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Day Care Provider "Quit" (LONG VENT!!!)

Toni79Toni79 member
in August 2012 Moms

Ok, I need to VENT!  Sorry if this post gets too long!

So maybe a small part of me saw this coming, but most of me was completly surprised! 

My DCP is my cousin.  She's a SAHM with a 2 kids (8 and 10).  She has been watching DD 4 days a week since DD was 6 months old.  On Feb 1st, she told me that she won't be able to watch DD after April 1st.  Basically her reasoning was that both her kids will be playing sports this spring (baseball and softball) and she didn't think she could juggle everyting. 

Her son played last spring and his practices were at 5:30, which is the time I usually picked up DD.  So I just met them at the ball field on those 2 days.  The boys practice the same days every week on the same filed.  HOWEVER, I guess the issue is that the girls schedule is based on the availability of the fileds.  So the girl's schedule is not set, but changes from week to week.  The days and times could be all over the place.  And they could also be at fields much further away.  My cousin is ok with me meeting them at the fields when her son has practice, but is worried about how I'd pick up DD if her daughter has practice at a filed 30 minutes away.

I totally understand her concerns and where she is coming from.  I understand that her family comes first, and she doesn't want to tell her daugheter she can't play a sport because she has to babysit my DD.

But I'm annoyed and frustrated for a few reasons ... so I just need to VENT!

1.  Although I undersand her concerns, she hasn't even gotten her kids schedules yet.  She mentioned the kids sports to me about a month earlier and just said that we'd have to coordinate DD's pickup on those days.  She never said she was thinking about NOT watching DD.  I wish she would have mentioned to me that she was considering not watching DD.

2.  Also, my cousin is always offering to take DD to activities during the day if I sign her up.  They did story time in the fall.  Well, around the same time we had the discussion about coordinating DD's pick up once sports started, I asked my cousin if she would be able to take DD to a weekly music and motion class.  She checked her calendar and said sure, no problem.  There were 2 classes she couldn't take DD to because her kids had dentist appts, but I figured if she misses 2 classes out of 15 that was no big deal.  Well, the class goes through May 9.  So now that she won't be able to watch DD after April 1, that's actually 6 additional classes DD will miss (for a total of 8 classes).  I paid good money for this class.  DD's first class was the week my cousin "quit".  If my cousin would have said something to me a week earlier (or when we discussed the class) I would not have signed DD up for this class! (DH can take her on a few of those weeks becuse his schedule rotates, and I'm working with the instructor to do make up classes for the others ... but that's not the point).

I know my cousin is giving me almost 2 months to find other arrangments, but I'm still frustrated and wanted to vent.  There have been a few small "issues" that my cousin has mentioned leading up to this (mostly just negotiating an earlier pick up time, which I've accomodated).  So I'm not sure if the "sports" is the real reason or just the reason she's giving me.  I just feel like this is the icing on the cake!

Another point is that we are putting our house on the market this spring so we can move closer to work (we currently have an 1 hour 15 minute commute each way).  I was hoping to put DD in a center when we move closer, which would hopefully be around her 2nd birthday.  I'm just upset that I'm being forced to put her in a center before then, and upset that if we move when we want to we'll have to switch centers again.  I'm upset that this was not on my terms, and that my hands are so tied.

Sorry this is so long.  If I knew how to add some animation I would! 

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Re: Day Care Provider "Quit" (LONG VENT!!!)

  • SJandVASJandVA member
    I'm sorry you are dealing with that. Hopefully you can find somewhere you are happy with.
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  • Jeffreysmom24Jeffreysmom24 member
    Sorry that happened, I know how hard it is to find someone you can trust. Good luck finding a new one - I hope it all works out!!
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  • britvahokbritvahok member
    edited February 2014
    Hugs, hopefully in the next 2 months you'll be able to find the best DCP ever!!!!!
    DS1: 8/2012 <3 DS2  8/2017 <3 DS3 10/2018 


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  • binklesssbinklesss member
    That stinks! I have a similar commute, and I'm not sure if it's an option for you, but we have considered moving DD to a center closer to DH's or my office. We would have the option of using the HOV/carpool lane if we have DD in the car, so it would actually cut the drive time down a bit. If you have something like that, it might be worth considering, then she wouldn't have to switch if/when you moved.
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  • shakinrosshakinros member
    binklesss said:
    That stinks! I have a similar commute, and I'm not sure if it's an option for you, but we have considered moving DD to a center closer to DH's or my office. We would have the option of using the HOV/carpool lane if we have DD in the car, so it would actually cut the drive time down a bit. If you have something like that, it might be worth considering, then she wouldn't have to switch if/when you moved.
    This is a great idea! If there's anything near your offices, maybe that's the place to transition her to.
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  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
    That stinks! Honestly though find a good daycare that gives you a stat sheet daily and cannot quit or cancel on you. I love the reliability of it and the kids are stimulated all day long, best of lunch whatever happens.
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