How many kids to you want?

nopegoat · February 2014

H and I thought we would for sure be done at 2. I actually gave away almost all of our maternity and baby stuff because we were so sure we were done. Now that E is a year and half and my H isn't traveling for work as much we have decided that our family really doesn't feel complete. We know we want 3 for sure and possibly want 4.

Jags8 · February 2014

I would love to have four kids total. I want to either have two and adopt two, or have three and adopt one. But that is what I say now, being currently childless. We'll see how I feel once I actually become a parent.

WashingtonQueen · February 2014

We have 4 right now. We are still deciding if we want 5 or 6 total.

nopegoat · February 2014

WashingtonQueen said:

We have 4 right now. We are still deciding if we want 5 or 6 total.

I am 1 of 7. I LOVED being part of a big family.

orangecrush32 · February 2014

We have one and definitely know we want at least one more. Possibly two. We're gonna see how it goes after the next one haha.

Mysterious_wife · February 2014

One. I was sure we were one and done. A broken condom changed things. Then we wanted two. Multiple m/c later, we're done. The loss is too much. My body is done.

purple_2012 · February 2014

I just want to 2. I would love to have one of each, but I'll take whatever I get.

nopegoat · February 2014

@Mysterious_wife I am so sorry for your losses.

nopegoat · February 2014

Purple&7 said:

I just want to 2. I would love to have one of each, but I'll take whatever I get.

Before I got pregnant my "perfect family" consisted of two kids, a boy and a girl. I absolutely love having two boys and honestly if/when I have a third I am kind of hoping its another boy. Of course I would be thrilled no matter what.

24karat · February 2014

Four is our number...that said the twins were a huge surprise so we might be done at 3. He's nervous that, despite them being identicals, we might end up with a second set of multiples.

We'll take however many kids we end up having, but I think we're done trying for at least a few years.

carabassa27 · February 2014

I always just wanted two, but H wants 3 and over the years I've realized I'm becoming more interested in the concept of 3 kids. We'll just have to see where we're at after 2, and go from there.

bugandbibs · February 2014

We have 3 children and 3 angels. We are fairly certain we are done. My body can't take another pregnancy and I can't emotionally risk more losses. We have discussed adopting again (our eldest is adopted), but financially a 4th kid would mean a lifestyle change I'm not sure about.

anitabanita · February 2014

Just two, then I'm getting a lil snip snip and closing the Fortress of Womb. Hopefully, I can adopt in the future.. my sister was adopted so it's really important to me, but I don't know if I can manage taking care of my disabled brother and raising another set of children, financially..

terraignota · February 2014

No babies here yet. One loss in 2009. If we get the family we're hoping for probably 3+. We both like the idea of a larger family. I come from a family of 4 girls & love it :-)! Having lots of nieces and nephews is great too :-D.

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Whitfry · February 2014

No kids yet, So my thoughts might change, but right now our plan is to start with one and see how that goes.

LinnyAnne10 · February 2014

I want 3, DH wants just 2.. We shall see after we have our next one and how I feel

Wine&Cupcakes · February 2014

We would ideally like 3. Of course, I say this as someone who only has a dog and who has no idea about our fertility.

I only have a brother and growing up I always wished there was one more. It was too much tit-for-tat in our household. DH is the middle child and he loves the idea of 3 as well. We'll see where we end up! My mom had multiple miscarriages (at least 5 that I know of...and two of those were twins) so that will play into things as well if for some reason I'm the same - not sure if I could handle that.

So sorry for all the ladies on here with losses :-(

ks3pink · February 2014

We have three which is what I wanted. DH wanted two and honestly would have just stopped with our one if I hadn't pushed. He wasn't sure he wanted to start over when DD was already in school but he knew that was a deal breaker for me. We planned number two with the idea that we would see how things went pregnancy wise and decide on number three. We got surprised with twins and decided that would be it. I would love to have a fourth but financially it is out of the question and I had my tubes tied because I couldn't go through another pregnancy and DH is done. If adoption ever presented itself for a fourth I would be all about it as long as our finances had improved.

ksz_3 · February 2014

H wants 5 kids. I've always said 2 is perfect and 3 would be okay, but after that, I'm done. We'll see how I feel if/when we have our first. Deff not OAD though.

mm529 · February 2014

Well, I used to say none but I always assumed that would change as I grew up and it did. Now I'm thinking 2 would be good. I grew up with a sibling and loved it.

DH wants a soccer team!

aggiebug · February 2014

Our number is 2.5 ;-).

I would love 3 and H would prefer 2. Currently we have 0 so we shall see where things go.

H's new joke is our number of dogs and kids can total 4. I teased him that I could go no dogs for 4 kids and he then stipulated we had to have at least one dog. Needless to say we don't know where our family will end up but we are both open for discussion later.

kcisthebombdotcom · February 2014

Dh wants one more so I'm trying to keep an open mind. I'm still heavily leaning towards two but I have quite a bit of time to change my mind still.

Twinkie0612 · February 2014

We always talked about having 2 or 3. Right now after 2.5 years, 4 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and a c/p we will be happy to have 1 at this point.

lifeonthehill · February 2014

H is in the OAD boat and I am pushing for two. H comes from a family of boys and the women have to marry in. It is a little scary. Haha. His mom is the only girl for a few generations. If we have a boy first I would probably be okay with OAD and accept my fate but if we had a girl first I am sure he would be on board to try once more. I guess we will have to wait and see.

mc0113 · February 2014

We've been saying 2 and if we have 2 of the same sex, we'll go for the 3rd. (also, childless so it will probably change. Lol)

EmR22 · February 2014

We always wanted 4 and that is what we have. 3 girls and a boy. We briefly talked about a 5th but I was told to not have any more kids by my OB so 4 it is.

To those who mentioned losses I am very sorry. And to those who want and are struggling to get those babies I am sending baby dust to you!

mnicolew · February 2014

I think we're of the mindset of seeing what happens. We both want a really large family, and DH is having to go through a vasectomy reversal. I'm 31, and have a unicornuate uterus, so I can't get pregnant from my right ovary. With out chances each month being so reduced with these factors, it just makes wanting and having a large family even more important to us.

Shelovesaginger · February 2014

All we know right now is that we want more than 1, I've recently been thinking more and more about adoption too but I don't know how DH feels about that yet. I love the thought of two kids, one adopted and one not.

frootyloops · February 2014

We have two girls, but DH would love to have a boy... the oldest girl is my SD, but lives here with us

PB&J714 · February 2014

None yet, but right now we're thinking 3 or 4. But who knows.

Meery82 · February 2014

We have one and plan to have one more. I used to want a boy and a girl, but I'll be happy with either. I feel that two children will make our family complete.

KTex419 · February 2014

I would love 3 or 4, but I think 2 is going to be our limit financially (and I'm fine with that). I'm an only child, and though it has its perks, I always wanted a sibling when I was growing up. But since I don't have kids yet, I might change my mind after going through pregnancy and birth. We'll see!

Pepper6 · February 2014

H and I have always been agreed on 2. Although we joke that we'll probably end up with 3 because twins run in my family, so my next pregnancy would probably be twins. Regardless, I'm 2 pregnancies and done, H will be getting a vasectomy right after #2 is born.

ArmyWife114 · February 2014

I'm leaning towards 3 or 4, but DH wants an odd number, so we'll probably have 3 or 5.

BLPL101 · February 2014

At least 3. I'm open to 4. We only have 1 right now.

WashingtonQueen · February 2014

ArmyWife114 said:

I'm leaning towards 3 or 4, but DH wants an odd number, so we'll probably have 3 or 5.

@ArmyWife114 Does he have a reason for the odd number?

ArmyWife114 · February 2014

WashingtonQueen said:

ArmyWife114 said:

I'm leaning towards 3 or 4, but DH wants an odd number, so we'll probably have 3 or 5.

@ArmyWife114 Does he have a reason for the odd number?

He says that odd numbers force cooperation among the siblings more than even numbers do. I think his theory really only applies to having two kids versus three kids. It sounded super weird when he first told me, but when I think about it, my sister and I didn't cooperate a helluva lot since it was just us.

Jags8 · February 2014

ArmyWife114 said:

WashingtonQueen said:

ArmyWife114 said:

I'm leaning towards 3 or 4, but DH wants an odd number, so we'll probably have 3 or 5.

@ArmyWife114 Does he have a reason for the odd number?

He says that odd numbers force cooperation among the siblings more than even numbers do. I think his theory really only applies to having two kids versus three kids. It sounded super weird when he first told me, but when I think about it, my sister and I didn't cooperate a helluva lot since it was just us.

Interesting. I grew up with 3 at each house (divorced and remarried parents). It was often 2 against one (not always the same two together).

ArmyWife114 · February 2014

Jags8 said:

WashingtonQueen said:

ArmyWife114 said:

I'm leaning towards 3 or 4, but DH wants an odd number, so we'll probably have 3 or 5.

@ArmyWife114 Does he have a reason for the odd number?

He says that odd numbers force cooperation among the siblings more than even numbers do. I think his theory really only applies to having two kids versus three kids. It sounded super weird when he first told me, but when I think about it, my sister and I didn't cooperate a helluva lot since it was just us.
Interesting. I grew up with 3 at each house (divorced and remarried parents). It was often 2 against one (not always the same two together).

Yeah, that's what it was in his house, 3 siblings, 2 on 1 but the 2 changed. So, I guess (cause I don't really understand his theory) is that 2 siblings don't have as much motivation to cooperate?

I want 3-5 anyway, but we'll see if we make it to 5.

laurakaz13 · February 2014

2. I am so hoping I can get pregnant again. I'm afraid of more than 2 though.

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