Any other OCD mamas out there?

brittanydec2012 · February 2014

My LO is a month old now and I still can't kick this disappointed feeling with myself over not accomplishing enough, or anything throughout the day. Before baby was born I took pride in a spotless house and would live off my to do lists. On Saturdays I wouldn't sit down and watch TV or have a lazy time until my to do list was accomplished. I couldn't relax or focus on relaxing until I felt "done". Now I'm not accomplishing much during the day, sometimes nothing and my mental to do list is growing. I'm feeling disappointment in myself and like in being lazy. I know I have a new newborn to take care of and that's my #1 priority now and I keep telling myself that a messy house doesn't matter, that my healthy baby does but I'm just having a hard time adjusting. Wondering if there's any other ladies out there feeling the same thing?

MiaMyPuggle · February 2014

Yes, I'm going insane. I'm a bit of a control freak, so everything not being "just so" is irritating. I think this is a part of why I'm not enjoying anything about being a mom to a toddler and newborn at the same time. They both need me at the same time and for totally different things. Plus, DD spits up CONSTANTLY and I can't keep up.....spit up everywhere and I'm so frustrated with it right now.

Chelsea33833 · February 2014

Yep. I could've written your post. I didn't really believe everyone about not having enough time to do all the things I wanted to accomplish. My house is a wreck and my school work is not getting done... But baby is so wonderful!

worleygirl · February 2014

I did with DS. I never slept when he did bc I had a to do list a mile long. This time I just kinda let it go all day and when DH gets home give DD to him and spend about 30 mins on my chores. I'm also more relaxed than I was 5 years ago though. DH does a lot to help me and we always do a quick pick up of the house before bed. We also have a housekeeper so I don't have to worry about cleaning.

amt0312 · February 2014

YES! i feel accomplished if I shower and wash all the bottles at the end of the day, otherwise, I am mentally, emotionally and physically unable to keep up with household chores. When she sleeps, all I want to do is relax and enjoy the few moments to myself. I don't even really have an interest in eating, which is something I normally love to do! I used to be a nut about keeping a clean house and I cried and cried the first two weeks after LO arrived that I couldn't keep up. I've just given up and am considering hiring a cleaning lady just to dust, vacuum and mop the downstairs every couple of weeks.

slmille4 · February 2014

I'm a planner (my OCD) so until LO gets on a routine I'm not as productive. I like predictability to my day so these past few weeks have been a tough adjustment for me. Once she's in a schedule I will def be tackling a lot more!!!

brittanydec2012 · February 2014

I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way, though I don't wish this overwhelming feeling on anyone! I know things will get better once I adjust but this new reality just seem to hit me hard, especially since my LO surprised us 3 weeks early and I had many things I planned to do with my early maternity leave that I took from work but only ended up having 2 days of it before my water broke.

jwp325 · February 2014

@brittanydec2012 I'm in the same boat. My due date was January 7 so I was counting on my two weeks of winter break (teacher who got bonus mat leave) to finish up all the things I needed to do around the house. DD had other ideas since my water broke on December 22nd. Last day of work was the 20th.

Anyway, I try to do a little in the evenings when DH is home or during one of DD's naps. Lately she has been super fussy which means I get nothing done. It's a weird out of control feeling yet I also feel like I'm doing a decent job of taking care of my child so I guess I am accomplishing something. Just less tangible than a clean house, craft projects, cooking, and completed homework.

chelle_chelle5487@hotmail.com · February 2014

I definitely did with DD. I didn't work most of my pregnancy with her so I was home by myself and entertained myself cooking, cleaning, and crafting. I've always liked things clean and organized and that heightened after having her. I also felt like I needed to be super stay at home mom who could do it all. It took sometime to be ok with my new normal. I started making a cleaning schedule and that helped. This time around I am more laid back but still wished I got more done during the day. I re did my cleaning schedule. What used to take me a week now takes two. I'm still getting used to it and keep telling myself it's ok and this is just a season and one day my kids will be in school and I will have the house to myself and get so much done!

Kbrittonhart · February 2014

Every day I feel like I have no control and I'm not bring productive as a mother, wife, or professional. For the past few days I've been trying to get a routine established and prioritize things. I realized that alot of stuff I was trying to do isn't even important! I hope you figure out something that works for you. I'm sure it will get better for all of us.

ashybear · February 2014

I am feeling this, related to work. Yes. I am on leave, but I also live on-site where I work, there isn't a backup person for my time away (except my boss, and that is just a canful of worms), and it's a fairly crucial recruitment season for us. And, I have always been pretty work-obsessed. So seeing emails come in, or things getting posted on out social media sites, or projects that l left for others to do getting done incorrectly, is totally driving me insane. I spent yesterday morning in the office, wearing Jude, to try to get a better handle on things so I can actually take this time off.

It's just so hard because everyone acts so disappointed with me for behaving exactly like they knew I would, but have done absolutely nothing to step up to help.

I wish I was capable of just switching that part of me off and just not caring, but I can't (Doing that around the house with chores, etc. is much easier for me.).

wedbliss5 · February 2014

This is my house before and after my first did. So yay, I totally get what you're feeling.

Goldiva · February 2014

If I didn't know any better I would've thought that I wrote this in my sleep; this is exactly how I feel and it's very frustrating. I feel so defeated at times throughout the day but I just stop and take a deep breath and pray and at God for strength and she's just to be with me. My husband keeps telling me that it's only momentary and that it's going to get better and enjoy it while I can because he's going to be six months and then a year before you know it.

jblank03 · February 2014

I most certainly didn't keep a spotless house before LO, but I still get frustrated that I can't get more done during my maternity leave. I'll expect the house to be a mess when I'm back at work, but right now I feel like I should be able to keep up on laundry, dishes, cleaning and the other 30 things that are on my ever-growing to do list. My sister is visiting for the weekend so I'm hoping to knock a lot out then, but on the flip side I know I really should use that time to sleep since it's rare I get more than 2 hours at a time, and even those stretches aren't super frequent.

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