My life is in shambles. LONG

Naty657 · February 2014

So I'm gonna try and make this as short as possible. Many of you know me and LO went to GA to visit my fiancé, while we were down there things were just off, he kept his phone with him at all times and I kept seeing some girls name on his phone. I didn't mention anything cause I didn't wanna argue in front of the baby. Well when we got back the girl added me on Facebook but deleted her request and messaged me saying she's sorry for me finding about about them texting each other. So later in the day after going back in forth between them both, I find out that they've been together since January 2013, we've been together since March 2011. I don't even know what to do at the point. I'm trying to stay strong and calm so I don't upset LO. He wouldn't eat because I was so upset through 3 feedings. I feel so lost and like I can't vent because it just makes me more upset and I don't want LO feeling upset too. I can't tell anyone in my family because they're all loud mouths and very judgmental so I'm all alone here.Sorry for the long post! I just needed to vent. If you made it to the end here's LO in his MU outfit the other day

Caitlinh27 · February 2014

I'm sorry. I've been in your shoes with an ex before so I know how hard it is. Try to stay strong for your LO! ((Hugs))

cammyisagirlsname · February 2014

I hope you get the strength to move on from him. He hasn't been truthful in over a year. You and your LO are better off if you two are not together. Just remember that LO comes first so you've got to be strong for him.

NurseKMM · February 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Like others said hang in there and stay strong for LO. I can't believe he's been with her for a year, and all through your pregnancy and the birth of your child. What a dickhole move! Thoughts and prayers sent.

Naty657 · February 2014

By back and forth I mean trying to validate what they were both telling me was going on. And my family always said him being so far away wasn't good and he can say whatever he wants to make me believe and so on and now I'll get the "I told you so" and that's really not what I need right now. And my phone is not letting me do the whole reply to individuals thing for some dumb reason

Naty657 · February 2014

He deserves his junk to be cut off. :-w

KFED103 · February 2014

I'm so sorry. Do you have a good friend or another non big-mouthed person to talk to? Just someone who can tell you to breathe and calm your nerves so you can make sure you stay calm to feed LO? I hope things get better and you can get some much needed comfort and support. Hugs.

ETA: oh and I forgot to add. What an asshole. <----nicest term I can think of

Naty657 · February 2014

My best friend is swamped with classes and work right now but she came over and brought me Ice cream last night. We had a quick chat but nothing like I needed.

MrsC731 · February 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this.
You should tell your "judgemental" family. I have an ex that I kept going back to after he would pull crap. I finally told my family and after that I never went back to him because I knew how disappointed they'd be in me since they knew the truth about him. They were also much more supportive than I thought they would be. You may be surprised.
Also since you have a son is that really who you want being a role model for your son on how to treat women?

Naty657 · February 2014

The bad thing is she looks like a bigger version of me. And he was moving here in May. And I know that i had moved down there like we talked about it wouldn't have happened. He even said that he only did it cause she reminded him of me.

azmama20 · February 2014

Really sorry this happened to you. I hope you find someone IRL to talk to and that you get the support you need. You definitely deserve better and so does your LO.

Naty657 · February 2014

All of you ladies are right. And I wanna know where cash is?! She always has something awesome to say! Lol.

KFED103 · February 2014

That is a horrible thing for him to say. Proves his douche-ness. Just no. Maybe you also need gifs to prove that point. @sailortink @northport6

We are all here for you. Support yo!

Naty657 · February 2014

Oh yes a gif party would be nice too! I mean I feel like I'm already feeling better at least I'm laughing today. She also tried to tell me that she has morals. I was like bitch you have absolutely no morals. None what so ever.

greenbeanqueen · February 2014

Naty657 said:
The bad thing is she looks like a bigger version of me. And he was moving here in May. And I know that i had moved down there like we talked about it wouldn't have happened. He even said that he only did it cause she reminded him of me.

I would call him a dick but that is an insult to dicks everywhere. If he had one ounce of decency he wouldn't have done this. Dh and I were long distance for 3 years. Never once did either of us dream of cheating and we both had opportunities to meet other people. He is a douche. No other explanation. Do not stay with him. He doesn't deserve you. The fact that you are even making excuses tells me that therapy may be good for you. This is not your fault.

greenbeanqueen · February 2014

Naty657 said:
Oh yes a gif party would be nice too! I mean I feel like I'm already feeling better at least I'm laughing today. She also tried to tell me that she has morals. I was like bitch you have absolutely no morals. None what so ever.

So she knew about you all along? Or no? If she knew all along she is even worse than him.

KFED103 · February 2014

Him saying it was because she reminded him of you:

Then you tell him:

Then give yourself a

KFED103 · February 2014

Naty657 said:

Oh yes a gif party would be nice too! I mean I feel like I'm already feeling better at least I'm laughing today. She also tried to tell me that she has morals. I was like bitch you have absolutely no morals. None what so ever.

Naty657 · February 2014

She found out about me in July then got back together with him then found out I had the baby in December then got back together with him til now. So yeah she knew about me.

KFED103 · February 2014

I got on a computer just for you gurl

[Deleted User] · February 2014

OP, I am so sorry for what you are going through. Stay strong!!

teacupkat · February 2014

All I have to say is he will get his. That's right, I'm bringing out the dirty word, KARMA.

I'm really sorry OP. Just know you are amazing and you are more deserving of a better man! That other woman has some serious issues... You should be glad you aren't her because I'm sure their relationship is doomed.

BoothBaby · February 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this! Why are some men such dirty manwhores!? Hugs to you, stay strong!

readyornot12345 · February 2014

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Thoughts and prayers for you and lo.

northport6 · February 2014

This is terrible. I hate to be like, "Don't stay with the person you had your baby with," but I think I just did. Cheaters gonna cheat, and building trust back up takes patience and time that maybe you don't want to spend. Move forward carefully and at your own pace.

Lots of love to you, and as @KFED103 indicated, here's a series of gifs that you definitely need.

And, finally:

Naty657 · February 2014

Thanks so much guys you all literally came to my rescue. Creepy internet hugs to all!

74dragonfly · February 2014

I am so sorry you have to endure this. I hope your family can be there for you. I also hope you get his ass to pay . You and your baby deserve better.

yty0205 · February 2014

Late posting but just wanted to say I'm so so sorry!!

linzy2202 · February 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but just know you deserve so much better than a lying sack of crap man who would do that to the mother of his child and lead a double life. I hope you have the strength to know that and walk away. You'll prob always have to be in each other's lives, but have the ultimate revenge and eventually find someone else and be happy!! Stay strong and pour your love into LO.

melco19 · February 2014

Hey late posting, but just wanted to say how sorry I was that ur EX-fiancé was such an asshat. It takes a lot of nads to cheat on ur pregnant girlfriend and then turn the situation around to make yourself look like the victim ('she reminded me of you')..... He deserves nothing short of a huge throat punch

notkateanymore · February 2014

Naty657 said:

The bad thing is she looks like a bigger version of me. And he was moving here in May. And I know that i had moved down there like we talked about it wouldn't have happened. He even said that he only did it cause she reminded him of me.

That's complete bullshit. He cheated because he wanted to and he doesn't respect you or your child. No other reason.

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