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Lying for family?

bexbarkerbexbarker member
in June 2013 Moms
So this is kinda a follow up to my post about my sister. She's in Ohio for the week at my mom's, and she applied for a job at a telemarketing place. She just texted me to say that she used me as a job reference (because she doesn't have any), so I have to pretend to be a past employer if they call me. I hate lying. I'm no good at it, and it makes me uncomfortable. What would you guys do in this situation? I mean, they probably won't call me, but I feel like a crappy sister if I don't go along with it if they do.
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  • Cricket81Cricket81 member
    Blah! I have no advice, but it's just so crappy of your sister to put you in that position.
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  • bexbarkerbexbarker member
    Yeah, my feeling is to just not answer the phone. She does the same thing when she is applying for a new apartment--she has her fiance's mom pretend they rented from her. It is beyond frustrating, and I feel so uncomfortable being asked to lie. Last year she wanted me to pretend she had nannied for my imaginary child so I could be a reference for her as a nanny.
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  • bexbarkerbexbarker member
    chewbaccarock said:
    Your sister is a peach. I'm sorry she is putting you in that situation, but I agree with PP-tell her you won't lie for her. If she's going to lie, can't she just tell them she's been a SAHM and because her family's circumstances have changed, she has to find work but has no previous experience?
    That's what I would think. So many places like this telemarketing place say no experience necessary. So why lie?
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  • BC&LMBC&LM member
    I would not do it. I can't even believe your sister put you in that position. She sounds like a real piece of work!
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  • Western DivaWestern Diva member
    numbersgirl08 said:

    Tell her you won't lie for her.

    This. My understanding in Canada is that if you give her a good reference, you are legally responsible for your referral. What a crappy situation for her to put you in!!

     

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  • kacellekacelle member
    There is no way I would agree to that.  I can't believe she asked that of you!
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  • JessicaKSJessicaKS member
    Do not lie for her! What a horrendous thing she asked you to do for her.
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  • bexbarkerbexbarker member
    Thanks, guys. I didn't get a call, and she apparently got the job, so it didn't come down to lying. I did tell her that I was uncomfortable put in that position. She rolled her eyes at me and said it was no big deal. I just asked her to not ask me to lie for her again in the future. Thanks for the support!
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