't consider him "management material" and that he was "too nice" to the employees. Whatever that fucking means. This happened on Wednesday (to explain the lack of call out posts last week). Two days before that, on Monday, I found out that we are expecting #2. Birth control fail. I was going to wait to announce until we get an EDD (first u/s is 3/11) but I figured coming out with it now isn't going to make much difference.
Needless to say we're financially screwed. The last time this happened, we had a fairly significant savings that is now depleted. We have a little bit of family help and I'm in the process of applying for any and all assistance I possibly can. H is pounding the pavement and trying to keep his head up, but mentally, we're both devastated. I had about 48 hours to be excited for the new baby and now I'm spending all my mental energy wondering how we are going to support two babies when we're literally at rock bottom. I feel like such a failure at life. I feel like I did everything "right" (going to college, waiting to get married, waiting to have a baby) and nothing we do seems to get us anywhere. With all the new developments I'm obviously not able to go back to school for my masters this fall like I wanted to. It will have to wait until fall 15 and that's only if H can land a job that pays enough to support it. What felt like a realistic and tangible goal now feels like a pipe dream.
Anyway. All this just to say I'll be taking a bump break. Sorry for the AW post. I wouldn't have even made it if it weren't for the call-outs I've been doing. Speaking of which, if anyone wants to take over those, I would be super grateful. If not, I can resume them when things get a little more normal at our house and I'm able to come back. Any T&Ps you have would be greatly appreciated.
ETA: I feel like I picked a bad discussion title. I was trying to be cheeky but I don't think that came across. I'm not REALLY gbcbing. Just taking a bump break while we get our life back. I already know I'm not going to have the same kind of free time that allows me to keep caught up on all the goings on of j12 and mostly, I just wanted yall to know that I haven't died when you start noticing the lack of baby call-outs. haha. I'll definitely pop back in from time to time, hopefully with more positive updates.
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Re: gbcb...kinda
Congratulations on the baby #2. Wishing H&H 9 months to you. Sorry to hear about your DH job loss. It sucks! Hope he will find something better soon and you will come out of this black phase. T&P sent your way.
Congrats on the baby though
When I found out I was pregnant with Ava we were going through similar tough times. I lay awake at night worrying about how we were going to make it. I had no medical insurance, hardly any income at the moment and there were a bunch of other hardships thrown in. It was brutal so I understand the stress you must be going through.
Pm me anytime if you just want someone to talk to or listen.
Huge hugs to you!
Amen to all of this.
You're not a failure. And you will find a way through this. Thinking of you and yours (including the newest)..... Let us know how we can help.
I'm so sorry about your H, but I have to ask do you live in a right to work state? And he's an RN right?
Congrats on #2 too, like PPs said, the timing is hard but you will make it through this. You're such a strong and wonderful woman and we'll be here for you when you need us.
Even a minor event in the life of a child is an event of that child's world and thus a world event.
Thanks everyone for your kind words and thoughts. I teared up a little reading through them, some of the things you said I really needed to hear.
@cpasley, I'm not sure about right to work, but I do know that we're an at-will employment state meaning they can fire anyone for any (or no) reason. His background is in warehouse management and he also has a sales background. (Not an RN haha)
Even a minor event in the life of a child is an event of that child's world and thus a world event.
I'm sorry life is crapping all over you. I wish you didn't feel like you needed to leave. We are here if you need us. Hugs!
Yup, Oklahoma.
I'm so sorry to hear you are going through all this. My thoughts are with you and your family. Congrats on #2!
Eats childproof locks for breakfast...