Feeling Annoyed

JessicaG220 · February 2014

I posted on a recent PGAL check-in that we're expecting again, due in October. I reluctantly decided today to check out the Oct 14 board. I always refrain from commenting on posts that bother me or those that I know are only going to stir up trouble.

I clicked on a post about someone who is nervous for doing a few no-nos in her 2ww. And a few people had the nerve to make fun of her for being worried! They continued by saying she shouldn't worry because they had several drinks during their 2ww (one even knowingly got drunk).

I just couldn't bite my tongue. I responded and told the OP that beg worries are completely justified and that even women like me who abstain from these things can't bring home a baby.

Now I feel stupid for letting my emotions get the best of me. I am just so terrified of losing another pregnancy. I take such good care of myself and I do everything I'm supposed to do, but that doesn't take away the worry.

Sorry for the rambling. I just feel awful now. I feel awful mostly because I am once again reminded that some people out there make bad choices and still bring home a baby.

Hope you're all doing okay

kflynn81 · February 2014

((hugs)) Its very frustrating I agree with your comments completely.... and I think you're entitled to your opinion. Who cares what they think anyways, thats the beauty about the internet

kflynn81 · February 2014

Oh and, P.S. Congrats

shandorfml2 · February 2014

((((Hugs)))) i probably wont hang out on my bmb once pregnant....the naivety really bothers me. Ive also snapped before. They are lucky they dont know our pain

mingaling2 · February 2014

Please don't feel stupid. They just won't ever understand. ((hugs))

VyD81 · February 2014

Hugs, I would probably react the same way. I struggle with infertility so getting pregnant the first time was difficult. I would probably went off.

BTW, congrats. I hope you have a easy, breezy pregnancy with your rainbow.

SchoolPsychSteph · February 2014

Congrats on your bfp! I'm not on the October board, but I know someone who is and has experienced several losses. We were on the June board together for a little while. Anyway, I lurked over there and it looks pretty pgal friendly. It probably won't be the last time your emotions get the best of you, but maybe it will be nice if you get in touch with other pgal October bumpies?

Xath · February 2014

***siggy warning***

I couldn't post on my BMB in the first trimester for several reasons (we weren't telling yet, and there always seem to be a high incidence of first tri crazies). But after I reached 2nd tri, I went back and introduced myself, and have found a thriving and supportive community. They're very PGAL friendly; there are a lot of PGAL moms on May 14, and the whole community has been very supportive to us opening up about our experiences and fears.

If you find yourself getting flustered or frustrated now, maybe try going back again in a few months when things are more settled.

Congratulations!

Dixon813 · February 2014

~~Siggy Warning~~

Oh, Jessica, I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm proud of you for saying something. I lurk A LOT on my BMB but don't post much, mostly for the same reason. However, there are sometimes where I feel the need to speak up and say something. And it's those times I hope the OP takes some comfort in what I say...

But I totally get your thoughts... I posted a thread in my BMB for moms carrying ID twins (we seem to have a lot of twins in my BMB) to start getting U/S to check for TTTS starting at 16 weeks (something I was never told to do...) and NO ONE responded. It just felt really strange, like no one cared, but I'm hoping it sparked at least one person to consider it.

Hugs!

JessicaG220 · February 2014

Thanks as always for the support, ladies. I know you understand where I'm coming from. I have never really felt comfortable posting anywhere but here. I love the drama-free atmosphere of this board.

@jalara48- I'm not really sure what your purpose is for linking the post from the Oct 14, but I'm not trying to hide anything. I stand by my opinion that drinking while intentionally trying to get pregnant is irresponsible. I don't have to "play" victim, as you seem to think. I have been through hell and back, and it hurts deeply to read others ridiculing an innocent person who has justifiable concerns about her actions while ttc. I am not one to start petty, childish fights with people whom I've never met. But it hits a nerve when someone who is blessed with children lives by the motto "drink 'til it's pink." Based on your signature, I would think you'd be more understanding. At the end of the day, we all have one goal. And we each take a different path to get there.

I am finished with this post. @jalara48 I wish you luck with your pregnancy. However, the nature of this board is free of drama. I will be happy to discuss further issues with you via PM.

JessicaG220 · February 2014

Thank you for proving my point.

jonahsma · February 2014

Please keep this board drama free..... pm each other it should never get this far.

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