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T&P not bump related

sheeshasheesha member
in March 2014 Moms
I would appreciate some prayers ladies. I know I've said on here before that we have guardianship of my Neice. She has been with us almost 3 years, my daughter knows her as a sister since she was only a few months old when Leilah came.

Well- My sister is trying to get her back. She has FINALLY finished all the court mandated drug and parenting classes (3 years later). Her new boyfriend is paying for her attorney. She is reopening the dependency case. I wish I could happily give her back knowing my sister is sober and better, but unfortunately I know she is NOT. She has left her other kids with my mom to go and party all night and knows when she is getting drug tested to make sure she has nothing in her system. We have three different attorney friends who have said unfortunately in the state of Florida they always favor reuinification with the biological mom. I am sooooo over Florida's DCF ! I have absolutely no rights even though she has been my daughter for three years!
Sorry so long. I am really hoping she drags her feet and doesn't follow through like usual. I don't know if I could sleep at night with Leilah not in her own bed.

Thanks for listening.
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Re: T&P not bump related

  • cdnmommacdnmomma member
    I'm so sorry that's so unfair. Rules in Canada are much better and protect the child and permanency for them.
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  • sheeshasheesha member
    @kalpa521 - I feel like no one is really looking out for the child - it's just about trying to reunite and close their cases. Thanks though.
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  • sheeshasheesha member
    I thought I would post a pic so you guys could see our little unexpected blessing too - I know I'm extra emotional from hormones. Leilah is almost 7 and DD is 3.
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  • sheeshasheesha member
    @amymheidecker - thank you I will definitely do. I have also saved every text and email she has sent.
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  • cdnmommacdnmomma member
    Sheesha those pics are really sweet. Do what you can to fight for this little girl. I know it might feel nasty but gather as much evidence as you can however you can, pictures, emails, texts Etc. drug/tox screens are so easily beat. Can you ask for hair strand testing? might be more expensive but even those can be beat. Can you reason with them that because shes settled where she is maybe they can play a bigger role in her life but let her stay in the place she knows as home? Whatever lhappens it sounds like she will always have you which is what counts most. Whether you live in the same house or not. I'm all for reunification when it can happen in a reasonable amount of time, but I feel strongly that children need stability and being in limbo for too long is far more detrimental. Hugs.
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  • sheeshasheesha member
    @kalpa521- I will try that and gladly pay for it. I am going to do my best. There is a chance I can ask for legal visitation so that I know she will let me see her at least every other weekend. I am just praying that my sister doesn't follow through as usual! Thanks for the advice and hugs!
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  • dedeyobadedeyoba member
    I understand your feelings.. I raised my
    niece (brother's daughter) for 2 years and was upset when she was returned to my brother.

    It's hard because it feels like it should be what's best for the child instead the first priority is reunification even if the parents can't provide a better home. It was rough the first year and a half she went back but eventually my brother left the mom and is doing better. I still worry about my niece but I think everything will be ok.

    I hope everything works out for your family too.
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