I'm just done with everyone telling me what to do and not do and what to expect and not expect during pregnancy, child birth, and after the baby comes most of which being based on her say and no scientific reasoning what so ever. But being lectured about all that by women and girls who have no kids and were never pregnant now that is just too much at this point.
girls who are in their teens telling me to sit down at my cousins' 2 weddings the last couple of weeks, I'm like what the fuck?! the baby is absolutely fine. girls asking me if my clothes were too tight and would squish the baby because I wore pantyhose or a fitted dress?!
and the cherry on top was this queen of know it all's yesterday, my cousin's new 19-20 years old wife, she is a typical miss know it all, they got engaged around the time I got engaged and they got married 2 weeks ago and ever since I met her she would always tell me and everybody about everything and how it should be done including sex prior to her wedding when she was still a virgin. She sits there yesterday at this family formal gathering at my other cousin's fiance's house and openly tells me about what I should and shouldn't do while pregnant and what I will feel during pregnancy and post pregnancy, and what will happen during the birth of my baby and what I should do, she asked if I'm opting for an Epi and I said I don't know I will try to manage pain and see what happen and she said; no no..you will take it...I'm like; I will try not to and decide during if I will take it...she goes like...you will end up taking it..and I'm thinking WHAT THE F***!
oh and my favorite comment was: you have to pick up the baby every time she cries otherwise she will swallow too much air and get gary and then she will seriously cry really bad. and new borns wake up every half an hour to nurse.....seriously she actually said that.
there were no other seats, it's the first time we go to my cuz's fiance's house and I was stuck being next to her and she kept going on and on and on about things based on crap, she has no experience, and no logic and would say things like they were definite facts when they defined logic and science because she knows because her sister had two babies?!
I tried saying "yes I know I read all about it".." I read about it".."I know..I KNOW" "oh and how many kids you have?" and "you talk like you have 3 kids" you would think this would stop her but it didn't! and my aunt and cousin were right next to me so I had to remain super nice while saying all that but honestly I was about to punch her in the face! she was too much. How do you handle people like this
Re: Done with Know it All's, Need to vent
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
We're you seated for dinner? If it were a more casual seating I would've gotten up and walked away, even just to stand and lean against a wall. If not an option then turn kt the other person beside you and strike up a non-baby related conversation.
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
This isn't my first rodeo! This is my third pregnancy I'm pretty sure I know what is in store. At first I would just nod and smile when my coworker said it at EVERY shift change. Now I just walk away can't take it.
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
There is a lady at work that told me I should not stretch my arms above my head because the baby's umbilical cord will go around its neck. Every once in awhile she "catches" me which is irritating. I finally told her "my prenatal yoga must really put my baby at risk then; I wonder why all my docs recommend it."
Constant advice coupled with "how are you feeling?" gets irritating even when well-intentioned and scientifically accurate, but the uneducated type makes me batty.
Due June 29, 2014
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This made me laugh because I TOTALLY understand you.
I am straight up honest and get in people's faces when they talk like this. I say "You're stressing me out big time and I can't have my blood pressure getting too high." It's a flat out lie- my blood pressure is fine. Or I'll say "I think you're giving me hypertension and if I go into preterm labor- I'm blaming you." Totally a cop out and I don't give a shit if they believe it or not. I'm genuinely pissed when people info dump on you- like you never picked up a book and live under a rock while you grow life inside you. Or I'll even go into my teacher mode and ask them like a little kid "Are you helping, or are you hurting?" My in laws always pull this BS on me and I have cited hypertension more than once or twice. I'm also pregnant with twins but still... it's a real risk with single pregnancies too!
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
I can understand too about people treating you like you're disabled. I get annoyed when people are like "sit down!" and all I can do is stand. My torso is pretty short- hell, I'm pretty short- so sometimes it just feels better to stand and walk around. I would just say- "The babies need to move and so do I!" It also helps if you get into a super awkward but totally comfortable position in front of everyone- imagine me totally bent over the counter because it's the only way to get my back to relax. That tends to quiet a few voices.
If it makes you feel better I have a SIL who won't let me make my own decisions. There's a BILLION dollar baby industry out there just for products geared towards mom. Guess what- they're not all perfect. She got into a straight up argument with me about the Moby versus the K'Tan baby carrier. I wanted to go with the K'Tan- she likes the Moby. Apparently, me asking several total unsuspecting people in stores with the carriers and asking their opinions (I totally did this and I'm not the least bit ashamed- I wanted their honest feedback) wasn't enough research. Apparently, me borrowing BOTH products and testing them with dolls wasn't enough (I realize I sound more and more crazy with each keystroke). Because she liked the Moby, that's the only product on the market that I should look at.
So I registered for 2 K'Tans.
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
I was talking about the info dumping with my husband and how everyone loves to tell you what to expect because yes, ALL babies are exactly the same. And my husband said it perfectly: If it was really like that (the info dumping bitches' version of screaming baby every half hour), then people wouldn't be having babies. It can't all be like that.
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks