STM+ what's your plan?

MapleLeafMama · February 2014

What's your plan for when you go into labour/go to hospital etc in regards to your other kid(s)? I realized today we haven't outlined a solid plan for DS. Eek.

Calla123 · February 2014

My mom is coming to stay with us for the first few weeks to help with dd.

Linnea503 · February 2014

My DH's brother and his brother's fiance are going to come stay with DS. They are the only family nearby. We have two other close friend families on back-up. Once the baby is born, DH will be coming home to stay with DS1 while me and baby stay at the hospital.

When my H goes back to work after about two weeks, his mom or my mom will come out and help and then the other will come out and help.

sweetmelissa0707 · February 2014

We have back up for our back up at this point. We live about an hour from the hospital where I plan to deliver, and immediate family members are all about an hour away. So it depends where everyone is at the time and if I even go into labor on my own. We've got my brother and my SIL as our first choice, followed by my mom. If it's a situation where I can't wait for them, my DH has a second cousin and a colleague nearby that we can call, the cousin is at the nearby university and the colleague is in our town. Whoever answers the phone and can get here first. Our last resort is my MIL.

thomas930 · February 2014

My mom is staying with us for 2 1\2 weeks. If something happens before she gets here then our friends will take the kids and my mom would head this way, she is only a 4 hour drive from us.

MamaFantastic · February 2014

my parents will come over soon after i go into labor. mom will be following me and husband to the hospital to participate in the delivery process. dad will stay at our house with kiddo. after the delivery, mom will go home and hang with kiddo for the 2 days afterward (either at their house or at our house... no specific plan about that)

AmberLiz99 · February 2014

We will drop him at a friends house, and dh will go back and forth as necessary (they are less than 10 minutes from the hospital). Once baby is born dh will take care of ds while I stay at the hospital with the new LO.

My parents live almost 3 hours away. my mom works fully time and won't be able to take time off till the month after.

*sparky* · February 2014

My dad and his wife are local so they will be on standby to take care of DS and the dog when needed. DH will probably stay in the hospital with me the first night but if I spend more than one night he will go home with DS. DS is 8 and wants to be at the hospital when the baby is born, so I need to figure out what to do if I end up in labor at 3 am or for 12 hours, etc.

AcaAwkward · February 2014

We are still kind of playing things by ear. If LO stays head down and it looks like VBAC might be probable, my ILs will be "on call" to come stay with DD when I go into labor (they are about 40 min away). My parents will hop in the car at that point; I really want my mom in the delivery room with DH. They will be staying at our house (they are 3.5 hours away). DH will stay with me and LO in the hospital for our first night after delivery and then he might switch off with my mom so he can be with DD.

RCS would be a whole different thing. My parents would already be here. ILs will probably stay with DD during surgery and then switch off with my parents to come see LOz

NicoleAnne416 · February 2014

DS is diabetic so it's only our parents that can take him (know how to do his insulin shots). We live in the same town as IL's so it'll be them right away, if in school, MIL works at the school as well and they will go home with her after and come see us, then from there decide. My mom is retired and can take them, may need to come to our town (40 miles or so away) to stay if school days, if weekend they can go to her house, etc. One of the two! If all else darn it they'll come stay with us lol.

Luckie519 · February 2014

My ILs live 4 houses down and will watch DS for us. DH has already said he wants to stay with me in the hospital, because I am a repeat c-section and will need the help. Our hospital won't even leave the baby in there with me, if I am alone. So, it's works out. Plus, we live about 15 minutes from the hospital we are delivering, so they will be able to bring him up to see us. My mom is probably going to come and stay here (she lives about 90 minutes south) for a couple of nights too.

joyfullyfound · February 2014

We're planning a home birth, so DD will probably just be asleep in her bed during all the action, since most babies are born at night

If it happens during the day, we'll just let her be there and part of the action, though if it's not going well we can always call my mom to come get her.

LBStewart · February 2014

MIL will be watching DD and our dogs while we're at the hospital. She lives 20 minutes away so she should be able to come to our house before we leave for the hospital. My parents will meet us at the hospital and will be there for the delivery. DH is going to stay overnight with me at the hospital regardless of how long I'm there. Once home, my mom will come over as needed. DH is planning on taking 2 weeks off of work.

ksulli · February 2014

ILs will watch her. They're about 25 min away. If she's sleeping, they'll come stay at our house, so we won't call until we're about ready to leave. If it's daytime we'll wait until I'm not handling things well and then send her over to them.

I'm not excited for them to know ASAP when I'm in labor because they'll go nuts, and if they come to our house they'll want to check on me- if last time is any indicator, I'll just want to be left the hell alone. I suggested to DH that he bring dd to their house when I'm in early labor, but he doesn't like the idea of leaving me.

mbethmcgill · February 2014

I have a rcs scheduled, so my sister will stay the night with my boys. Mom will be at the hospital. When we feel it's a good time, the boys will visit and Dh will go home with them at night.

fourthnlast · February 2014

MapleLeafMama said:

What's your plan for when you go into labour/go to hospital etc in regards to your other kid(s)? I realized today we haven't outlined a solid plan for DS. Eek.

I'll be having a c-section, so IF baby girl waits until the scheduled date, my Mom will take care of getting kids to and from school and everything else. But, if baby girl decides she is coming early like her brothers and sister, we have a list of people to call if it's a school day vs weekend and also what time of day things start happening.

haziedaze · February 2014

We have a list of friends we'll start calling. No family nearby but my dad and his wife will jump on a plane ASAP but may not get here till the last day. This pretty much means I'll be alone at night unless laboring which isn't ideal, but we'll figure it out.

Laroo0220 · February 2014

We have no immediate family around so we are planning to make a list of people we can call and depending on when it is we will call whoever is available to come stay with ds until a family member can get here. I plan to labor at home awhile so we should have some time to figure it out. Dh's brother lives an hour and a half away so he may make it here bf we head to the hospital but you never know.

J&NL · February 2014

I plan to ask one of our friends/ DHs co worker and his wife to watch DH until one of our family members make it into town.

beautifulstr13 · February 2014

It's easier for us having a RCS. So we are leaving him with DH's parents over night and until we come home. It all depends on how long if a hospital stay we have.

JamiesWife2010 · February 2014

Hopefully my cousin(who lives an hr & an half away) will make it here before we go to the hospital. She will stay here with DS. If for some reason she can't make it; a friend will stay with DS at her place or ours depending on the time/day of the week.

I hope my cousin makes it on time because she is the only one who has ever kept DS. Leaving DS to go to the hospital is the one thing that I dread about L&D this time.

Bluebird2318 · February 2014

Assuming I make it to term, my MIL will be coming a week or two before I'm due and then stay through until the baby is born. If things take a downward turn she'll come earlier.

nikki912 · February 2014

Depending on when I go into labor we would have SIL and BIL pick up our son. If all goes according to plan I will labor at home as long as possible, go to the birth center, pop a baby out, 4 hours later be on our way home and pick up DS on the way. My mom will hopefully be on her way at that point and should be at out house waiting to help out. Of course this is a perfect world situation...

Twirple · February 2014

We live about 15 minutes from the hospital. MIL and FIL live about 3 minutes from the hospital and are right on the way, so we will be dropping DS off on the way there if I go into labor at home. If DS is at daycare, MIL will pick him up. When I was in labor with DS, I got checked out at the hospital and then went and labored at my in laws house for a while. Might do the same thing this time.

jennypenny1014 · February 2014

I will call my mother when I go into labor, and she will drive up 45 mins from her house to pick up DS - either from the hospital if my water has already broken, or just come to my house to stay with him if it hasn't. We'll figure out the car seat situation when the time comes...

ashcole28 · February 2014

We have no plan at the moment :-?? SOs mom and sister live close by but they both work so we are kind of playing it by ear.

DaisyJanie · February 2014

My mom is coming for a month, arriving the day before my due date, so I will be going into labor on my due date, thank you very much.

Alternate plans: I have a couple friends who can take him. I just hope we don't have to call people in the middle of the night. In addition to feeling bad about waking people up, I'm afraid no one will answer their phones.

LolaX2 · February 2014

I will be having a RSC and the hospital is about an hour away, with good weather and no traffic. DH's mother will be coming to stay with DS (she only lives 15 minutes away, but it will be easier on DS for her to stay at our house. DH will be staying with me at the hospital if at all possible to help me after RSC and because last time my blood pressure ended up skyrocketing after the birth was fine before and all during labor. He wants to be with me to help and so that I am not alone if anything happens.

MIL will bring DS to come visit and DH may go home for a bit during the day while another family member can be with me for a few hours. Baby will be about 4 weeks early due to other issues and we want to make sure that DH is there if any issue arise with her as well. Sigh - I am going to miss DS sooooo much. I have never been away from him for more than one night at a time

snowclouds · February 2014

We're dropping him off at the ILs. If they're still out of town, my SIL will take him.

I'm doing a hospital VBAC and if all goes well I will be discharged on the same day.

KHendy27 · February 2014

We're just playing it by ear. We have my two sisters and our babysitter nearby so it all depends on the day and time of day, so we'll make the call then.

momofmanyinthemitten · February 2014

My ILs live around the corner. MIL will be down in Arkansas to help with BIL and his wife, who are due on the same day as us. FIL is on call for us. My mom will probably take a day or two off to help with them as well.

myschlove · February 2014

We plan to have family come when I go into labor, but we have a few church friends as backup to call if needed! (Our family lives a few hours away)

LyndseyLC · February 2014

my mom will come stay at our house and watch her and take care of our dog

jsoubel · February 2014

sweetmelissa0707 said:
We have back up for our back up at this point. We live about an hour from the hospital where I plan to deliver, and immediate family members are all about an hour away. So it depends where everyone is at the time and if I even go into labor on my own. We've got my brother and my SIL as our first choice, followed by my mom. If it's a situation where I can't wait for them, my DH has a second cousin and a colleague nearby that we can call, the cousin is at the nearby university and the colleague is in our town. Whoever answers the phone and can get here first. Our last resort is my MIL.

This is similar to what we have going on and, frankly, it's stressing me out. My mom would just come to stay but my brother and SIL are expecting on the same exact day, and they have no family near by, and we have DH's family, for what their worth.

kwolslager · February 2014

I'm having a repeat scheduled c-section. Which is perfect for us because my mom lives in Portland and I'm in Chicago. So she's going to fly out here a few days before the surgery so we can have some time together as well as get settled into knowing my kids routines.
She's going to be staying at my house watching both my girls while we are in the hospital. She's also going to be here for a little bit after we get home to help with things like cleaning and cooking. I love my mom, she's always such a HUGE help. With my last baby she even set her cell phone alarm for the times I needed to take my pain meds, even in the middle of the night she'd get up to help with anything and everything.
aw... now I'm gonna cry. (darn these pregnancy hormones!) I love my mom!

Mustardseed2007 · February 2014

I'm doing an RCS so it won't be anything last minute. My plan at the moment (depending on what time the CS is scheduled) is to have DH drop DS off at daycare, MIL will pick him up as usual and will probably take him home to her house, unless the baby has been born for hours and is totally fine, in which case DH will leave and meet MIL at our house to take DS. OR if LO is even more fine than we expect, we may have DS come