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Daycare moms selling parties

SunAndRainSunAndRain member
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We joined a daycare that has mostly upper middle class families (this May or May not be relevant). I really like this school and one of the primary reasons is because of the community feel and my opportunity to become friendly with other moms. I was surprised to find so many solicitations to parties where stuff is sold. On one hand I want to be involved socially as much as possible. On the other I'm more of a bargain hunter and don't have a ton of interest in the stuff.

I'm curious to hear about your experiences. Do you suck it up as a cost of being part of the schools social circles? Or can I safely ignore and move on.

To be honest these are really nice families and moms. And they are fun and we all live close to one another so building friendships with these families is a great opportunity to connect with my community.

I don't feel pressured to purchase but I am wondering whether I'm missing the bigger picture here.

And sometimes the follow up emails beyond the initial invitation are annoying, if I'm being honest.

WDYT?
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Re: Daycare moms selling parties

  • *sparky**sparky* member
    I hate selling parties, but in the interest of meeting some of the moms I may accept one or two invites just to help break into the circle.  I would probably try to pick a party where they are selling something I am at least a little interested in, because I do tend to feel pressured to at least buy something at those events and I hate wasting money on stuff I don't want.

     

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  • jf198400jf198400 member
    Wow I am honestly kinda shocked, this screams tacky to me. I think it's bad enough asking friends to buy your crap but to ask strangers, ugh. Our daycare does some charitable fundraisers throughout the year for Alex's lemonade stand, and they did have a mom selling lia Sophia for one of the fundraisers. But it was not a party, just catalogues sent home, no pressure. I felt no guilt not participating.
    I am curious if the daycare knows that this is going on? I honestly would be quite upset if they were in any way encouraging this or giving out your personal information for these purposes.
    All that said, it's hard to meet other mom friends so I probably would cave and go to one just so I could meet people. It gets easier around age 3, now dd gets invited to bday parties, so we are getting to know some of the parents.
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  • vacsx2vacsx2 member
    I'd suck it up and go. You can usually find 1-2 things at any of those kinds of parties for a decent price that can be given as a MIL bday or holiday gift.
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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    I don't think I would go. I have never been invited to such a party through daycare. I would approach other moms individually and arrange play dates.
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
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  • thedashthedash member
    I'm also interested in how they are inviting you. If you met and exchanged emails then got invited that's one thing. But of they invited you from a list of contact info the school provided I would be super annoyed. I probably wouldn't go either way. But I'm pretty antisocial.
    DS: 2/17/11          DD: 9/4/13
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  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member
    Thanks. I got to know these moms through the PTO. Sometimes I wonder if moms or parents in general attend these meetings to promote their business. Well I do have to say that we have an active PTO (I'm a member too) and I'm happy to reap many of the rewards both for me and dD. So maybe I should make an effort to attend these things. It won't kill me to buy something. Thanks for all the replies!
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