How old is too old to CIO? How to get her out of our bed?

sweetheartface · January 2009

DD is 13 months, and I made the mistake of letting her sleep in our bed starting at about 4 months when she was miserable from teething and it has just become a habit now. I am now pregnant with DD#2, and I NEED to get DD#1 out of my bed! I'm not sure that CIO will work with someone her age. What do you think would be the best way to get her out of our bed? TIA!

LipstickLibrarian · January 2009

I don't know that a baby can be "too old" -- we used the Sleep Easy Solution and it has instructions for how to work with your verbal child (i.e. *walking* them back to their room at night), so I would read that book if I were you. GL!

joecubed · January 2009

ferber talks about this in his book, but since it's not our situation, I don't remember the details. I'd read that.

sunshine723 · January 2009

I don't think you can be too old to CIO, but you can be too young.

I've read that you should hang out in her room doing fun stuff during the day, to get her used to it. Start off with naps and then work your way to bed time. I would personally let my DS CIO if he refused. It's going to be a lot harder since she has been sleeping with you for so long. I think Ferber has a section on co-sleeping.

tmp-391217375001780 · January 2009

We co-slept and now looking to get him into his crib too. I just ordered No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers which is supposed to deal with this topic. I personally can't do CIO at this point b/c I feel it is not DS' fault that we let him co-sleep and now that is all he understands. I'd rather do it as gradually as possible.

sweetheartface · January 2009

Lorib- I feel exactly the same way! I just can't let her cry for something that I have let go on for this long! I know she NEEDS to get in her crib, but I am just trying to figure out the best way to do this. I am looking to get a few books now. Thanks!

tmp-391217375001780 · January 2009

Sweetheartface- good luck. It's not going to be easy, I'm sure. I'm just planning on a week of hell (or however long) of just devoting myself to this.

sweetheartface · January 2009

Lorib-Thanks, I know, I am NOT looking forward to it, and it's totally going to suck! I keep telling myself when I am going to start and I never do. I need to just stick with it or we're going to have 4 of us in bed!! I have read that it only really takes about 3 nights for them to learn to go to sleep on their own, hopefully this is true, but it won't be fun. Good luck to you too!

itsmyturn2 · January 2009

I feel your pain!

DS has always started the night in his bed, but would move over to ours whenever he would first wakeup. So last night we let him cry for a bit after his first waking and as a result, he slept in his crib till 6:30 this morning! He was up at 11, 12, 4 and 5:30. I let him cry for 7 minutes (not that I was counting or anything) then went in and patted his back but didn't pick him up. The first time we did it he was mad and kept getting back up after I laid him down and it took me about 10 minutes to calm him down, but all the other times he laid right back down and went to sleep after 2 minutes.

I expected much more of a fight from him - I'm shocked! If I known it would have gone so well, I would have done it sooner.

So just start putting her in there - you might be surprised at how well it goes - I was!

dribroggi · February 2014

Hi! I know this thread is super old, but I'm in the same situation you were in. What did you do to get your little girl to go to her crib? And how did it go. TIA

veetveet · February 2014

We did CIO between 12-13 months. Worked like a charm.

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