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I posted I think Saturday to ask about your date night. I am asking again because I'm nosey, and I wanna know how it went:)
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  • RatpastaRatpasta member
    edited February 2014
    Spapeggy said:
    I posted I think Saturday to ask about your date night. I am asking again because I'm nosey, and I wanna know how it went:)
    It was actually quite lovely. 
         Wifey wore a dress, I wore a suit.  I opened doors.  We ordered booze, filets, and pasta (the regular kind).  We sat and talked and nearly closed the place down.
          Wifey found a gelato place she wanted to try out so we headed over there - ironically across the street from the place where we had our first date.
            After that headed home - baby was still asleep and then.......we went to sleep.
     
       .....well wifey went to sleep.  I rolled around for awhile, then went to sleep


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  • SpapeggySpapeggy member
    Happy night was good, sads no lovins. Soon....soon.
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    Spapeggy said:
    Happy night was good, sads no lovins. Soon....soon.
    it was a nice night.  The spot we picked wasnt ideal - kind of a tourist trap but not horrible.
       and yes....... I very much hope soon.  
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  • SpapeggySpapeggy member
    Did you guys talk about the possibility of sexy time? Or do you when your away and y'all talk on the phone. I'm glad your working on things for you. How is she doing? I know it's so hard adjusting to baby. I couldn't imagine my dh being gone all week. It'd be hard on both. Sorry I'm so nosey it's just how I roll
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    Spapeggy said:
    Did you guys talk about the possibility of sexy time? Or do you when your away and y'all talk on the phone. I'm glad your working on things for you. How is she doing? I know it's so hard adjusting to baby. I couldn't imagine my dh being gone all week. It'd be hard on both. Sorry I'm so nosey it's just how I roll
    well thats another issue - we were kind of having problems just before she got pregnant, and after she got pregnant.  I have a feeling that her hormones are/were going crazy.  You should have seen all the fertility meds they had her on - and fo(u)r years.
         and no sexy time at all - I mean a few kisses and thats it.  She just doesnt seem interesting in any of it.

       As far as the kid goes, she is doing really well.  It's hard for her because she is solo a lot.  Her mom does help out but at times it can be worse than being solo because she has all her routines planned out.
       She was a very gifted Special Ed teacher (which may explain how we get along as well as we do).  She was the teacher that taught kids how to read, or take the bus, or get a job that nobody thought would ever do anything.  A legitimate gifted teacher with severely disabled children.  She could have had her PHD but instead she spent the time to be be a teacher.  Ill never know how they fit such a big heart into such a little person.
        She's just not particularly interested in sexy time.
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  • RatpastaRatpasta member
    LauraT25 said:
    Spapeggy said:
    I posted I think Saturday to ask about your date night. I am asking again because I'm nosey, and I wanna know how it went:)
    We ordered booze, filets, and pasta (the regular kind)
    Ded. But seriously, sounds like a nice time even though it didn't wind up the way you wanted. I'm sure your wife appreciated it.
    oh yea, and I do too because for a moment we are back how we were for almost 10 years before our little man came along.   I miss our old relationship for sure.
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    Dirty lurker sort of but I just want to encourage you and say that romantic or just plain relaxing, private, being an adult time WITHOUT the pressure or anticipation of it leading to something more has been so important for my relationship with DH, and rebuilding. We had the typical newborn dry spell followed by some really serious health issues for me that pushed all things relationship/romance/sex past the back burner all the way off the stove.

    I know it's very challenging but just want to say keep trying and good luck!
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    kmm2150 said:
    Dirty lurker sort of but I just want to encourage you and say that romantic or just plain relaxing, private, being an adult time WITHOUT the pressure or anticipation of it leading to something more has been so important for my relationship with DH, and rebuilding.

    I believe the pressure thing gets to my wife as well.  Certainly the more she feels as if she has to do something, the less she wants to do it - no matter what it is.
        This is REALLY tough when it comes down to things like... say laundry but since becoming a mom she has started kicking more ass at stuff like this because I think she is finally realizing that she is an adult, a mom and the need to get things done is significantly greater than before.

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