Talk to me about crying to sleep

eg214 · February 2014

LO has about two bouts a day with what seems to me to be fighting sleep. I do everything I can to soothe her (minus paci bc she gets nipple confused) and then put her in her swing where she cries it out for about 5 minutes and falls asleep. I hear so many ppl comment about how bad it is to let them cry it out and this and this...feel a little guilty...like a bad mom. Did anyone experience this with their newborns? I kinda feel like it's NBD minus it sucking listening to her cry

Thoughts?

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Newborn stage is too soon to cry it out. I know its rough, i know it is. Bentley was rough on me at first. What are you doing for your little lady? Are you

Swaddling?
Rocking?
Bouncing/shimmieing?
White noise?
Nursing to sleep?

Up until three months the only white noises that worked for bentley was my blow dryer and the bathroom fan.

Now that hes older we have a routine, bath, book, song, bed. For nap time there is no bath.

Just dont let the little lady cry yet. :-)

eg214 · February 2014

Everything.
Swaddling in a swaddle pod.
Not over or under dressing her.
White noise or ocean waves.
Sucking on my pinky.
Swing
Bouncing on leg, on knee
Patting back
Rubbing back
Shushing
Patting on shoulder
Nursing to sleep but wakes when I burp her or move her to upright laying on my chest

Paci seems to be only thing that works but twice now she's had problems latching which really freaks me out. I don't want to erase the bonding we have of breastfeeding and she's been doing so well growing and such on the breast.

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Hmmm thats a toughie. How long are you waiting in between naps?

Its been my experience with bentley the more over tired he is the harder it is to get him to nap.

Sometimes him and i just have to snuggle it out for naps because he just cant nap by himself sometimes.

Remember shes still a newborn. Its okay to nurse to sleep then snuggle for nap time. It wont be this way forever. Hugs momma

eg214 · February 2014

Thanks. Yes for the first weekish she wouldn't sleep unless held so I've been sleeping on the couch with her on my chest also bc my mom was here and it was too much for us all to be in my bedroom.

I just worried about nursing her too much bc it seems like she overfills her belly and then it comes out her nose or once she spit up her entire feed. I know spit up is normal but it scared the shit out of me.

I know we will get through this. Just so hard on your own!

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Dont i know it. It does get better i promise the first four months are baby boot camp. It usually gets better. Bentley really just hit his stride this last month and a half with the exception of teething.

Fuck teething, its almost as bad as the four month sleep regression

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Out of curiousity. Is it hard crying? Or is it fussing? If its fussing id say your fine letting her fuss for five minutes. But hard crying pick her up and soothe her.

eg214 · February 2014

Yeah when she starts hard crying I pick her up right away. I Started nursing her more and on both sides (switching up when she delatches) and that seems to help. No massive spit up issues yet.

20thirteen · February 2014

When I couldn't get DD to stop crying, I always sang Three Little Birds by Bob Marley. To this day, that helps to calm her. But I sang that to her throughout my pregnancy. Did you have a special song that you sang a lot or listened to all the time? That might help too.

Also, DD was (is) the kind of baby that when you hold her, she likes it best when you "dance" (like a very slow cha cha). Maybe your LO is the same?

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Ds knows its bed time after a book, the song into the west, and the song soft kitty and bed time prayers. He roots around for about five minutes grunting but then he goes to sleep.

But in general musicis soothing. I may or may not put on disney movies so i can clean

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tig594 · February 2014

Gas might be an issue. DD had a little bit when she was that tiny. Otherwise, when she's fighting sleep to this day music helps. And lots and lots of cuddling. Hope your LO gets it worked out soon! The first weeks are so exhausting as it is!

jellybean529 · February 2014

We dealt with colic pretty bad. I used to just lay her on my chest to put pressure on her tummy and that seemed to help. I also would bicycle her legs to help the gas pass. It's okay to let them sleep on you and snuggle during the baby days. Six years later you'll actually find yourself missing that...so don't worry, it doesn't last forever

eg214 · February 2014

Would your LO's still cry when you did things to soothe them? I mean literally I do everything. The problem is becoming that I will get her soothed to sleep by rocking her in my arms really fast or shussing and rubbing or walking around with her or bf'ing her to sleep, etc. and then she's awake 10 minutes later starting it all over again. I just did our whole routine, changing diaper, bf'ing, she burped, trying to soothe, got up and swung her, fell asleep, put her in her newborn napper with the sound machine, and 10 min later she's up screaming. She's not acting like she has gas. If she can just give me 3-4 hours of sleep, I'm good. Last night she did that waking up to feed and falling asleep on me peacefully in between each feed. I'm trying so hard to understand her but I guess I'm just getting a little frustrated I can't figure her out

MinnesotaMomma91 · February 2014

Breathe momma deep breaths. My little man is almost seven months old and i still have days where i dont know what the fuck he wants.

Try going on youtube and playing baby got colic, the vacuum, the blow dryer. If i could id send you my bf. Hes the baby whisperer.

And just so you know when bentley was about... a month old maybe? I was exhausted i wasnt sleeping, i couldnt get ds to sleep, i had a cluster of plugged ducts low breast milk supply, and ds was beyond hysterical. I called bf in absolute tears. I sobbed because i didnt know what else to do. He called my sister and she came over swaddled bentley, gave him a couple bottles, rocked him, sang to him and put him to bed. She brought me some orange chicken cause at this point i was living off chips and water. After i ate i took a nap whild she hung out and got up with bentley so i could get four hours cause bentley was eating every hour and a half.

To this day my sister is the closest thing i have to a coparent. Ds loves her. He talks to her and smiles for her and likes to show off for her. Moral of the story. Its okay to ask for help. You said your dad is visiting? Ask your dad to hold dd while you shower and take a nap.

Have you tried nursing while you sleep. That saved me that first month. Id lay on my side with ds latched on and id sleep while he ate and hed unlatch when full. But i coslept for a long time so. There is that

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