SWMR - Valentine's day vent

mae0111 · February 2014

DH and I really don't do much for Valentine's day, but I bought 2 filet mignons to have for dinner tonight after the kids go to bed.

Last night, our nanny had to stay late (6pm) because DH was out of town. She typically makes dinner for the kids on nights like this, and I don't usually give her any instructions. She just finds something.

See where I'm going? She cooked the filets. DD1 doesn't eat steak - she ate a grilled cheese. So she cooked them both, gave a little bit to DD2 (11 months), and ate the rest of one. She left the other one for me for dinner. By the time I got home, it was cold and gross, so I just put it in the fridge. Also, she dredged it in flour before she cooked it - almost like chicken fried steak... with a FILET.

I'm really annoyed. But it's probably on me, since I didn't specifically tell her NOT to cook them. Oh well. Takeout it is.

jesuisfatiguee · February 2014

My jaw dropped. That... SUCKS. I hope y'all are at least having a tasty wine with your takeout tonight.

MommaP12 · February 2014

That is really, really weird to me. I would think it's common sense that:

a) you doing cook filet for kids

b) the filets were probably for Valentine's Day, duh.

Frying a filet? And feeding it to an 11 month old??

:-O

rubber_chicken · February 2014

Is your nanny from another culture/country? My MIL does really weird things with food.

Or is she young? I never learned to cook as a kid/teen, and it's only in my late 20s that I learned to identify Filet Mignon from any other cut of beef.

jf198400 · February 2014

Who on earth thinks steak is a good choice for little kids??? I would be so mad. We don't have valentines plans either, sorry for your disappointment

SunAndRain · February 2014

I'm sorry that sucks. I would be extremely frustrated and disappointed. But I wouldn't fault the nanny. Clear instructions set clear expectations.

SparkySharky · February 2014

I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok to grab whatever she could find in the fridge as she had before. She was probably half-blinded by the idea of getting to have a steak herself as she decided on what to do for dinner.

That said, I'd casually mention it or make a joke. Maybe give her a cheesy V-Day card and say, "I was going to give this to my DH along with the steak, but it looks like you're my valentine this year." It might help her to think more critically in the future without making a big deal out of it.

SunAndRain · February 2014

SparkySharky said:

I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok to grab whatever she could find in the fridge as she had before. She was probably half-blinded by the idea of getting to have a steak herself as she decided on what to do for dinner.

That said, I'd casually mention it or make a joke. Maybe give her a cheesy V-Day card and say, "I was going to give this to my DH along with the steak, but it looks like you're my valentine this year." It might help her to think more critically in the future without making a big deal out of it.

Yeah, I wouldn't get in to the passive-aggressive space with your nanny. That is a great way to harm a working relationship.

Maybe some wouldn't be bothered by it, however.

jf198400 · February 2014

Estwd2 said:

jf198400 said:
Who on earth thinks steak is a good choice for little kids???
DD had steak at 6 months old. Pretty common for BLW. What's the problem?

Sorry, OP. That sucks.

I honestly don't know how you would eat steak without teeth? Not trying to offend. We did mostly purées and I was paranoid about them choking on bananas, so this is new to me.

dglvrk2 · February 2014

I'm sorry that your steak dinner isn't happening. However, I think it was an honest on your nanny's part. Even w DH I have to be explicit about any food I'm saving. Lame, but it is what it is...

emberlee3 · February 2014

SparkySharky said:
I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok to grab whatever she could find in the fridge as she had before. She was probably half-blinded by the idea of getting to have a steak herself as she decided on what to do for dinner.

That said, I'd casually mention it or make a joke. Maybe give her a cheesy V-Day card and say, "I was going to give this to my DH along with the steak, but it looks like you're my valentine this year." It might help her to think more critically in the future without making a big deal out of it.

No. It is not the nanny's fault at all. I would not say anything to her, and in the future I would leave specific instructions for what to cook.

Sorry, OP. Have a glass of wine and laugh it off.

SparkySharky · February 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

jf198400 said:

Who on earth thinks steak is a good choice for little kids???
DD had steak at 6 months old. Pretty common for BLW. What's the problem? Sorry, OP. That sucks.
I honestly don't know how you would eat steak without teeth? Not trying to offend. We did mostly purées and I was paranoid about them choking on bananas, so this is new to me.

You gum it a lot. Both my kids at steak by 7 months as well. We did BLW. DS is still toothless but can gum steak just fine

Ours had roast beef around 7 mos. We had it cut-up so fine it looked like dog food. He was a fan. Hopefully we didn't set him to eat actual dog food later on.

Iblamethebeer · February 2014

SparkySharky said:

I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok to grab whatever she could find in the fridge as she had before. She was probably half-blinded by the idea of getting to have a steak herself as she decided on what to do for dinner.

That said, I'd casually mention it or make a joke. Maybe give her a cheesy V-Day card and say, "I was going to give this to my DH along with the steak, but it looks like you're my valentine this year." It might help her to think more critically in the future without making a big deal out of it.

Wow, assuming the worst, maybe?

I don't think a nanny who dredged filet in flour and tried to feed it to babies is enough of a meat connoisseur to have greedily hatched a plan to steal fancy steak and play dumb about it.

SparkySharky · February 2014

Iblamethebeer said:

SparkySharky said:

I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok to grab whatever she could find in the fridge as she had before. She was probably half-blinded by the idea of getting to have a steak herself as she decided on what to do for dinner.

That said, I'd casually mention it or make a joke. Maybe give her a cheesy V-Day card and say, "I was going to give this to my DH along with the steak, but it looks like you're my valentine this year." It might help her to think more critically in the future without making a big deal out of it.

Wow, assuming the worst, maybe?

I don't think a nanny who dredged filet in flour and tried to feed it to babies is enough of a meat connoisseur to have greedily hatched a plan to steal fancy steak and play dumb about it.

The total opposite, actually. I was thinking about what I would be thinking if I saw a steak and the general rule was everything in the fridge was fair game (no pun intended).

rubber_chicken · February 2014

Iblamethebeer said:

Wow, assuming the worst, maybe?

I don't think a nanny who dredged filet in flour and tried to feed it to babies is enough of a meat connoisseur to have greedily hatched a plan to steal fancy steak and play dumb about it.

Omg, when I was 22 and broke, I once stuffed a sandwich ziplock full of dinosaur-shaped chicken nuggets while babysitting and took them home with me to eat. I can't believe I did that!! Well, that's what happens you pay a greedy meat connoisseur $8/hour to watch 4 kids.

jf198400 · February 2014

SparkySharky said:

PrivacyWanted said:

jf198400 said:

Estwd2 said:

jf198400 said:
Who on earth thinks steak is a good choice for little kids???
DD had steak at 6 months old. Pretty common for BLW. What's the problem?

Sorry, OP. That sucks.
I honestly don't know how you would eat steak without teeth? Not trying to offend. We did mostly purées and I was paranoid about them choking on bananas, so this is new to me.

You gum it a lot. Both my kids at steak by 7 months as well. We did BLW. DS is still toothless but can gum steak just fine

Ours had roast beef around 7 mos. We had it cut-up so fine it looked like dog food. He was a fan. Hopefully we didn't set him to eat actual dog food later on.

Both of my kids have eaten dog food, I guess that's my Friday confession.

SparkySharky · February 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

jf198400 said:

Who on earth thinks steak is a good choice for little kids???
DD had steak at 6 months old. Pretty common for BLW. What's the problem? Sorry, OP. That sucks.
I honestly don't know how you would eat steak without teeth? Not trying to offend. We did mostly purées and I was paranoid about them choking on bananas, so this is new to me.

You gum it a lot. Both my kids at steak by 7 months as well. We did BLW. DS is still toothless but can gum steak just fine

Ours had roast beef around 7 mos. We had it cut-up so fine it looked like dog food. He was a fan. Hopefully we didn't set him to eat actual dog food later on.
Both of my kids have eaten dog food, I guess that's my Friday confession.

My Friday confession: I have eaten dog food. Even after my parents told me to stop.

Iblamethebeer · February 2014

SparkySharky said:

Iblamethebeer said:

SparkySharky said:

I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok to grab whatever she could find in the fridge as she had before. She was probably half-blinded by the idea of getting to have a steak herself as she decided on what to do for dinner.

That said, I'd casually mention it or make a joke. Maybe give her a cheesy V-Day card and say, "I was going to give this to my DH along with the steak, but it looks like you're my valentine this year." It might help her to think more critically in the future without making a big deal out of it.

Wow, assuming the worst, maybe?

I don't think a nanny who dredged filet in flour and tried to feed it to babies is enough of a meat connoisseur to have greedily hatched a plan to steal fancy steak and play dumb about it.

The total opposite, actually. I was thinking about what I would be thinking if I saw a steak and the general rule was everything in the fridge was fair game (no pun intended).

Ah, I think I got lost in the negatives there... "I don't think she had any reason to think it wasn't ok" means "she reasonably thought it was okay" right? I originally thought you were saying she should have known she shouldn't eat it.

mae0111 · February 2014

Oh, I'm absolutely not faulting her - like I said, probably my fault for not explicitly telling her that I'd planned to have them for dinner tonight. I'm not going to say a word about it! I'm just going to make sure that if I'm saving food for something that I tell her in the future. As the day has gone on, I'm less annoyed, and more amused by the whole thing. Not a big deal at all.

And our DD2 LOVES steak. We grind it up since she's just getting teeth now, and we can't get it to her fast enough. We put some on her tray, and put the rest in her puree, and she screams at us to feed her faster!

mae0111 · February 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

Now I really want a nice steak for dinner. @mae0111 I'm blaming you for this craving.

I really want steak for dinner too!!! But mine's gone... =((

*sparky* · February 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

Now I really want a nice steak for dinner. @mae0111 I'm blaming you for this craving.

I just went to the store and bought filets after reading this post.

Sorry this happened OP. I'd be annoyed to, not at the nanny, just that it happened, but would probably pick up a couple more steaks on my way home.

mae0111 · February 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

mae0111 said:

PrivacyWanted said:

Now I really want a nice steak for dinner. @mae0111 I'm blaming you for this craving.

I really want steak for dinner too!!! But mine's gone... =((

Can you grab some at the store on the way home? Or maybe some place delivers?

I'm WFH, but I might run out and grab a couple more. The weather was awful earlier (snow), but it looks like it's clearing up.

jf198400 · February 2014

This is making me realize I have absolutely no dinner planned for tonight, I think well get takeout.

litzo27 · February 2014

Estwd2 said:

jf198400 said:
Who on earth thinks steak is a good choice for little kids???
DD had steak at 6 months old. Pretty common for BLW. What's the problem?

Sorry, OP. That sucks.

This. Add me to the camp of steak for babies. DS2 would growl at the sight of meat at 11 months! He did great as long as the meat was soft.

But steak in flour? - I would give her a proper recipe just to make the world a better place

NextChapter24 · February 2014

rubber_chicken said:

Iblamethebeer said:

Wow, assuming the worst, maybe?

I don't think a nanny who dredged filet in flour and tried to feed it to babies is enough of a meat connoisseur to have greedily hatched a plan to steal fancy steak and play dumb about it.

Omg, when I was 22 and broke, I once stuffed a sandwich ziplock full of dinosaur-shaped chicken nuggets while babysitting and took them home with me to eat. I can't believe I did that!! Well, that's what happens you pay a greedy meat connoisseur $8/hour to watch 4 kids.

My old babysitter when I was young would bring tupperware over to our house and box up our leftovers to take home with her. My mom could not understand where the two lasagnas she had made for the week had gone by Tuesday...and she was not 22!

@-)

WBMom · February 2014

That stinks. and she really did not even get to enjoy a good filet. She dredged it in flour - gross.

*sparky* · February 2014

NextChapter24 said:

rubber_chicken said:

Iblamethebeer said:

Wow, assuming the worst, maybe?

I don't think a nanny who dredged filet in flour and tried to feed it to babies is enough of a meat connoisseur to have greedily hatched a plan to steal fancy steak and play dumb about it.
Omg, when I was 22 and broke, I once stuffed a sandwich ziplock full of dinosaur-shaped chicken nuggets while babysitting and took them home with me to eat. I can't believe I did that!! Well, that's what happens you pay a greedy meat connoisseur $8/hour to watch 4 kids.

My old babysitter when I was young would bring tupperware over to our house and box up our leftovers to take home with her. My mom could not understand where the two lasagnas she had made for the week had gone by Tuesday...and she was not 22!

@-)