I am done... asking to be signed out of work.

Nickiechan · February 2014

I am 37 weeks and my SPD is really acting up and driving has become a real challenge for my 4'11" frame. (Thank you deep clutch...

) I was hoping to work up until I went into labor but going to work has caused so much anxiety.(weather) I suspect she will be here soon. I was hoping to work from home but stupid HR policies is just ridiculous. I feel weak that I'm asking to be signed out of work this early but I just can't do it anymore. Pelvis is falling a part and I am surprised I was able to get this far with severe SPD with my son...

Anyone else off work already or considering asking to be signed out?

MeggsM · February 2014

Sorry you are in so much discomfort/pain again. Kudos on making it this far. Don't feel bad about listening to your body- it will tell you what you need. You're growing a human for Pete's sake!

I'm done this week and can't wait. Not that I have any complications but working while pregnant is exhausting in general! And everything is super uncomfortable right now. If I didn't have vacation time I'd totally ask to start mat leave early or be signed out as things are starting to get painful.

BethRN1987 · February 2014

I'm taking it day by day. I brought up how hard it was working to my doctor last visit and she just kept saying I don't have to take off early I can work until I deliver. Ummm thanks? She will write me out whenever but I felt bad after that visit. My work can't change me from 12 hour days to 8 hour days otherwise I'd be ok. If they changed me it would be to nights and that's a no go for me. I start getting panic attacks when my sleep gets that messed up

southerncharm24 · February 2014

I'm going to attempt a mortified schedule the next two weeks, but seeing that I couldn't even get out of bed the last two days without some crazy pain, I might just call it quits and work from home.

coreyeliz · February 2014

I'm sorry you're in so much pain. And I don't think you should feel weak at all. After 8 hours at my desk, I can hardly walk because me legs are so swollen and I feel like my crotch is going to fall off or come apart. My HR has crazy rules about working from home too, but thankfully with a trial starting tomorrow they've overworked me to the point of actual guilt. I got special permission to work from home as needed, and I'm pretty excited about it. I might even try it out after lunch today.

I hope you and your couch get some quality time over the next little bit. :-)

Sanibel21 · February 2014

I'm sorry you're in such discomfort and having to deal with these work issues. Whatever is best for you and baby is what's best.
I have a bunch of sick and vaca time that I wanted to use while being on maternity leave, but I've been dipping into it. I just can't keep up my regular schedule lately.

saisongbird · February 2014

I wish...but I'm still 7 weeks until my EDD - and as a teacher, you're either in or you're out. I'm just so tired doing EVERYTHING...

amholley1 · February 2014

Oh no! Im sorry you're in so much pain! I don't have SPD so I feel like a wimp since I'm being signed out of work at 36 weeks. I wanted to wait until march 1st, but my swelling has gotten so bad that I can barely do my job right. I am a concierge at a hotel, and am required to do a lot of standing and walking and helping with luggage. It doesn't sound so bad, but I can't stand for more than 30 minutes MAX without feeling like she's gonna drop out and swelling up like a balloon. My managers have been really cool about modifying my work load, but it's to the point of not being present in the lobby much anymore which is the primary function of my job. I feel really dumb calling it quits 2 weeks before my scheduled leave, but I'm so excited to not be a swollen, hurting bitch when I get off work.

ladyglittersparkles · February 2014

Girl you rest up
Don't feel gulity! You need this time for you! (and the health of LO )
Take it with pride
And I'll join you and FBW next week!
(Can I sit at your table!

ProudMommy030614 · February 2014

Your not weak! This baby birthing business is hard work. This LO is my third and it just keeps getting harder totally unrelated to being older! I have been out of work more than I was in but mine is due to first a clot than my blood work is all screwy and having other issues. If you feel like you need to be out than you should listen to your body. Hang in there your almost there

Nickiechan · February 2014

Thank you everyone for the reassuring words. I actually feel really good and like some huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders. It is sort of relaxing in a way. If they do tell me I can work from home I will, but I feel it is time...

BethRN1987 · February 2014

Nickiechan said:
Thank you everyone for the reassuring words. I actually feel really good and like some huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders. It is sort of relaxing in a way. If they do tell me I can work from home I will, but I feel it is time...

I'm honestly surprised you have worked this far with how bad you get the SPD. You deserve a rest before you have to go through labor-

Nickiechan · February 2014

BethRN1987 said:

Nickiechan said:
Thank you everyone for the reassuring words. I actually feel really good and like some huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders. It is sort of relaxing in a way. If they do tell me I can work from home I will, but I feel it is time...
I'm honestly surprised you have worked this far with how bad you get the SPD. You deserve a rest before you have to go through labor-

My chiropractor has really been a miracle worker... I have walked out of his office in tears due to the overwhelming emotion of being able to walk and being in little to sometimes no pain. I would highly recommend seeing on if you suffer from SPD.

novelblessings · February 2014

So sorry you are so uncomfortable, don't feel bad! Use this time to get some rest!! I wish I could take off work now or work from home, but I can't do either. I don't have any really good excuse to take off early anyways; I'm just tired, swollen, sore etc, and my commute makes it 10 times worse. So I've just been cutting corners and coming in late or leaving early when possible. I am glad I don't have to commute to our main office anymore (because it's too far away from my delivering hospital) so this morning I'm sitting at home because no one will be in until almost 1pm today!

akb1125 · February 2014

I've been out of work since 35 weeks. My job lets employees take the 4 weeks before our due date so I took advantage of it. (I went out a week early for medical issues)

myfriendscallmemeg · February 2014

I wouldn't feel bad! You're about to bring life into this world! Work can cut you a little slack.

Besides, I (FTM opinion) think you'll be better off having a baby with a semi-well rested body vs a tired, stressed out, worried body.

stephcrosby09 · February 2014

Oh i do not blame you! I am trying to get out of an 8 hour wrestling tournament this weekend in which I work medical coverage for. My doctor wrote me a note, but I still cant find anybody to cover it

Grenagh · February 2014

Sorry you're in pain. Well done for calling it quits. Totally the right decision. Need to listen to your body and mind your LO.

Babykawash · February 2014

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing a great job and it's important that you listen to your body. I'm only 34 + 2 and I'm already counting down the days till I get the ok to stop working! Making a human is hard work

scorch90 · February 2014

Exactly what everyone else said, don't feel bad at all! I'm 37w tomorrow and done at the end of the week. I'm not terribly uncomfortable and certainly nothing compared to what you're dealing with, I'm just super done and want to nest. I'm also super paranoid about going into labor at work... (ftm)

sebullows · February 2014

I'm sorry you're so uncomfortable

I think taking off now is a great idea too, don't feel bad. I get to work everyday, sit at my desk, and think of excuses as to why I can go home and not come back until after my leave is over. I'm taking it day by day too but it's getting so hard. Let's all just say screw it and go home

LoveMoose85 · February 2014

Sorry you are in such pain. I also wish I could kiss my chiropractor some days, as he is the only thing I believe that has gotten me through these past two months. I haven't quit working yet, trying to make it till March 1st, and I'm due the 20th. If I could quit now I would and would not feel guilty at all about it! Rest up lady, you deserve it

Excitedmum35 · February 2014

You are so NOT weak. In Australia most ppl finish work 6 wks prior to their due date. Occasionally some ppl will work right up to their due date but the need a drs cert to say it's ok.
I have been off work since 30 weeks cos it was school holidays and then while I was on holidays I switched to maternity leave so didn't have to go back.
This is my third child, I'm 35 and I think it also have spd, but probably not as severe as you describe.
Look after yourself and rest up!
Only three weeks to go- I cannot imagine working up to 37 wks this time! Congrats it's actually an awesome achievement.

kaking78 · February 2014

@Excitedmum35 - I'll admit it, I'm jealous. Oh how nice it would be to live in a country that puts its money where its mouth is when it comes to family values!

Pankers · February 2014

I don't think you should feel weak or guilty. You should listen to your body. I have sciatica just appearing and I'm 34 weeks, so you should rest up and prepare for the arrival so you are mentally and physically as ready as possible.

LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · February 2014

I don't think it makes you weak at all. There's only so much you can handle. I have nursing school two days a week (all day, 12 + hours) and then I babysit a 1 year old and 6 year old from 7-6 three days a week. Probably doesn't sound like much compared to some of your schedules, but I'm finding myself more and more exhausted. This past week after my 10.5 hr clinical shift at the hospital (on my feet the entire day) I literally was in tears on my way home. I had a hard time getting my feet out of the shoes I was wearing because they were so swollen. My whole area down there feels like I've been drop kicked by a donkey. I don't know how the nurses on this board are still managing their 12 hours shifts at the hospital, unless they're being allowed to sit down more frequently. But I plan to keep this schedule up until she comes, because whatever clinical/class hours I miss have to be made up in full (and I'm only allowed so many days of excused absence), and I'd much rather miss hours after she comes than before.

Nickiechan · February 2014

So the doctor (OB) I saw three weeks ago told him about my limited mobility and driving difficult and just emotionally couldn't continue to work said "Sure we can sign you out anytime".... so went to work for 3 days left early the last day due to exhaustion and pain. Called FMLA coordinator was told they just need to place on paperwork to start 2/10 with providers initials on already filed paperwork, not an issue. My next appointment was canceled... my next one was Monday spoke with midwife who stated to me. "No issues with my initials just have Lindsay the office clerk who does these paperwork" had a note to contact the midwife. Got a call yesterday from this Lindsay about how per policy they cannot sign me out... but I explained to her my issues however supposedly they are not in notes. So she said she will have to state I signed myself out and not medically necessary. I was very emotionally upset about this because it isn't like I don't want to go to work... I can't and I spoke with the providers/my doctor and it seemed like it wouldn't be an issue. So my FMLA coordinator contacted saying that since the notes say this I don't qualify. I don't understand how an office clerk can come between what my doctor and I discussed. I called her very upset and was bawling on the phone. I tried to keep my cool, but like I said I don't want to be off work I love my job. If it is t physical it is obviously mentally can't do it. I told her about my hips and pelvic issues and she said "well you need to be seen tomorrow if you having these issues." I told the midwife on Monday about these issues!!!! I told her I was very stressed out about this. She again told me policy but I explained to her that I don't understand what the big deal is since I spoke with the OB and the midwife on Monday and both didn't have an issue with it. I wonder if there is any HIPPA violations going on. I will be conducting a survey on this whole issue. She is contacting the first OB I spoke to about my issue... I may even ask for the office manager...

Nickiechan · February 2014

Well I got a personal call from the OB I saw discussing my SPD issues and he apologized to me for causing this much stress he does remember talking about it but didn't place it in the notes which is what this office clerk needs to follow by. He told me I need to relax and calm down emotionally.(was crying on the phone with him... I just can't stop crying!! ) They are coding it ad hip/pelvic pain (he said a technical term but I don't remember) and he said he doesn't know if my FMLA coordinator will accept it or not. They will since I had similar issue with DS.... I HATE Paperwork and Policy bullshit... now to relax and listen to Hypnobabies....

BethRN1987 · February 2014

I'm glad he is going to write it in for you. ((Hugs))

swelch21 · February 2014

I am a nurse working 12 hour night shifts and just had to be taken off of work at 35 weeks due to SI joint pain. I could hardly walk and didn't feel like I was being a very safe nurse with 7 patients to care for and moving as slow as a snail. I wish I could have made it a lot longer to save time for when baby gets here but it was killing me. I do feel guilty but I feel like if I would have kept pushing myself so hard I would have gone into labor early. Now I'm just trying to enjoy my last weeks alone with my husband before we become a family of 3. You should too!

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