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Butting Heads on Baby Shower

Envy1328Envy1328 member
edited February 2014 in Connecticut Babies
I am very excited my mother is Willing to plan and throw a baby shower for me and my first child. I am due in September 2014 and am a very low maintenance person. My mom moved to a new home and really ants to throw the shower in her backyard. She has a nice backyard, but not much privacy, not to mention she lets her dog go everywhere in the yard. I am not opposed to having the shower in her backyard, it's just the timing of it all. She wants to throw a BBQ at the end of July, which is notorious for high heat and humidity. I run hot as it is, even before my pregnancy and I am nervous I will be extremely uncomfortable and nauseatingly hot in the backyard at that time of year since I will have a lot of extra baby weight. I am also nervous about the weather, what if it rains? I politely told my mom that was a nice idea, but I think my guests and I would be more comfortable in AC and advised about the potential for rain. She went on to say she has two EZ up tents which will protect us from the sun, but I I don't think 2 10x10 tents are going to do the trick unfortunately. When I went on to question the possibility of rain, she said we could have the shower in her garage..... I went on to advise that I am more than willing to pay for the hall rental at a VFW or K of C, but she refused and advised her backyard is the perfect spot for the shower that she' ll be throwing me... Is it just me? Am I wrong? Please help!
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Re: Butting Heads on Baby Shower

  • Envy1328Envy1328 member
    I hope so! Thank you!
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  • Amazing817Amazing817 member
    Do you have an ally that you could call on, a sister, SIL, aunt, best friend, someone that could help be a buffer and maybe gingerly help your mother see your side of things. She could just be very excited right now and I would let her be excited that you are expecting but don't let too much time go by without addressing this again because you would have to book a place by early spring for early summer. If you and your guests are uncomfortable at the shower in the end its going to be a bit of a disaster and after all the time and trouble she goes through it wouldn't be worth it.

    I would agree with giving it some time but seeing if someone could "step in" and offer to "help" with the shower and then they could try to advocate for what you would like as well.

    Good luck!

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