What do you think?

chirico3 · February 2014

https://www.psychowith6.com/everything-you-never-wanted-to-know-about-being-pregnant/#_a5y_p=1248931

It's supposed to be funny, but I find it slightly offensive (besides #10, which I know will be true).
Is "you are going to be FAT! otherwise other moms will HATE you" the main thing a newly pregnant woman should know?
May be I just don't get the humor...

AmberLiz99 · February 2014

I don't think it's funny either. A lot of the mommy blogs get under my skin, they are so negative most of the time, even if it's for a joke. I talk to all these other moms who read and love them, and I just have to keep my mouth shut.

margaretnekrosius · February 2014

I really don't like this article at all. I don't feel this way about pregnancy at all. I'm a FTM but it's been one hell of an adventure and I'm so glad I'm doing it. This kind of negativity isn't helpful. I'm all for telling the truth and not glamorizing what goes on but this is just bad.

Rrrrrachel · February 2014

I couldn't get past 5.

strawberrytree · February 2014

Yeah, if she was my aunt I would tell her to STFU and stay away if that's how she's going to be. Pregnant is not fat FFS! Not even going into how much the one about natural birth pissed me off.

chirico3 · February 2014

Thanks! I thought it was me, since all the comments talk about how funny the post is.
I am a FTM, and up until now I have loved every part of my pregnancy, even the most annoying stuff - since I know everything serves a purpose!

Avion22 · February 2014

This is proof that just because anyone can have a blog, it doesn't mean what they have to say is right (or even important...or even funny). Some people need to just keep their thoughts as an internal monologue.

Holljade · February 2014

She didn't need to make a list. She basically said " be fat and miserable or every mom/woman will hate you."

That was so lame.

lilmama412 · February 2014

Sounds like she has some serious weight insecurities.

Alana526 · February 2014

I hated this article. I despised the amount of times she said FAT. We are not FAT, we are PREGNANT. I am angry about how she generalizes and couples every mom under one umbrella and about how we "hate" one another if our bodies react differently to pregnancy. As moms, we should be a cohesive unit of power - defend one another - be happy for one another - support one another etc... if she "hates" some moms for looking a little different, then she never left high school.

To me, this article makes her seem like she is ridiculously unhappy and did not enjoy a single minute of pregnancy/motherhood if she has been waiting and waiting to tell someone else how much she thinks it sucks. Sure, for every frustrating aspect of pregnancy, there is a good part as well. I don't know if I feel bad for her, or just want to punch her.

nicole mackenzie · February 2014

Rrrrrachel said:
I couldn't get past 5.

I stopped reading too. I have enough body image issues without hearing that in going to gain 50+ pounds and be FAT and oh by the way FAT....

Or hated for not doing so.

ModishMom · February 2014

The name of her blog is enough. She has some truths in there, but....

speechie517 · February 2014

I've read a few "things about pregnancy no one told you" lists that have been funny or cute. This one...not so much. Maybe I should write a rebuttal on my terrible, three reader blog!

maelic · February 2014

Apparently I'm not going to be a "real mom" because I haven't gained enough weight and everybody probably hates me. Oh, and I'm starving myself. The two things I've craved the most this pregnancy have been fries and cake, so. Lol.

Also, if I ever see the HORMONES WILL MAKE YOU CRAZY HAHAHAHA thing one more time I might actually go ballistic. What a bitter dink of a woman.

maelic · February 2014

PS. I am really sad that I gave her blog more page views by clicking on that link. Really sad.

Ashleypixie · February 2014

That was so obnoxious! Gaining weight may be really tough I admit, but if I thought like this woman did I'd be institutionalized. She's too caught up in being FAT, and it's not very encouraging reading that and it's certainly not funny. And I'm revolted mostly by comments that perpetuate competition and jealousy towards other women. The way my body reacts to being pregnant, the amount of cookies I eat, or how often I work out (never), will EVER influence my attitude or behavior towards other women. We can be better than that.

Relish1025 · February 2014

I wasn't offended by it at all; in fact I got some minor chuckles out of it. Call me crazy, but I hate being pregnant. I do feel fat and ridiculous in my giant clothing. I also quite enjoy taco bell and oreos. I have not enjoyed this experience at all (minus some of the major-happy-inducing milestones like kicking and all that), and I'm just glad that someone else seems to feel the same way. To quote Elizabeth Banks from What to Expect When You're Expecting: "I'm calling bullshit. I'm calling bullshit on the whole thing. Pregnancy sucks."

thomas930 · February 2014

We all know that pregnancy isn't puppies and rainbows but this just irritated me.

I could barely bring myself to get past the fact that she calls pregnant people fat.

On top of the fact that I have absolutely no regrets about not having and epi during my births and that I'm actually really looking forward to another (hopefully) epi free birthing experience...like I'm excited for it to go through it again even though it's painful.

That's where I stopped so I can't even comment on the rest. She seems really bitter about something.

maelic · February 2014

Relish1025 said:

I wasn't offended by it at all; in fact I got some minor chuckles out of it. Call me crazy, but I hate being pregnant. I do feel fat and ridiculous in my giant clothing. I also quite enjoy taco bell and oreos. I have not enjoyed this experience at all (minus some of the major-happy-inducing milestones like kicking and all that), and I'm just glad that someone else seems to feel the same way. To quote Elizabeth Banks from What to Expect When You're Expecting: "I'm calling bullshit. I'm calling bullshit on the whole thing. Pregnancy sucks."

Uh, pregnancy sucks ass, absolutely, but not because of FAT. All capitalized, terrifying, hold-it-over-your-head FAT.

Because, you know, there's nothing actually wrong with being fat. Many women are fat before they get pregnant and maybe, just maybe, we should stop making it sound like such a death sentence.

Bluebird2318 · February 2014

Ugh. No, not even remotely funny. She does not have the style or technique to pull that kind of writing off without sounding like an enormous douchebag. Instead of being tongue-in-cheek she comes off as aggressive and annoying. From start to finish, the entire thing is just "YOU WILL HATE PREGNANCY OR EVERYONE WILL HATE YOU." Obnoxious.

Dixon813 · February 2014

Seriously?! Seems like SHE has some issues she needs to work out.

I wouldn't want to be her niece (or anyone else she's giving that "information" to)

MissWhis · February 2014

And she's supposedly a psychologist? That's the truly scary part.

I am having my first pregnancy at 37, eat ice cream every day, and haven't worked out since August. I don't feel fat and I don't feel like any other moms hate me. I almost feel sorry for this lady... what a miserable bitch.

Rogue237 · February 2014

I also think pregnancy has been overall miserable but this woman is super obnoxious and not funny at all.

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

I commented. I'd encourage you all to do the same, as bloggers live or comments. My comment is awaiting moderation, so I'll post it here for all of you in case she screens it out.

"Wow. I am glad you’re not my aunt. I know you were trying to come off as funny, but you sound really horrible. You seem to take a lot of glee in emphasizing the word FAT. one of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn, as a pregnant woman with (albeit small) body issues is that I am NOT fat. I am pregnant. 7 months pregnant, and gaining weight has been a big struggle for me, as in I’ve been struggling to put on weight. I live to be “FAT,” as you say. But even if my weight gain wasn’t a problem, I still wouldn’t be FAT, I’d be pregnant. My body is doing exactly why it needs to be doing, looking exactly how it needs to look, and that is a blessing. It’s not something to go slinging a fear-inducing, culturally shame-inducing term around about. Way to make pregnant women feel even worse about themselves.

And to that point, I do not have, nor have I ever had an eating disorder. But I know lots of women who have. And lots of them go on to one day get pregnant. I can see any of them reading this and having serious negative reactions to this post. Irresponsible.

Now, I’m sure you’re a nice person. I’m sure you had the best of humorous intentions when writing this post. And I’m sure you’ll continue to get positive feedback from loyal readers telling you how funny this was, and not to listen to the one nay-sayer. But I’d wager that for every positive comment there are five other women at their computer screens cringing, not able to make it past point number three. Why do I feel this is a safe bet? Because I was linked to your article by a group of women discussing how damaging and article it is.

I read Momny Blogs, and get the whole tongue-in-cheek, make fun of our circumstances writing culture that goes along with it. I believe you were trying to reach women with this article, but just think it fell a bit short of accessible. I’d like to encourage you to work on your satirical writing style, because this doesn’t come across as you may have intended. Instead of a lighthearted grand-aunt, you sound mean and heavy-handed."

Aaaaand now I'm seeing all the typos. Stupid iPhone.

Lindsay808 · February 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:

I commented. I'd encourage you all to do the same, as bloggers live or comments. My comment is awaiting moderation, so I'll post it here for all of you in case she screens it out. "Wow. I am glad you’re not my aunt. I know you were trying to come off as funny, but you sound really horrible. You seem to take a lot of glee in emphasizing the word FAT. one of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn, as a pregnant woman with (albeit small) body issues is that I am NOT fat. I am pregnant. 7 months pregnant, and gaining weight has been a big struggle for me, as in I’ve been struggling to put on weight. I live to be “FAT,” as you say. But even if my weight gain wasn’t a problem, I still wouldn’t be FAT, I’d be pregnant. My body is doing exactly why it needs to be doing, looking exactly how it needs to look, and that is a blessing. It’s not something to go slinging a fear-inducing, culturally shame-inducing term around about. Way to make pregnant women feel even worse about themselves. And to that point, I do not have, nor have I ever had an eating disorder. But I know lots of women who have. And lots of them go on to one day get pregnant. I can see any of them reading this and having serious negative reactions to this post. Irresponsible. Now, I’m sure you’re a nice person. I’m sure you had the best of humorous intentions when writing this post. And I’m sure you’ll continue to get positive feedback from loyal readers telling you how funny this was, and not to listen to the one nay-sayer. But I’d wager that for every positive comment there are five other women at their computer screens cringing, not able to make it past point number three. Why do I feel this is a safe bet? Because I was linked to your article by a group of women discussing how damaging and article it is. I read Momny Blogs, and get the whole tongue-in-cheek, make fun of our circumstances writing culture that goes along with it. I believe you were trying to reach women with this article, but just think it fell a bit short of accessible. I’d like to encourage you to work on your satirical writing style, because this doesn’t come across as you may have intended. Instead of a lighthearted grand-aunt, you sound mean and heavy-handed." Aaaaand now I'm seeing all the typos. Stupid iPhone.

=D>

avidkeo · February 2014

I couldn't get past the first paragraph:

"I’m excited about being a great aunt is because I get to share the truth about pregnancy with a complete neophyte"

How insensitive and rude can you be!!!! I can picture her rubbing her hands with glee at all the horror stories she plans on sharing.

Here is a tip for you lady, keep your mouth shut!

avidkeo · February 2014

@Biggerinreallife My bump crush on you just gets bigger and bigger!!!

I have noticed that she only has 7 comments since posting this in 2012.

I could almost guarantee you that because she moderates, anything she doesn't approve of doesn't get posted. So there may be several hundred comments telling her how awful and condescending her post is, but they will never see the light of day.

chirico3 · February 2014

@BiggerInRealife I really wanted to comment. I read the whole thing and I was speechless. At that point I had no idea how to formulate my disappointment.

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

avidkeo said:
@Biggerinreallife My bump crush on you just gets bigger and bigger!!!

I have noticed that she only has 7 comments since posting this in 2012.

I could almost guarantee you that because she moderates, anything she doesn't approve of doesn't get posted. So there may be several hundred comments telling her how awful and condescending her post is, but they will never see the light of day.

@avidkeo I didn't see that it was posted so long ago. I hope she gets those comments, but have to think that if she got tons of negative ones she'd have taken it down by now. The world may never know...

krazy6262 · February 2014

Wow.... This lady has some major issues! Yes, gaining weight is not the funnest thing to go through but the way she blames everything on "being fat" instead of being PREGNANT really urkes me. Oh and if you haven't gained as much as she'd like or if you're actually enjoying pregnancy then the rest of the women around the world will hate you...... Please /:)

@BiggerinRealLife Thanks for posting your comment on here 'cause I think she might've already deleted it.

cloudninemom2be · February 2014

Who says she is right, anyways? I could make my own list of "truths" about pregnancy and the readers can take it for what it may be worth. The first one...not everyone gains more than 25 lbs. My mother in law had 5 boys and gained less than 20 lbs with each child. #2 maternity clothes look great on pregnant women, just take a look at our HDBD threads! Skipping to #4..um...I still work out, and I know of quite a few of you that continue to do the same. #5..not everyone turns to the internet for advice...in fact, I ask my doctor about things that concern me, not google. #8..just because one person has an epidural doesn't mean everyone will. Unless she can read the future of every pregnant woman. #9, not going to get your body back? Haha...are you serious.. there are plenty of ladies that get their pre-preg body back, plus some. And #10..I do agree that there is no such thing as a perfect mom, however, there is such thing as being the best mom you can be, and in many eyes that is a perfect quality.

Maybe before writing such matter-of-fact statements she should do some research. This article doesn't help the soon-to-be first time mom...it only harbors fear, and in my opinion people that like to harbor fear of others are missing a thread of reality in their lives.

CalinAZ · February 2014

I think what is equally creepy to her obsession with getting FAT is her insistence that if you try to do anything that is remotely healthy (eat non-junk food, be active) people will hate you. And somehow that should be reason enough to push health aside and gain that 50 lbs she feels is inevitable. Because, you know, it isn't worth eating salads, even if they sound great to you, if other pregnant woman will hate you for it. Just give up and eat doughnuts all day.

It seems like she must have hated pregnancy and felt guilty about not having the pregnancy she wanted, so she feels the needs to try to convince as many people as possible to hate pregnancy as much as she did.

RocksInTheWater · February 2014

I have nothing to add that hasn't been said already. I also couldn't make it all the way through that piece of trash. It was extremely obnoxious. All I took away from it was you better as hell gain more than 25 lb or everyone will hate you. Grow up.

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