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1st Trimester
MissyHodgey
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Good day
MissyHodgey
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Re: Good day
Good day.
Your words, not ours. I'm sure your ultrasound tech will be just thrilled that you're informing them of the dangers.
You don't get to dictate how we respond to posts on a public forum. And stress from bitchiness will not hurt anyone's baby, trust me.
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Let me attempt to straighten this mess out.
Many of these replies are simply rude. The name calling. The bullying. The bitching at me for things I didn’t even say. And when I said “kindly move along”, I actually meant that in a nice way. I see that it was taken as rude. I specifically said I was not looking to make a debate about ultrasounds. So when that came up I kindly asked you to move along. Sometimes it’s best to keep your opinions to yourselves ladies. Trust me. There are LOTS of opinions on pregnancy and childbirth and raising children. They don’t need to be debated Every. Single. Time. they come up.
It is obvious many of you did not read my full post based on comments that were made. So surely you missed the last portion that read, “Note: I am in no way trying to start a discussion on the pros and cons of ultrasounds. We are all entitled to do what we feel is best for our bodies and our babies. Nor am I passing judgement on those that decide to have routine ultrasounds!! Much respect to all of you, no matter your choices or opinions.” I only hoped for the same respect back.
And no, I was not looking for a pat on the back for crying out loud. I would not go to strangers on the internet for that. My friends and family support me completely. I was looking for a simple answer to a simple question that my friends do not have experience with.
So first, I said AS LONG AS NO PROBLEMS ARE SUSPECTED, I do not plan on exposing my fetus or body to routine ultrasounds. If something comes up, I am not against further investigation.
Second, I was leaning towards doing ONE ultrasound. Minimizing the time and the intensity of ultrasounds minimizes the danger. So if I decide to expose my fetus to an ultrasound, I want to get the most bang for my buck, per say. So the benefits will outweigh the potential risks. The 20 week ultrasound gives a lot of information regarding the baby’s health as well as the anatomy scan. It also will confirm the date but, like I said previously, I know the day that we had sex that resulted in this pregnancy. There is no doubt on that. So, at most, I am a few days off from actual conception? I don’t need an ultrasound to date this pregnancy. Especially in the first trimester. How would that information help? Not important.
Third, yes I said I was mostly interested in finding out the sex. I am 10.5 weeks pregnant and this was not planned. I am struggling to be excited about this new chapter of my life. I hope that finding out the sex will help this feel more real and give me more specific things to look forward to. Don’t understand that? Fine. That part is really none of your business.
My question when I made this post was if there were other women who opted out of routine ultrasounds and if they received push back for it. That was what I wanted responses for. That, I did not get here. I did get it somewhere else, and I really, really appreciate those comments.
Finally, my reasoning for not having multiple ultrasounds without a specific reason is, in MY opinion, for the health of MY baby. So my main focus is on the health of my baby. How that manages to piss off so many of you is beyond me. When I say that I do not care if you have 10 ultrasounds or zero, if you screen for everything under the sun or not at all, if you breastfeed or not, if you have a vaginal birth or scheduled C-section – I DON’T CARE. As long as you are doing what you feel is best for YOU, then I respect and support that. Please, stop with the bullying, the shaming, the name-calling. It’s absolutely childish! I believe that woman should stick together and support each other, not tear each other down. We should all respect each other’s decisions, especially when it comes to our bodies.
The anonymity of the internet can be a terrible thing. Ladies, put your claws away. Take a deep breath. Count to 10. Get off your high horse. None of you is better than the other. So just stop it.
End the Mommy Wars. Because that’s all this thread has turned into.
These ladies have it all figured out. We could all learn from them. https://ctworkingmoms.com/2013/06/11/end-the-mommy-wars-special-photo-edition/
ETA: sarcasm font in case OP thinks I was being sincere.