September 2014 Moms

Let's talk about sex baby!

I've heard about being super horny during pregnancy but I am just not interested in sex AT ALL. I feel nauseous at night and sex is the furthest thing from my mind. Anyone else feeling this way? DH is very understanding but I still worry. Any tips?

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  • I haven't been horny since I got pregnant last year at this time. It kind of sucks. My DH is not very understanding about it. I'm sorry, I have no tips, but I do know how you feel!

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  • I usually have a very high libido but since my BFP I have had very little interest. DH is too nervous since when we do I have light spotting and it stresses him out.
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    Thanks for the responses ladies! It's nice to know I'm not alone in how I'm feeling!
  • i read the title and said, ''What sex!" LOL, its been a while.... check the ticker!! between being nervous, the m/s, and DH wanting to ''be careful'' it hasn't happened.  :sad face:
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  • I don't even wanna be touched right now. Lol I loved sex when pregnant with Ds. I'm hoping wants this m/s goes away or I can get on zofran or something it will all change. I feel so bad for dh

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  • That didn't really kick in for me until the third tri and by then I was big and it was awkward... Enjoy it now while it's easy! I could probably skip it and not miss the actual act of sex but I start to miss feeling intimate with my husband if we don't have regular sex so I'm in the "take one for the team" camp!
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  • Horny yes....very!..... gonna have sex ... nope!!!!

    Now's the time for hand jobs and other creative outlets :) Sorry for the TMI
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  • I was thinking about posting the same thing! I don't feel like it at all but hopes come the second tri things will get better.
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  • No sex here! DH knows that I don't feel up to it, so he has been taking care of himself the last week or two.
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  • I usually have a low libido pre pregnancy due to out of whack hormones but this past Friday we came home early from work and I was ready. DH was surprised and happy of course. Maybe this is the start of my raging hormones! Lol!

       

  • Dude with my first pregnancy I couldn't get enough sex. And if DH want giving it up, id help myself out. It was ridiculous.

    Right now with this one, not at all interested.
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  • Meganz927Meganz927 member
    edited February 2014
    reverey said:

    My libido is starting to come back but unfortunately both times I've had an orgasm my uterus cramped to where it was REALLY uncomfortable and it freaked me out. I'm contemplating DTD to appease my DH but I soooo don't want to get off myself lol in fear of friggin hurting again...not worth it to me. Me best friend is also pregnant and a week behind me and she doesn't experience the sharp pain I do, just a little pressure...so each person is TOTALLY different.
    Do what's comfy for you and if you choose not to DTD with your DH...you always have lotion and your hand to help out! ;)
    Good luck!

    This is me to the T. I didn't want nothing to do with the deed, then suddenly this past week I've been all about it. The only thing is when I get the big "O" I cramp, and that doesn't feel good :( boo. Also the fact that I havn't spotted after has been a big plus! I know DH is in a much better mood since I've been the one initiating. :P
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  • I'm not interested at all.  I was spotting a lot for the first 8 weeks, and DH is afraid if we do anything, I'm gonna start spotting again.  Plus, he's been feeling kind of crappy too.  
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  • 2nd tri sex is supposed to be the best. You still aren't big, but you feel much better. I can't really say much either way, I wasn't into it the entire time I was pregnant with my daughter.

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  • Mostly I'm too queasy at night to attend to poor DH's needs.
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  • I am too tired and not interested. We have DTD only a few times since we found out. Hoping I get more energy and get excited about it again soon.


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  • I am so not interested now. I got very interested in my third trimester last pregnancy.. Up until a Month or so before DD was due when neither one of us was really feeling it. I think guys (at least mine) hear that women get horny during pregnancy and really look forward to it.. But not so true

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  • Birch113 said:
    Sex....sounds vaguely familiar but I just can't quite remember what that is.... :-) On the other hand, I've woken up from dream-gasms several times, which I'm totally ok with.
    Glad I'm not the only one. It seems like every other night I wake up from an orgasim. Odd.
  • I was thinking about posting the same thing! I don't feel like it at all but hopes come the second tri things will get better.

    How strange that we have such similar screen names! Everyone is gonna think we are the same person!
    I know right! Similar screen names and in the same month. Small world.
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  • Pelvic rest for me! Dr's orders. Totally not missing it!
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  • I think we've had sex once since my BFP.  I feel bad for MH, but I'm just exhausted at night and not feeling very well.
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  • I seem to always have a really high libido when I'm pregnant and its just starting to kick in this time around. I couldn't keep my hands to myself yesterday!!
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  • My nausea etc REALLY hasn't been that bad, but I've had a lot of bloating and my boobs hurt and all of that makes me feel like a total cold fish. It sucks.
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  • I have had virtually no sex drive, and am often having so many stomach issues that I can't even imagine taking one for the team most nights.  Also, his natural scent has started to stink to me, which further complicates things.  We have only done it a few times in 9 weeks.  It makes me feel disconnected from DH to not be very sexually active, especially since we were having such a fun time trying to conceive.  But DH has been very understanding and I am seriously hoping for a super horny second trimester.

    But I'm pretty jealous hearing about all these dream-gasms.  All my dreams that involve sex have been super disturbing, making me wake up and question lots of things.
  • DH and I have been trying to DTD at least twice a week once we got the BFP. He kept joking that now that he impregnated me, I don't need him anymore, which is so far from the truth! But, I have lately been less about getting my O, and more focusing on him, as I have the post-O cramping, too. Which naturally means he's all worried I'm not enjoying it -- really, I'm mostly enjoying being close to him and feeling protected in a way.

    Looking forward to feeling better about myself/less tired/less nauseated so we can have some fun again. :)
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  • Dear god my first pregnancy i was horn 24/7 now not so much. I really miss it so this morning we dtd. I wasn't really horn but it was nice to be close like that with dh.
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  • I havent been all that into it..but I havent put the brakes on when my husband has put the moves on me. Im the type where I might not be into it before hand but once it gets going I get into it. :-) We have always been a 1 or 2 times max a week couple, so I figure its not that big of a deal to go with it.
    Actually it seems like my orgasms have been pretty strong the last few weeks so I cant complain.
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  • I have NO desire for anything sexual. My poor DH hates it he seems to want it more now than before:(

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  • edited February 2014
    My DH has been more horny than usual since I became pregnant, so it's been hard on both of us. M/S, bloat, gas, and sore boobs really don't make sex that appealing. Sometimes I don't even want him to touch me because my boobs hurt so stinking bad! I give in every now and then, but the occasional spotting or cramps afterward make us nervous given our history.
  • I had to see the gyn recently they actually asked me if I was sexually active...I laughed. My response "um not recently at all but obviously at some point, yes." My poor DH I can count on two fingers how much he has got any since our bfp at the end of December. Where is this magical sex drive I keep hearing about?
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