I seriously have no idea how any baby STTN, ever. My DD is just one of those babies where if ANYTHING is off (overtired, teething, cold, too wet, too much day sleep, etc) it impacts her sleep. I should not be surprised, I was heavily medicated for sleep for a DECADE before getting pregnant so it's safe to say it is not my strong suit.
We had 3 weeks there not that long ago where it was starting to look promising again, sleeping from 7pm to 4am, up for a quick feed (10 minutes) and back down until 530 or 6. I felt amazing, angels were singing, etc. Then the wonder week hit, then the stomach flu, and now we are getting molars number 3 and 4. Sigh. Back to up twice a night for nursing and numerous hours of just chatting/playing/kicking in her crib. UGH.
She has slept through the night TWICE, ever, and both were aided... once was her last night in the swing before I switched her to the crib and once was after 3 horrible nights of sleep where I gave her a dose of Benadryl at the pedi's recommendation. Boo. I swear, I have NO IDEA how you all are going and getting knocked up again when I still feel exhausted most of the time. No one tells you that babies don't all sleep through the night at 4 months. Or that you would have to do seriously sleep training to get them to do so. I mean, she goes down fine, she can settle herself, she just doesn't make it the whole night, ever.
Sorry, vent over. I just hate teeth this week.
Re: Never going to STTN...
But I won't do that, so here we are.
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
I am right there with you!!!!!!!!!!!!! DD has only once STTN. She still wakes up 3 times!!! And for the last half of the night shes in our bed cuz I'm too tired to fight the crib situation.
You guys are seriously fabulous.
I stand by my choice to comfort my little person and every now and again when I am feeling hopeless it is so nice to know that I am not alone and to hear stories of hope from you other lucky bastards who have peanuts that have decided to give sleep a try! It makes me feel so much better just to have a place that can be a sounding board, especially since you are all in the same boat and can give real perspective. Thank you. And for those of you that wrote that have sleepers, you were so sweet and polite, just so cute. And you can bet that when DD decided to do the same I will be on here shouting it from the hilltops.
For example, if DD woke up when it was a time I didn't think she actually needed to eat, DH would go in to comfort her instead of me. She had been nursing 3 times a night, so we used this method to gradually back up her nighttime feedings until she was able to go all night without nursing.
I also learned that it is normal for all of us to wake up multiple times a night between sleep cycles, we just normally go back to sleep right away without remembering it. My daughter cries or wimpers between sleep cycles, and I realized that by responding every time I thought she "woke up," I was actually waking her more and getting her riled up. Now if she cries during the night I check the video monitor first. If she's standing up I know she actually awake and I go in there, but if she's still laying down I leave her alone and she falls back sleep within a minute or two.
I still nurse DD at bedtime, but I put her down in her crib and leave the room before she's fully asleep. I've noticed if I linger too long she'll start to cry, making me think she needs to be picked back up, but if I don't linger she will settle down almost instantly once I close the door. I think this is helpful too, because if she falls asleep in my arms, and then wakes up a couple hours later and she's now in her crib alone she'll be upset. If she falls asleep alone, it's not as startling to wake up alone.
I truly hope all of you mamas get some uninterrupted sleep soon, however it ends up happening. Good luck!
Privacy-did you have to stop breastfeeding overnight to get pregnant again? I am curious about this because DD just turned a year and I haven't had my cycle back yet! DD still nurses a couple of times overnight and I wonder if thats why?
I want to get KU again lol!
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt