Anyone done at one ?

g.byas · December 2008

Any of you first time Moms feel like one child is enough? I feel very strongly at this time that I won't want anymore. People tell me everyday that I'm wrong and that I will change my mind and they try to convince me that I am making the wrong decision. That bugs the hell out of me. But just wondering if anyone else feels the same? I know things can change, But i really do feel that i could be very content with just one.

AndysKandi · December 2008

Your DC is still young, and it is normal that you can't even imaging wanting another at this point. Once DC gets a little older (how old depends on you) you might change your mind. You might not just change your mind, but get massive baby fever like I did. Now my DD's are 18 months apart. lol

So it is fine that you feel that way, but you might change your mind. Definitely don't go getting DH snipped or anything quite yet! And if you don't change your mind, that is fine too...after all, there is no mold that every family needs to fit. Just do what is right for you.

g.byas · December 2008

Yah, that is what most people say. I almost feel bad because I feel that im the ONLY person in the world that says I only want one. I always wanted 2 before I had her but Im just so content. I guess it doesnt help that she had severe colic for 6 weeks and is pretty high needs overall. lol I love her to death but I just cant imagine having to do all of this over again. Hopefully I'll change my mind but if not, i suppose she will just have to be a spoiled only child. ha Wink

Lisichka · December 2008

That's stupid that people tell you how to feel about how many children to want. That being said, I know I definitely want more than one. My DH is the only child and a) his mom is sooo clingy and b) I would want my daughter to have a sinling - I have a sister and we're the best of friends.

g.byas · December 2008

Yah, it's one thing when people just say, Oh, you will change your mind..but when people judge me for that and go on to tell me I'm wrong ..blah blah i get so angry. It's like people are trying to force me to feel differently! It makes no sense!

cchrisler · December 2008

I'm with you! Mine was born 10/1 just a day later than yours! 12 weeks today and I still say no more. Maybe I'll change my mind, maybe I won't. Of course everyone says I will. After I gave birth, my DH looked at me and said "if you never want to do that again, I am totally ok with it!!" We had a hard pitocin induction and regardless of people saying "you'll forget" I havent yet. I can tell you every detail about the 15 hour ordeal. Labor isn't the only reason I don't want more, I am also content with my little girl and don't feel like I need another one as of right now. Time will tell!

g.byas · December 2008

Yah, I've already kindof forgot about labor although it wasnt a horrible experience. It's been everyday after that has kicked my butt.... in a good way, but I definitly look forward to each day that she matures. I'm glad someone feels the same!~ I guess only time will tell !

Tricia107 · December 2008

I dont want to be done at one, but after the pregnancy i had and the chance of it happening again or being worse im undecided. as of now were done.

We had a poorly attached u. cord, PTL started at almost 20 weeks and an emergency c/s at 35 weeks cause when they tried to stop my labor again it put me into full blown labor and DD was breech. I was on bed rest from 18- 35 weeks.

princess4u81 · December 2008

not even close. I want 3 more!

RHitch · December 2008

I always wanted 2, but after having DD, I said THIS IS IT! Now that she is a little older, I can definitely see myself having another one. It took 5 months for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I can finally say that it is there. It was a long road though, because she is VERY high maintenance.

alicatt79 · December 2008

Yup, I'm DONE!

candreco · December 2008

DH and I are kind of thinking the same thing, based on space and time. We'll see how we feel in a couple years though.

Lucy_Plus_One! · December 2008

My sister used to want 2 or 3, but after having her first (and he is 2 1/2 now) she doesn't want more. At first I thought she would change her mind, and I wanted her to selfishly, but now I realize that she has decided that the three of them feels right for her family. She is happy so I am happy.

I on the other hand want 1 more already. Lol.

LucyPevensie · December 2008

We might be done .. not sure. We used fertility treatments to get pregnant with Jack - and won't pursue that avenue again (due to cost and just emotional investment - pursuing treatments once was enough and we are so blessed that IUI finally worked for us.) I'm also 37 ... so this may be it and if that's the case, I am fine with it. I feel so blessed to have my beautiful son.

hav2run · December 2008

I had DS at 21, and I said I was done. I had a really tough pregnancy with bedrest from 29 weeks and a L&D that was awful. DS was a wonderful baby, but I never thought I wanted to do it again. The idea of being pregnant again made my head spin. I held to that for 14 years. It took 2 years to conceive DD, and here we are with no regrets. Never say never.

rab41380 · December 2008

I am content with one child. I have a step son who stays with us four days a week. I also have lots of people tell me I will change my mind, I dont think I will. Maybe if I win the lottery and do not have to work!

snr4jhjr · December 2008

I feel the exact same way. We were told we would never be able to have kids so when we found out things changed it was just a miracle. I had a horific pg. Medically I feel like trying a second time is NOT worth the risks. Not to mention Im already 35 and DH will be 42 in Jan. My own Drs feel I will change my mind. AHHHH NO!!! I hear the same comments from people all the time. I tell everyone Heck NO!! One who was supposed to never be is a miracle and Im content with that.

d.f · December 2008

Maybe. I always thought I'd have two because I'm so close to my siblings but I had a rough PG (not as bad as some prev. posters my PTL didn't get Dx until 30.5 weeks and I was able to hold off delivering until 36.5 weeks) also DS definitely isn't an easy baby. So between the higher risk of PTL again and a crabby baby we're not sure. DH doesn't think he wanta another. I say let's wait a few years before we do anything drastic.

RaeLipson · December 2008

I feel really done. I also have a step-son here 50% of the time, so I feel like Eve has a sibling. Plus, we are older parents, and we were very lucky to have things go easily and well the first time. Might not be so lucky the second.

I was shocked the other day, however, when dh said that if I wanted another, he would consider it! (He's 10 years older than I am)

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