DH taking LO on an overnight trip alone

redrocksmama · February 2014

DH and I are debating this topic, so tell me what J13 would do. Would you let your H/SO take LO on an overnight trip to see family without you? It would be about a 5 hour car ride and he'd be staying in a hotel. I BF LO but he has never had a problem taking a bottle.

karen0477 · February 2014

Yep, if the car ride and taking a bottle aren't a problem, I would for sure.....

jackson290721 · February 2014

No, but only because I don't like pumping.

chiboo9 · February 2014

I said no but only because I'm not personally ready to have an overnight without LO.

redrocksmama · February 2014

Alicia0817 said:

A night of uninterrupted sleep? Hell yes! In all seriousness though, what's the concern?

No major concerns, just a bunch of "what ifs". Like what if LO suddenly won't take a bottle or if he won't settle for DH in the MOTN (which is usually the case). I feel like I have to be there for LO, especially since he's never been overnight anywhere. But a night of sleep and a quiet house would.be.amazing.

blairwitch · February 2014

My DH and baby...ha hah hahahahaha...

He would be lost.

As for your situation...if he can do a night alone already...then why not. If thats your main concern anyway.

Mine has never done bed time, solid feeding, bathing, and rarely bottles in the last 4mos. Same for diapers. If he had to I am sure he would/could...but I dont see him opting to do this.

yelyah4826 · February 2014

My lo won't take a bottle so I can't even imagine doing that because I don't even have the freedom of being out for a few hours so my dh or i obviously wouldnt be confident. But if your lo does take the bottle and obviously DH is super confident in being away without you then I do think he deserves that right just qs much as you would. Ian there any reason you cant all go together?

Melissa0926432 · February 2014

I voted yes but if it were me I wouldn't. Only because pumping pretty much gets nothing and LO will not go down for a nap or bedtime without me. So DH really couldn't do it. I mean he could but it wouldn't be pretty...

ETA - I wouldn't get out of bed... so much sleep!

[Deleted User] · February 2014

F no!

queenbone · February 2014

OMG, that would be so awesome! Can my DH go too and take all three of my children with him? Please?

flkong · February 2014

I said no because I'm not ready to be without her for that long. But I would sacrifice and let DH take her to visit close family.

jackson290721 · February 2014

Yeah, the more I think about it. I'm not ready. I wouldn't sleep, I hate sleeping alone. So I would just lie in bed watching TV, that would be boring. Nope, not ready and not worth it.

Lelo2006 · February 2014

Um, if he wanted to. Go with God, as they say. There is no way this would ever happen in a trillion years.

valstulas · February 2014

This is not something I see Mr. Vals signing up for, but if he said he could handle it, I'd believe him. I would really miss Finn for 5 days, though.

martyn17 · February 2014

It depends on how long the trip would be. I have been apart from LO because of business trips, but I really don't like to pump if its not necessary. If she was weaned, and it was just a night or two I'd say definitely. Right now? I don't know.

redrocksmama · February 2014

ThompsonHM2 said:
My lo won't take a bottle so I can't even imagine doing that because I don't even have the freedom of being out for a few hours so my dh or i obviously wouldnt be confident. But if your lo does take the bottle and obviously DH is super confident in being away without you then I do think he deserves that right just qs much as you would. Ian there any reason you cant all go together?

We were butting heads on which day to go. DH is all pouty that I don't want to go on the day he wants to and said maybe I should just stay home. His family drives me crazy so I've been considering calling his bluff.

gutsymama · February 2014

I would trust DH with all the moving parts - bottle, bedtime, wake ups, TPN & IV care, etc. - because we share all these things. But I voted no, because when you add them all together including TPN and IV, it's a lot to handle. Neither of us has ever done the evening routine completely alone.

Karebear6978 · February 2014

As long as lo has taken a bottle reliably I totally would! Dh takes dd often over night cause when I work it is the night shift. It isn't a big deal if she doesn't get a bath or any solids... as long as diaper is changed and she is fed the rest are just bonuses

emandia · February 2014

Um I think so? I would really miss him though.

There is no way I could have done that with with my first two kids though. They use to comfort nurse all night and wouldn't take bottles. This guy won't sleep with me or nurse (sad), so he would be fine for one night.

babyk1228 · February 2014

I think it would all depend on how comfortable your DH is with LO. Maybe have him take care of LO from dinner to wake up one weekend to make sure he can handle bed time and all by himself. I know MH would never be comfortable with this but he is a bit of a panicker so if something went wrong like LO wouldn't sleep he'd spaz. Plus LO is still very attached to me so he'd freak out without me too...

mittensonkittens · February 2014

I'm sure my DH could do it, and I'd be fine leaving him at home with the kids if I had a business trip, but for some reason I would hesitate to let him take the kids out of town without me. I don't know if it's my control freak nature, his inability to plan logistics, or the fact that I would be away from my baby for no other reason than I don't like my ILs. Due my inner confusion, I voted pie.

fabk · February 2014

Mh would never in a million years offer to do this. I just can't fathom it.
I am also not ready to be away from my LO at night....or at all.

DenverBride2005 · February 2014

You mentioned this in a thread yesterday--let your DH go to WY with your DS and you stay home, girl! WY sucks! Is it only for one night? If so, I vote definitely yes. If it were me, I'd still have to get up to pump at least once but I might try to push it and stay up till 11, and then get up early at 6 to pump and enjoy the day...or go back to sleep...

redrocksmama · February 2014

@DenverBride2005, there aren't many states I hate going to as much as WY. It totally sucks. I've managed to get out of going up there for almost 3 years. So I'm getting major pressure to make an appearance.

He's debating on 1 night or 2. I've had to travel overnight for work before, so the band aid has already been ripped off in regards to me being away from LO. I'm just worried about him freaking out about being in a new place without his mama. And while DH says he can do it, I'm not 100% convinced he means it.

Erinm278 · February 2014

My only worry would be missing them so much. I have no worries about dh taking care of her.

LauraB1016 · February 2014

If DH wanted to do it all the power to him. If something were to happen he would figure out and become sleep deprived. Maybe then he would know how I have been for the pass six months.

Hilaboo86 · February 2014

I love my husband and he's a great guy, I'm just not sure he would be able to do it alone, or even want to do it alone.

klepa20c · February 2014

MH is an incredible dad, but I would hate to be away from LO. I miss her so much when she's asleep at night in her crib haha! i have a bachelorette party (i'm one of the bridesmaids) this fall and i'm dreading it ONLY because ill have to be separated from LO for the night. that's just me though and i can also understand how nice a quiet night at home would be!

weaslewam · February 2014

I'd say yes except the 5 hour car ride would be really difficult with N all alone. Maybe if it were 2-3 hours... but that all depends on how your LO deals with the car.

summerchild · February 2014

I said no because 1) I'm not ready to be away overnight 2) DS still does the multiple MOTN wake ups and DH will not hear him even if its something serious and 3) DH barely hangs out with his family when we see them. Somehow he manages to suddenly have a headache or feel sleepy and retreats, leaving me and DS with his family by ourselves. I don't trust them to look out for DS's best interest. They seem to care more about playing with him and taking fb pictures (which is fine) than caring about his well being ( which is not fine).

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