I just turn 29 the week before our 1st was born and I was 32 with our second. We are planning on having our 3rd before I turn 35 next May. We'll see how long it takes to get pg.
I had my first at 29 and my 2nd at 32. I had an unplanned pregnancy when I was 33, but found out I lost the baby at 12 weeks. It has been a year since my miscarriage and we are trying again. I'm 34.
Definitely agree with those who say its regional! We live near Philly, I'll be 26 next week, DH is 27 and were trying in the spring...we don't even know anyone who's married yet! All of our friends think we're too young but we're ready
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I was 35 with the first and 37 with the second one. I know plenty of people who had kids in their early 20s and quite a few who waited until 40+. I agree with @mb315 that there are pros and cons to starting at whatever age and it is very specific to each person's situation and preferences and none of anyone else's business.
I also agree that it's regional. I'm from the Northeast and everyone I know was working on advanced degrees or big time jobs in cities during their 20s. I only have one friend who was married younger than 30.
I will be 26 in May and we are on our first cycle ttc #1. DH just turned 31. It is definitely regional and a big cultural thing too. I come from a culture of young marriages and young babies, but even that is starting to change a bit. Between my generation and my parents, there has been a 5-7 year shift. Lots more couples are having their first at 21-25, rather than my parents, who had their first when my mom was 19 and my dad was 20, way back in 1980. I am #4 and the last for my parents, and I was born when my mom was 27 and my dad was 29.
I think that we're seeing a push back because 1) women want to do more with their lives before they get married and have babies. I got married 2 weeks after turning 24, and that was waiting a while for our culture - my poor husband was 29...he was the really old one! I wanted to finish college and work a while and ***gasp*** spend some time as newlyweds before taking the baby plunge.
Now, after 1.5 years of marriage, paying off a lot of debt, and getting a stable job and health insurance, we are ready to have a baby. We won't have to be on food stamps, we can afford a $200 car seat and $500 stroller if we want it, and our baby won't wear Goodwill clothes. Not that there is anything wrong with food stamps or Goodwill clothes - that's what I was born into when my dad was finishing dental school - but I think there is something wrong with a culture that expects first-time parents to be so young that they can't afford to clothe or feed their kid, and waiting to actually save money for a baby is unusual. I think it should be the other way around, Unfortunately, with many of my older siblings and cousins and friends, that's not the case. We waited until we could provide for our child, and it gives me peace of mind to know that we are actually saving for our baby's college fund before s/he is even conceived.
@foreignservicewife - I am just curious where you are from? A few parts in your post sounded like it could be outside of the US.... but some things sound like the rural south. I live in the south and it is very normal to have a first before 25 or be married right out of high school. I have actually had people ask if we were having trouble ttc because we have been married a few years and don't have a baby - I am 24 and we weren't ready before now. It's truly strange.
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@TheCrafyKoala My huge extended family is from the rural Northwest - eastern Washington, to be specific, but my immediate family moved to Portland before I was born. Our religion plays a huge role in all of this too. I think parts of the south and rural Northwest `are much the same in this regard. Everyone seems to think that all of Oregon and Washington is just like hipster Portland or Seattle, but in reality that's not the case. Huge swaths of the state are rural farming/logging with low education and low income, unfortunately.
I was 16 when I had my daughter. I'm turning 23 next month. I've never been in a rush to have more after having her since I've always known I had her too young. I'm married not and in what the DH and I feel is the best time for a baby so we are TTC.
I feel like 6 years is plenty of time in between kids. My brothers oldest is 23 and his youngest is Due tomorrow. Between me and my sister we have about a 20 year age gap. I really don't want a baby of my own on one hip and a grand baby on the other hip like my mother did.
Turned 31 less than 2 months before she was born. I want to have another 2 before 35, don't think I will make it though! :P Now I understand more than ever why it is good to still be young-- dang it takes a lot to keep up with her and she's not even walking yet. Glad I didn't wait any longer than I did... in fact I don't think it would have hurt to start earlier.
27 with #1 and planning on trying for #2 when I (finally) graduate college which will be when I am 29. Don't worry about age, it's all about when you and your SO are ready!
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Don't listen to them! I had DD when I was 24 and I will be 31, almost 32 when DS is born. I feel like I was too young when I had DD. I now feel the late 20's/early 30's is the perfect time to start a family.
I'm 26 and DH is 32 we are working on TTC baby #1. But don't let people make you feel like you're running out of time! My parents had me when they were 30 and my neighbor and her DH were TTC for 18 years!!! They finally gave up and then got ku at 41 years old! Their daughter is 10 years old and she is brilliant and beautiful.
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36 and DH was 38.
I also agree that it's regional. I'm from the Northeast and everyone I know was working on advanced degrees or big time jobs in cities during their 20s. I only have one friend who was married younger than 30.
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