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Amyjoy1972Amyjoy1972 member
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After 4 1/2 years of failed ivf I got pregnant with twins on my own. At 17 weeks we lost one of the twins with half heart syndrome. We had a baby girl three weeks ago and I'm having a hard time with the loss of her brother. My 4 1/2 year old asked about the other twin yesterday and I have been a mess ever since. I know this is going to take time I just thought I would be much better by now.
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  • NoetholaNoethola member
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    Oh sweetie, Im sorry. Sending ((hugs)) your way. Its so sweet when the little ones remember the babies who passed, but its a knife in the heart at the same time. You are coping as an adult, while your 4 1/2yo is coping like the precious child they are: all innocence and questions. Add on top of that, you are mothering a surviving twin. That in itself is difficult, as I am sure the other ladies who are doing so will tell you.

    Im 14 months out from our loss. There are still days that are very hard to cope. It does truly take time, and time will not heal all the wounds. Time just makes them more bearable some days. Big ((hugs!))



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  • VyD81VyD81 member
    I'm sorry for the loss of your son. Hugs.
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  • stefugestefuge member
    I am so sorry for the loss of you little boy. Our son is 3 1/2 and often says and asks the sweetest, most innocent questions - and it still hurts, knowing all that we have lost. Please know that we are all here whenever you need us.
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  • Amyjoy1972Amyjoy1972 member
    Thanks it helps to know others have been there.
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  • mingaling2mingaling2 member
    The questions are a constant sad reminder.  I think you're still so fresh in the pain again, just having your baby and having to bear again the loss of your other twin.  I'm so sorry.

     
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  • BgirmaBgirma member
    I'm so sorry you had a difficult day. Sending lots of love your way.
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  • ikrystalikrystal member
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I know you must hear that often, but I know it never gets easier to hear that other people are going through the loss of a child.  I'm new to this whole thing, and I don't have any magic words for you, but I am hear to listen if you need someone. 
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  • kflynn81kflynn81 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss  ((hugs))
    Me: 33, Endocrine issues & FVL       DH: 32, Nothing 
    NTNP 2009-2012         TTC since 2012:
    • Clomid, 2 IUI cycles, and 5 IVF cycles = BFN
    • FET #1   August 2013 = BFP!     EDD 5/11/14
    • Jack dx at 19w1d with Dandy Walker on 12/16/13
    • Severe Pre-e /HELLP set in Jack born sleeping at 20w1d on 12/23/13
    • FET #2 --July 2014  BFP!  ---  EDD  4/5/15

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