What would you do?

spartybride3 · February 2014

I live out of state from family and two of my friends generously offered to throw me a shower for local friends. About a month ago they asked me for a guest list, addresses, and a preferred date. We settled on the 1st weekend in March since my husband will be out of town and for it to be at my house to help save them with money (we live in downtown Chicago and renting out a place is not cheap).

So, the shower is supposed to be in 3 weeks and no invites have gone out and there has been no further talk of a shower to me. Friends are asking when it is going to be and I just keep saying I don't know. I feel very rude asking my 2 friends that offered to throw the shower what is going on, but at the same time I don't know what to do.

Do I just let it go or is there a polite way to inquire about what's happening (I'm guessing no)?

VOR · February 2014

I think there is nothing wrong w simply asking "hey, are we still having the shower? No biggie if things have changed, but I just want to know if I should still keep the date open or not".

If they say yes, it's still on, then you can ask when the invites are going out.

ErikaLynn75 · February 2014

Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with asking. Especially since it's going to be at your house, you should be kept in the loop.

MrsMac613 · February 2014

I agree with the PP since the shower is at your house and they have gone so far as to ask about a guest list and such you should definitely ask if they still plan on throwing it.

SingleMom31 · February 2014

I agree with PPs that I'd ask. I think that about three weeks before is traditional for shower invites, but I would get too much closer.

spartybride3 · February 2014

Thank you! She must have read my mind because about an hour after I posted this, the e-vites came out. I'm glad I didn't have to ask...I would've felt so anxious about it.

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