My mother in law has always been outspoken and never really thinks before she speaks. However, her opinions and words have created an immense amount of frustration for me since my husband and I told her we were having a baby. The day we told her, she wasn't excited at all and said that she isn't excited because she "accepts it". Since then (approximately 18 weeks later), she has not been excited for the baby at all. She IS excited for the shower she is throwing though which has turned into a huge extravaganza with the focus on her. I have horrible anxiety and so knowing things ahead of time is important to me and she knows this. When I told her that I would like to at least know the day of the shower, she said no, she doesn't care how I feel. Then she told me she didn't want to know who I wanted to invite because she was inviting her family and friends. I explained that my grandmother couldn't come to a specific location for the shower because of the driving distance and she proceeded to say "you need to calm down and get over it- we can't accommodate everyone". Then she goes on to say she is telling everyone how expensive the shower is and everyone is so excited.
When we found out we were having a boy, she commented "wow, you are filling out all over I was expecting a girl". Then she went and told my mother (who is having a separate shower for certain reasons) that her shower will be better because it is more expensive.
I am really getting sick and tired of her and I feel like she doesn't care at all about this baby .... only how great she looks to everyone else. Am I completely out of my mind here?