People have a lot to say... Sorry long

GalLaura · February 2014

I'm a bit disappointed in one of my friends from the USA. She sent me a 6 paragraph text asking me what's going and she's worried about me. The tone was not nice and she said she wonders of we will still be friends. I was only able to see her once when I was home for 4 weeks. It was mostly due to the fact that I was visiting family (family is divorced and had to give equal time at each), lo was sick 2x, I was sick 2 x and had mastasis and was staying in south jersey at the end of my trip. Not to mention all the snow and a jet lagged baby who didn't sleep for a week. She lives in Brooklyn and was away one week on business.

Anyway i wrote her back explaining all of the above and saying its different now because I'm a mom too. I tried not to go there because she had a loss earlier this year and is ttc. She also told me many months ago that I should put my baby in daycare so someone else can sleep train him... Her reponse was we all know your a mom and we are very supportive. We've been around crying babies before. She is just a bit clueless what a jet lagged baby is like... Now it's all awkward and I don't know what else to say. She claims all the friends feel this way but I've approached them and they said they don't.

Next my aunt sends me an email saying I should stop breast feeding, feed him cereal and at least 3 x a day. I do all of the above except I will breast feed hopefull until one year.

I feel very attacked

and not sure what to say to these two.

lioness13 · February 2014

Sorry you're not getting their support and feel dumped on. I don't think there's much you can say because nobody really knows what you're going through but you. Trying to get them to understand is a waste of time. Your friend is just saying she wants to be your friend and misses you. Not sure if you want advice but where is mine. Just tell her you feel the same way and wish things would have been different during your visit. When she has a kid she will feel like an ass for bitching about this. And tell your aunt thanks for the advice. She means well and is just trying to help. Next, stop discussing your baby's sleep issues with her. That's what we're here for

sweetbabypea · February 2014

"Thanks for the input but we're doing what works for our family right now"

NFT needed :P

tttwalters · February 2014

you shouldn't have been expected to do all of the travelling, you traveled far enough as it was! Also, echoing what pp's have said that relationships do change and some people don't have a good understanding of what it is exactly you are going through and offer unnecessary advice. I would just thank your aunt for her advice and move on. You know your baby best! hugs to you!

GalLaura · February 2014

Thank you ladies. It's very sad to see a friendship practically end over nothing. It's like she wanted me to have this serious problem.

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