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Please no judgement I just need advice

BabyKK32BabyKK32 member
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My 12 month old is not sleeping. I started the cry it out method a little over a month ago and she was doing so good! I would lay her down in her pac n play and she would be asleep with no crying in a couple of minutes. She never stayed In there the whole night and eventually ended up in bed with me since I work 55 hours a week and give in and let her sleep with us because I have to be up really early. That never affected her falling asleep on her own. Now for the last week she screams for an hour when I lay her down and then when she does get in bed with me she moves all night long waking at least 5 times and throws her paci so I have to bf her back to sleep. I'm going crazy with no sleep. I know I shouldn't give in but if I don't I'll be up all night and all day and I'm about to start night school too. I can't keep doing this. Any suggestions?
Ps she sleeps in a Pac n play at work because I'm a nanny and she sleeps In one at night because her mattress is too small for the crib we got and I haven't even able to get a new one yet.
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Re: Please no judgement I just need advice

  • hmonttyhmontty member
    Could just be a wakeful period. If so, it'll work itself out in a couple weeks or so. My DS (AWESOME sleeper) went through this at 9 months for a couple weeks.

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  • BabyKK32BabyKK32 member
    I haven't bought one because she has always slept with me I'm just now starting to have her sleep in her own bed. I don't let her cry for an hour straight I go in 5,10,15 and so on. She just jumps straight up and screams as soon as I walk away. I don't see any teeth but she won't let me look either so I'm not really sure.
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  • BabyKK32BabyKK32 member
    And I don't have hundreds to spend on a custom mattress. Her bed was bought by my grandparents and it was custom built from a friend.
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  • shannmshannm member
    I agree with nicb13. Your DD is smart. She is doing what she knows will get her what she wants. You need to decide what is best for her and you. Then you need a plan and you need to stick with it. If you decide that she should be sleeping in her own space and shortly after laying her down, that's what you need to teach her. Making her cry until you give in is teaching her that crying results in you giving in. You are currently positively reinforcing what you describe as poor sleep habits.
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  • RedDDDRedDDD member
    Agree with others....the issues could be a number of things but consistency is KEY.  Same time to bed every night, in the same place, and if she wakes same routine of putting her back down.  I would also give some advil at night just to eliminate the possibility of teeth.  Just because you cant see them doesnt mean they arent working their way out.  GL!
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  • BabyKK32BabyKK32 member
    Thank y'all for the input. The CIO worked great for a month and now she's just taking steps back. Even though I bring her to bed with me every night when she wakes up she still goes down for her naps and bed time without a fuss. We'll until now. I'm going to just get a used crib and do consistency. I think she is teething because she's had some symptoms. Hopefully it's that and this will resolve back to normal sooner than later. I'm so tired! :p
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  • fitmom82fitmom82 member
    I agree with getting her in a crib.  I disagree with going in while letting her CIO.  Both my kids have gone through stages when they go right to sleep to when they fight it.  I'll let them whine and whimper for an hour, even though it sucks.  Screaming I try to keep down to 5-10 minutes.  We just went though this with DS.  After a few minutes of screaming DH would give him a small bottle to have in the crib.  I know it's not the right thing to do, but it helped get him settled for a few weeks, and now he's back to bottle, brush his teeth, and in the crib.  If anyone does have to go back up have your DH do it if he can.
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  • LEIGHLOVE09LEIGHLOVE09 member
    If it's teething I would give Motrin when she wakes and put her back in her pnp or crib after rocking her back to sleep. If you know nothing is hurting then CIO as she needs to learn. You'd be surprised how quickly they learn. For us, DD got more worked up if I went in so in the end we let her cry until she fell asleep on her own. All it took was the one night as hard as it was.

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  • trojastrojas member
    Listen, you have to do what you have to do to survive. If that means putting her in your bed, who cares?! My 19 month old ends up in my bed every night. Yes, he moves around, but whatever. Its what calms him down when he wakes up in the middle of the night. 

    And I think of this...one day I'm going to wish he was still little enough to sleep in my bed. I'm going to treasure these nights even though I don't sleep shit. 

    And yes, like other mommies have written, check her out to make sure there is nothing physically wrong with her.  
     


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  • Mel5983Mel5983 member
    It also sounds like maybe she's getting a little too big to sleep in not just the PNP but when she's unable to get comfortable in your bed, maybe she needs the crib to figure out what is comfortable for HER. Is it just the two of you in bed or DH too? Asking because in our home there's barely enough room for DS & I with how much he moves during sleep let alone with DH too. Then DS gets really poor sleep and so do we.  I know it's so much easier to cuddle up in your bed with her but think of long term sleeping habits. If you think this sucks, wait until shes 4-5 fighting to go to bed every night because she wants to sleep ONLY in your bed. Lol I loved cuddling up with DD (now 9) and I still do but we both sleep better in our own beds. Same with Ds (18 mo), he literally wants to sleep ON my face so I do not sleep at all when he's in my bed. 

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  • bubble520bubble520 member
    We choose to cosleep after the first wake up...i dont see it as "giving in", I see it as our current sleep plan... if your current plan includes cosleeping thats ok, but like other people have said make it your plan, be consistent and it may get better...
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  • BaldwinMartinBaldwinMartin member
    We co-slept for the first 17 months, I BF and it was just easier.

    When I weaned her, my hubby started letting her fall asleep with him and when she was totally out put her in her crib, if she wakes up when i get home and I'm still awake i soothe her back to sleep by singing her abc's to her, but if I'm already asleep and she wakes me up she just comes to bed with me. It works for us.

    I tried CIO a time or two but she'd just get upset and take that much longer to go back to sleep.

    Good luck!!!
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