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May 2014 Moms
Lauren1102
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I have 2 WWYD questions for you ladies...
Lauren1102
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1st one: I have an almost 10 year old step son. I want to do matnerity photos but I'm not sure if we should include him. We get along an everything but we don't do any hugs or anything like that. So I'm afraid the pictures will be akward if the photographer has him touch my belly or anything like that. Honestly I'm not sure of he was ever explained that I'm his stepmom. He was at the wedding and when we asked what he wanted to do he picked pass out bubbles so that was his job. My MIL told him his dad and I were engaged but I don't think she explained things to him. Yes she told him without his dad and I being present. What would you ladies do? Include him or not? I could always schedule it around a weekend we don't have him. His mom and dad didn't do pictures like that when my husbands ex was pregnant with him so I'm not sure if it would spark questions and make him feel bad. We're definitely including him when we do newborn pictures as I want some family ones and ones with just him and her as well.
2nd question: my MIL wants my stepson baptize with Brooke when she gets baptize. I hasn't been brought up in awhile and hoping it stays that way but it is getting closer and I'm afraid she'll bring it up again. I think she's insane to ask! She wants my husband to ask his sons mom about it. I'm thinking it's ridiculous on two levels: one what if she says ok but wants her family there, which would be akward. Second I don't want my family to feel like they would have to give double gifts. That would be crazy for them. I also feel like it's my baby girls first big celebration and my MIL is trying to take the spotlight off of her. I guess part of me feels like my MIL will ignore the new baby to give my stepson all the attention. We've always included him in big things. We even let him pick the name when we had two names and we couldn't agree. So we don't exclude him or ignore him. I'm afraid my MIL will contact my stepsons mom and ask her self and also talk to the minister to make sure it's ok! How would you handle this? My husband doesn't stick up to his mom and will do whatever she says.
2nd question: my MIL wants my stepson baptize with Brooke when she gets baptize. I hasn't been brought up in awhile and hoping it stays that way but it is getting closer and I'm afraid she'll bring it up again. I think she's insane to ask! She wants my husband to ask his sons mom about it. I'm thinking it's ridiculous on two levels: one what if she says ok but wants her family there, which would be akward. Second I don't want my family to feel like they would have to give double gifts. That would be crazy for them. I also feel like it's my baby girls first big celebration and my MIL is trying to take the spotlight off of her. I guess part of me feels like my MIL will ignore the new baby to give my stepson all the attention. We've always included him in big things. We even let him pick the name when we had two names and we couldn't agree. So we don't exclude him or ignore him. I'm afraid my MIL will contact my stepsons mom and ask her self and also talk to the minister to make sure it's ok! How would you handle this? My husband doesn't stick up to his mom and will do whatever she says.
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Re: I have 2 WWYD questions for you ladies...
2 you need to tell your hubby to tell your MIL to back off and it's not her choice at all your baby deserves her own day and so does your step son
With the baptism I'm just going to hope it doesn't come up again. I'm afraid if I bring it back up it won't get forgotten again. If it does come up again I'll just talk to my husband and have him talk to his mom. So that I'll just try to forget myself and only worry about it when/if the time comes. I was afraid of sounding selfish.