only cries when i'm in the room!!

athomas2424 · February 2014

I am getting so frustrated, I know this is probably normal though. He is 15 months and I swear he ONLY cries when I am in the room or in sight. He can be playing so happy and content with his sister or grandmother or anyone else who may be over at my house. But the second he sees me he runs to me crying, clawing at me to pick him up, crying more, and he doesn't even stop whining when I pick him up, he continues to whine and grunt even after I am holding him (that part I don't understand). If I sit on the floor and try play with him with his toys, he won't have it, he comes right to me climbing up my shoulders half cry/half whine like HE doesn't even know what he wants! He does not do this with anyone else at all. It is only when I am present. He goes to daycare just fine and lets other people take him from me and hold him 80-90% of the time. I am trying not to get frustrated but I feel like I can hardly enjoy my time with him when he whines every second he sees me no matter what I try to do. This is even when I am holding him too, so I don't feel like its separation anxiety or being clingy otherwise seems he would stop when I picked him up.

divajackie67 · February 2014

I have found my son does there where there is more than 1 person present. When I'm alone with him, his grandma, or his dad he's a perfect angel, but where there are 2+ of us it's like he's putting on a show to see who will give in and where his boundaries are. He acts out the most when his grandma is around. I've assumed it's because she tends to give in more than I do. I am sure I am giving him more credit, but I swear it's almost like teaching me a lesson..."See mommy grandma picks me up when I do X".

Does he act like this when it's just the both of you?

Sometimes when my son is acting whiny I just change the scenery. Maybe he's bored and can't communicate it so we go outside, or I take him into another room with me. He is easily entertained by a stick outside for like 20 minutes. Maybe you should try some special Mommy/Son time doing something where he's not whiny.

athomas2424 · February 2014

Yes he does it when its just me :-( But you are right he definitely tends to get bored VERY easily and loves a change of scenery. He loves to be outside and almost never whines when he is outside. Just been real cold and rainy lately so we havent really been able to go out too much. I bet that is the bulk of it...because when we go to someone else's house (something new to play with etc) he does seem fine most of the time :-( Maybe once he starts walking better and we can really go outside and he can run around it will be a lot better too!

pb_bride · February 2014

My son is 15m and he is pretty much exactly how you described your DS. Well, at least lately. I call him "cling wrap." DS is fine if he's with DH, but as soon as I'm in the picture, he clings on to me and whines. He isn't as bad as your DS (from your post), but he is constantly climbing on me, pulling on me etc. He wants to be held but only if I'm standing. The second I sit down he starts whining and wrestling. I SAH and it is EXHAUSTING. Granted, there are times he will play independently but not too often. He is perfectly fine when we go to play dates or have others come to our house, but as soon as it's just me (or DH + me), he turns back into cling wrap.

As I said, however, it has been a recent thing. He used to be able to play independently for much longer periods of time. So I'm hoping this is just a phase. He just got all his molars and got over a 2 week-long cold. But he woke up with another cold this morning. Sigh...

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