Men at the Baby Shower

CMA12 · February 2014

I searched through the boards and didn't see this topic, forgive me if it's been done.

I'm just about ready to start co-planning my baby shower. My job was the guest list and I noticed that at my previous job I have several male friends I'd like to invite (about ten). Would they enjoy coming to the shower, or should I do that thing where people have a separate "Daddy Diaper" shower and just have a men's day?

I know it's 2014, but I'm not sure how some of the guys would feel about a baby invite.

Miggg · February 2014

Both of my friends showers will be co-ed which makes sense to me since half my friends are men. Plus DH wants to be involved. We won't be doing traditional shower games or anything though.

I'd think the planning would really be up to the host though, is the hostess on board with hosting a coed shower?

momo214 · February 2014

I was just at a coed shower last night and mine will be also. If its coed it shouldn't be typical girly cutesy shower-like with tacky games and no beer. Lets be real, men other than your baby daddy probably don't give a hoot about showers unless there's fun stuff, lots of good food (not light appetizers and sandwiches) and alcohol. The shower last night had margaritas, sangria, wine, beer, karaoke, and a full meal. Men enjoyed but still didnt give a shit about present opening and ooing over baby outfits. Mine is all family and close friends and the men just stay outside, drink, grill, and bs. They don't even really do the shower stuff.

usernewname · February 2014

My DH won't come within a 10 foot radius but he doesn't care about cutesy onesies. He's more interested in the type of wheels on a stroller.

I wouldn't mind if he came though if it was coed. I wish it was warmer out and we could do a BBQ style. That would be up his alley.

deanna1313 · February 2014

Co-ed showers are fun!
I am confused if you were asking if you should have an all girl shower and invite a few men to it or do a daddy shower and invite those guys from your work to that. Did I get that right? it is it prego brain?

If your husband is friends with those guy friends invite them to his shower. If not, I wouldn't unless it is a co-ed party.

I feel like I'm so confused. :-/

MamaLlama14 · February 2014

CMA12 said:

I searched through the boards and didn't see this topic, forgive me if it's been done.

I'm just about ready to start co-planning my baby shower. My job was the guest list and I noticed that at my previous job I have several male friends I'd like to invite (about ten). Would they enjoy coming to the shower, or should I do that thing where people have a separate "Daddy Diaper" shower and just have a men's day?

I know it's 2014, but I'm not sure how some of the guys would feel about a baby invite.

Can you clarify? When you say that you're ready to start co-planning your shower.... do you mean just the guest list that you mentioned? If so- acceptable. If there's more co-planning you're involved in, I need to add M14s standard "don't plan your own shower" response.

pandadair · February 2014

mollynicole214 said:

I was just at a coed shower last night and mine will be also. If its coed it shouldn't be typical girly cutesy shower-like with tacky games and no beer. Lets be real, men other than your baby daddy probably don't give a hoot about showers unless there's fun stuff, lots of good food (not light appetizers and sandwiches) and alcohol. The shower last night had margaritas, sangria, wine, beer, karaoke, and a full meal. Men enjoyed but still didnt give a shit about present opening and ooing over baby outfits. Mine is all family and close friends and the men just stay outside, drink, grill, and bs. They don't even really do the shower stuff.

I think this probably applies to many, many women as well. We just feel guilted into acting like we enjoy the more "traditional" stuff, and it's not like you would show up to someone's shower and sit there and roll your eyes at it. Not outwardly, anyway.

Edited to add more bold.

keeumm · February 2014

We are inviting men to the shower and DH will be there. Beer will also be available, to make it worth their while.

jjh471 · February 2014

Mine is also a Jack n' Jill shower. However, we didn't invite EVERY guy. I knew that my uncles wouldn't come with my aunts, but mutual couple friends that DH and I had were both invited. I think it tends to be more of a generation thing. Our younger couple friends all had Jack n' Jill showers, so we invited them to ours as couple, but many of the older male relatives would never come.

ABColeslaw · February 2014

We do Jack and Jill everything in my family.

CMA12 · February 2014

MamaLlama14 said:

CMA12 said:

I searched through the boards and didn't see this topic, forgive me if it's been done.

I'm just about ready to start co-planning my baby shower. My job was the guest list and I noticed that at my previous job I have several male friends I'd like to invite (about ten). Would they enjoy coming to the shower, or should I do that thing where people have a separate "Daddy Diaper" shower and just have a men's day?

I know it's 2014, but I'm not sure how some of the guys would feel about a baby invite.

Can you clarify? When you say that you're ready to start co-planning your shower.... do you mean just the guest list that you mentioned? If so- acceptable. If there's more co-planning you're involved in, I need to add M14s standard "don't plan your own shower" response.

deanna1313 said:

Co-ed showers are fun! I am confused if you were asking if you should have an all girl shower and invite a few men to it or do a daddy shower and invite those guys from your work to that. Did I get that right? it is it prego brain? If your husband is friends with those guy friends invite them to his shower. If not, I wouldn't unless it is a co-ed party. I feel like I'm so confused. :-/

Sorry about that. Yes, my only job is to make a guest list, haha. But I noticed there's a lot of mutual guy friends that both my hubby and I know. And to deanna1313, that was actually exactly my question. I was wondering if I should invite just girls or give the guys an invite too.

I like everyone's response that the guys really don't care, lol. My DH was telling me he wouldn't mind taking the guys out bowling if I invited them.

Cupcakes89 · February 2014

Mine will be co-ed due to my mother (the host) wanting it to be. Im fine with that, but I really dont think many guys will show up besides family members. We dont have any aunts and uncles in the state so by family members.. dads and brothers :P and well of course DH.

I also have to give her a list of peoples addresses since she doesn't know any of my friends, but I dont really think any guy friends of mine would want to come... but co ed showers can be fun. Im hoping if weather permits that there will be a bbq but of course thats up to my host. I feel like that would make it funner for the dudes!

hatrats · February 2014

I had a family shower and men were invited, but I only invited them along with their females (there were no single guys invited).

julesf817 · February 2014

If one of my husband's ex coworkers invited him to a baby shower...he'd probably be like "WTF is this?!" . of course he works construction so chances of that happening are pretty much zero. are these male friends friends of you and your husband, or just you? if they aren't friends of your husband i think inviting them to a "man day" that you wouldn't attend would be kinda weird for them and for your husband. if you invite them to the shower would their wives or girlfriends be invited, or just the guys? i don't know many men who would go to a baby shower on their own.

theoryofwhat · February 2014

We're doing a couples' BBQ for our shower. We'll have a diaper cake and a beer cake so the men should be happy. What kind of man can say no to Texas BBQ and beer? Not one I'd wanna know. Haha

Tkburke · February 2014

My husband and I both agreed a couple nights ago that I would enjoy it much more if he didnt come. I don't know many men wanting to ooh and awww over cute onesies. Sometimes that is a little much for some women (myself included.) But if your guy and friends are into it, then it's totally up to you in my book.

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